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daenikoffre
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XP: How has having a baby changed the way you see the world?
daenikoffre
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I just posted this in 3-6, but thought I'd share with you ladies:
Everyone is someone's baby.
That's all I think now. It's the only way I can see the world.
I have twin brothers. They graduated HS yesterday. That didn't make me cry, but another kid did. And his mom. He was born with some sort of leg issue. He's been in a wheelchair his whole life. His dream was always to walk across the stage when he graduated.. and he did it.
He had a series of operations starting about a year and a half ago and he's been in physical therapy since then. They said he wouldn't be able to walk until next summer, but he did it. His mom and my mom are friends and they were crying together as he made his way across in arm crutches. Everyone cheered. My dad whistled one of those high-pitched annoying whistles with your fingers in your mouth, and every mother out there was in tears.
I wasn't even there to see it [they live in LA] but I'm still crying now!!
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Re: XP: How has having a baby changed the way you see the world?
Like you said - I have a lot more empathy for young people in general because I know they are someone's babies. I also cannot bear to hear stories of child neglect/abuse. They always bothered me immensely, but now I get more angry/sick/whatever when I hear them, and then I think about that child and half the time I have to stop myself from crying. It's just to hard to think about something bad happening to such sweet little beings. I also get more angry over injustices that I think may someday affect my boys.
A whole lot more empathy, I guess. I wasn't ever a self centered being, but now that I have kids, I think for their well being first, so it's taught me to think of others in such a deeper way.
I can't deal with tv shows that rely on crime for their plot. So if M is watching Criminal Minds, or the Mentalist, etc, I have to leave the room. And if they're loud, I have to leave the house.
Also, I'm more likely to accept help from strangers. A random guy saw me struggling to hold DD while carrying our CSA pickup in the rain, and he offered to take the box to my car, and I let him. When people offer to let me go ahead of them in checkout lines, I accept it. Things like that.
I've also become a different person at home than I am everywhere else, and not in good ways. But I'm working on re-changing that.
Mother's Day, 2011
Yep. You made me remember that I've even caught myself choosing not to jaywalk because I don't want DD to grow up with only one parent and nobody to protect her from a family full of crazy.
What about those of you with older kids -- does that get any better?
Mother's Day, 2011
I've never really been that way about myself, but I do find that I worry more about DH. If he's late coming home for some reason I immediately start picturing how awful it would be to be a single parent and what Will and I would do on our own.
nope!
Big E (6) & Little E (2.5)
Like Lotte, I don't really feel that way for myself, although I do take the stupid things people do while driving, mentally say 'what if DS was there and had run out into the street/been taken/gotten in the way/etc' and, again, find myself near tears. Not all the time - just on really fun days...