July 2011 Moms

Could your DH take paternity leave?

I'm just wondering how things work in the US.  Here in Canada, we get a yr maternity leave, which I could take all of (what we did with DD and will do with DD2), DH could take all of, or we could split somehow (both take 6 months, 9/3 months, etc).  I'm just curious if in your situation, your DH could take paternity leave.  Is it specific to his employer's plan?   Do men often take a leave when baby comes?

Here, I've only heard of three instances where the dad took any of the leave (and one has yet to happen, they keep pushing it back, so far just the mom has been off).  In another case, the mom was a SAHM after their first baby, so she wouldn't have received any pay for their second. Thus the dad took the 6 weeks that our employer tops up to 95% salary for.  

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Re: Could your DH take paternity leave?

  • DH's company does not offer any paternity leave.  He can only use his PTO if he wants any (paid) days off.
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  • MH is taking 2 weeks sick leave to be home 2 weeks before he'd have to start overnight travel again.  If I or LO has some unfortunate complications he could apply for FMLA (family medical leave act) or take another week of vacation time, but it'd be a real PITA to do so with his current job.  The US bites the big one on paternity leave even more so than maternity leave.

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  • Nope. DH doesn't even have PTO.
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    My DH did have paternity leave when he worked at a large consulting/accounting firm.  Four weeks I believe.  At his current job he doesn't get anything, he would just have to use his normal leave.  (They don't have maternity leave either though.)

    Luckily, due to the nature of his work he can work from home/make his own schedule.  He is only planning on taking one or two days off.

  • The Mr. gets 1 week paid paternity leave from his company. He is taking another week of vacation on top of that.
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  • My H is in the military so he gets 10 days of paternity leave.
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  • My DH gets 10 days paternity leave.  But we are both Active Duty Air Force


  • DH gets a week of paternity leave, which he has to use within 6 months of the birth. It is not connected to my employment at all.  It is also separate from his PTO.


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  • My DH could take 10 days, but it would cause him to be rolled back to the beginning of this phase of his training so that's not something either of us is willing to sacrifice. Instead he'll just take the day I deliver so he can be here, but return to work after that. Also, I'm not sure if the 10 days would be subtracted from his earned time off or not.
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  • Nope. He has to apply for FMLA. He plans to do that for 2 weeks. No pay. He has been working crazy overtime to make up for it and have some money saved for then.
  • I don't think your DH could actually take the *entire* year as ~15 weeks of that is technically "maternity" leave and the rest is "parental" leave. He could only share the "parental" leave with you.

    I'm in Canada too but DH is working as a post-doc now which is NOT insurable by EI. So he can't claim EI benefits and therefore can't share my leave :(

     

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  • H is covered by FMLA and he can take 12 weeks.  All unpaid unless he has PTO.  He is taking 4. 
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  • Here, in Luxembourg, I get maternity leave, I have to be the one who takes it so that's I believe 8 weeks before the due date and 12 after the due date. My DH gets a week or two off after the birth. After this I or my partner can take parental leave, there is an option of 6 months full or 12 months part time. At a later date the other parent can take 6 months or 12 months, I think this has to be before the child is 5. 

    After parental leave you can take 5 years off from your job for educational leave, your company has to take you back at the end in a position of the same level. During this leave the government pays you a small amount of money.  

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  • My DH is a police officer.  He can take time off, but needs to use either his vacation, comp time or sick days to get paid.  He is planning on taking around a week and a half, and will use vacation time as that has first priority in getting approved.
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  • No paternity leave for DH. He'll be using 10 days of PTO to stay with me after the delivery.
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    I don't think your DH could actually take the *entire* year as ~15 weeks of that is technically "maternity" leave and the rest is "parental" leave. He could only share the "parental" leave with you.

    You`re right.  I also have a friend who adopted, and apparently she only gets 9 of the 12 months, as the first three are considered `recovery from birth/delivery` and thus medical.  

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    In theory he could take 12 weeks of FMLA, but it's not necesarily paid.  With his employer he can take 2 weeks, plus any earned vacation time.  He'll take the week LO arrives, and the week when I go back to work. 

     He also has every other friday off all summer and the ability to work from home a lot, so he'll have the flexability to help out even when he's not off.

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  • DH is active duty military and he gets 10 days paternity leave. He also has a ton of leave days saved up so he could take that as well. He's in a transition phase right now with his job so he's off by noon everyday so he's going to take the 10 days but save his leave. Works out great!
  • He does not get paid paternity leave. He could take unpaid leave (FMLA) but we depend on his income so he will not be doing that.

    DH is planning on using his PTO and vacation time.

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  • Yes, in the form of FMLA (unpaid, 12 weeks).  He has so much vacay though he is just using that.  He is taking a week at birth and then two weeks after I return to work so he gets some bonding time with LO. 

    My brother gets paid paternity leave with his job and is taking 3 of the 6 he is entitled to.  His wife is going to be a SAHM though.

  • My DH's company offers 2 weeks unpaid paternity leave. But DH will take 2 weeks of paid sick leave and 2 weeks of paid vacation.
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  • Sort of - he is eligible to take the 12 weeks of unpaid time off per the FMLA and could use his PTO (sick/vaca/personal days) to get paid during some of those weeks. We have a feeling it would not be welcome news at his work even though legally they'd have to allow it.

    His employer doesn't have extra paternity leave outside of the federal mandates.

    He will probably take between 1-2 weeks off depending on when baby is born and how things go. And he will be using his vacation time to get paid for those days off. 



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  • Nope- DH is a chef, he gets two weeks paid vacation a year and can't even take them together because of coverage issues. He's taking one in a week just to relax before the baby and one when she comes.
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    Sort of - he is eligible to take the 12 weeks of unpaid time off per the FMLA and could use his PTO (sick/vaca/personal days) to get paid during some of those weeks. We have a feeling it would not be welcome news at his work even though legally they'd have to allow it.

     

    This. Not that we would want to go three months without a paycheck anyway (I'm a stay at home mom).

    That being said, his company is pretty family friendly and if he works a few of his days off before the baby gets here, they will likely just let him have some paid days off after she gets here. Either way, he's going to take a week off, whether it's paid or not.  

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  • We just found out that my fiance's company offers two weeks paternity leave seperate from PTO.  He works from home anyway, so I don't know if he'll need to take it since he will be home to help with small things and can still work flexible hours.  It is just nice to know that it is an option.
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  • My hubby gets one full week of full paid leave for baby.  He is going to combine that with a week of vacation.  He has a ton of time off since he works for a bank (once you get a VP title they dish out PTO like it is candy)
  • DH doesn't get any paternity leave but has saved up all his sick days/PTO so he can take 3 weeks off when DS2 arrives. His work doesn't like him taking 3 consecutive weeks off so they are kind of giving him crap about it, but he is covered under FMLA so they have to
  • It sounds like people are discussing 2 different things interchangeably.  Most people's husbands are probably eligible to take FMLA leave, but it is usually unpaid. Paternity leave varies company to company, and may be paid or not.  Most companies don't even offer any paid maternity leave in the U.S., so I can only imagine paid paternity leave is like finding a leprechaun.

    My husband is taking a month off.  It will be paid using a combination of sick time and vacation.  Most dads that we know seem to take off a week or 2.

  • DH gets 2 weeks of paid paternity leave.  
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  • My husband gets two weeks of paid paternity leave...oddly more paid leave than I get, which is none...lol. 
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  • My H's company offers paid paternity leave after you've been full-time for a year.  Since he had a three month trial period, he hasn't hit the year mark yet :(  He's taking two weeks of PTO instead. 
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  • I'm in Canada too, so yes he could.  I'm taking more than a year off, I went on sick leave 2 months before my due date so I might be feeling prettty bored 8-10 months from now, in that case I'd let him take the last 2 months.
  • In CA men and women get the same amount of family bonding time under the CA Paid Family Leave Act.  So DH gets 6 weeks off at 55% pay, he can take that time spread out over a year or all at once.  My DH is taking the first 6 weeks off to be home with me and the baby.  CA has pretty good maternity/paternity leave in comparison to most states. 
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  • imagenbbride06:
    DH gets 2 weeks of paid paternity leave.  

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  • DH COULD take up to 12 weeks if he wanted to (unpaid of course)....however, he will not.  Instead he is taking 2 weeks off and using vacation and other PTO  to "pay" for it.  His job does not offer paid paternity leave.  Just as my job does not offer paid maternity leave.
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  • My husband gets two weeks of paid paternity leave BUT it is only because his company is Dutch-owned. My dad works for a Australian based company and even though his office is in Hawaii and the rules are different- he capitulates and gave a guy three months paid leave and another woman six months of paid mat leave. He is such a softie when it comes to his employees, where was that when I was growing up?

     

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    My husband gets 10 paid days off a year. YOu can call them sick, vacation, PTO, paternity leave, personal day, whatever you want but thats it.  He has saved 7 of them.

     

    for the record, last year he only got 5.  His company sucks. 

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    He could do FMLA with no pay, but I don't think we could afford that. He isn't able to take any vacation during summer because his company sucks and they let all the senior employees take all 3 of their weeks at once, which means summer, spring break, etc are completely taken.
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