I am a FTM and was thinking the other day how much my perspective has changed after having DS.
Before I had DS, FI and I were thinking 2 kids max. (And during the last month of my pregnancy, I swore I'd never have another!!)
However, now that all is said and done, I'm definately thinking about having a few more now

How many were you planning before this LO?
And how many are you planning now?
Just curious!!
Re: How many LO's do you plan to have now??
Hehe I said the same thing you did too. I do want another child tho. We talked before we were engaged about someday adopting, so I'm open to either option. Guess we'll see once we decide to have another child.
wanted 3-4
had DS1, wanted only one more
now I have 2 and we're done. I got my tubes tied.
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I was planning on four before my losses.
Then I thought I would never get to have one.
And now I'm done. DH is not. It's something we'll have to figure out at a later time, we both at least agree that we need a break for the next year or so.
I never wanted kids after being around my niece, I know that's horrible, but it's true.
Then I got pregnant...LOVED being pregnant...LOVED L&D...So I said I'd have a million kids since it was so easy.
Then we hit terrible twos and threes and I said I never wanted another one.
And Last May I found out I had PCOS and endometriosis (at the age of 21) and probably couldn't get pregnant and decided I wanted to start trying.
After having a rough pregnancy this time, I still would like to try again. DH wants to try for a boy, and I'm not opposed to it. 4 is my max though.
Before DD, I had always said I wanted a big family, at least 4, max 6. I grew up in a big family, both my parents had big families, etc. Our niece already lives with us, so we have "two" kids. Now that my baby is here, I'll have ONE more, and even for that one, I'm thinking of adopting. I loathe pregnancy. LOATHE it. And I loathe this c-section infection recovery even more so.
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I used to want 6, but with one loss, my age, and K's IUGR, I think 4 might be it.
2 just isn't enoght for me. DH says 3 but I've always said that I don't like the number 3. I have cousins who come from families of 3 and they always fight. So I am sticking with 4 for right now.
I've always said two and that is still the case.
My pregnancies are horrible. I had 17 weeks of bed rest so I really have to plan going into it with #2..
Now, I would love to try sooner but with my complications having a baby and being on bed rest will be really hard so I'll wait until she is out of diapers al least.
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I wanted 3, DH wanted 2. While pregnant, I told him this was the only one he was getting lol. But as much as pregnancy, delivery, recovery, and even the newborn stage suck, it doesn't really factor into how many kids we want. We know all those stages are temporary and short lived in the long run.
We are already discussing #2, but I don't know if we will do 3. Sometimes I do second guess myself and think how nice only having one would be. I love LO and I feel like I'd like to just have one so I can spoil him more.
It's more about cost than anything else. I think about how much more expensive it is to go on vacation with 2 or 3 kids than just 1. Or how much ballet and karate lessons are for 1, and not 2 or 3.
Deep down I know I'll be sad with only one. I also think it's more important for LO to have a sibling and not be spoiled than it is for us to go to Disney World every year.
1 and done. Maaaaaaybe we'll foster/adopt one in the future, but that's open for discussion. I can't do another biologically b/c I have a genetic condition, am old and pregnancy is really hard on me physically.
You ladies that are wanting 4, 8, wowza, I couldn't do it!
I never had a magic number and I stll don't. We decided we'd wait and see.. If we both have a desire for another one, we'll go for it.
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And even though my pregnancy and delivery were both pretty amazing......I don't know if ever want to do it again.
Although I do really want a little girl.
I wanted to be done after 2 girls, H wanted to try *one* more time for a boy.
In a moment of weakness (= I was a drunk bridesmaid) I agreed we would "try" again. Wouldn't you know it worked the first time?
Turns out H's "last try" was another girl! We both agree that 3 is all we can handle, so this is IT!
Before getting pregnant I really thought that I wanted 4-5 kids. Now i'm thinking probably 3-4. I don't know if I could ever be the 2 kid type of person, so 3 at the very least.