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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
jdouglas84
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I wish we could TTC #2
jdouglas84
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I've been thinking about this for months - probably about the past 6-9 months, so I know it's not fleeting baby fever or anything. I would love to be able to try for #2 soon, I would love for DD to have a sibling fairly close in age. I am 2 years apart from my brother and 8 years apart from my sister. I remember always playing with my brother when we were small, and I wish we could have another one. I also absolutely love being a mom, and although I know it would be quite a handful having two little ones that young, I would absolutely love it.
Our plan is for me to go back to work FT in January, and DD to go into DC. We'll be able to save a lot of money once I'm back to work FT (just working PT right now). Our car will be paid off, but I will start paying on my student loans again (I still have 1 year of deferment I can use though). We aren't struggling with money right now, but more money would always be nice. I finally told DH a few days ago that I wish we were in a position where we could have another one; he said, well how do you know we aren't? But then in the same breath he's talking about how much money we can save when I go back to work, and he really wants to wait to TTC #2 when DD is in school full time (so we don't have 2 LO's in day care).
We haven't talked about it anymore, but I'm still bummed that we aren't moving towards TTC anytime soon. At first I thought it was just hormones or something when I started thinking about another one, but it's been so long now that I've been thinking about it, and when I finally told DH I actually feel worse. I think just acknowledging my feelings and telling him has made me think about it more the past few days, and just bums me out.
Anyway thanks for reading, I just wanted to get it out since I've been thinking about it so much lately.
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Re: I wish we could TTC #2
I am sorry you are feeling like this. It's hard when you have baby fever and your SO doesn't.
You didn't ask for advice.. try to think on other stuff and enjoy your LO for a while and then talk to your DH later.. or make a list of pros and cons of doing one thing or the other... and compromise in a healthy middle.
GL! I hope you feel better soon! {hugs}
Thanks for replying, yeah it was just more of a vent. I have been thinking of both pros and cons in my head (and he probably has too) but we just haven't had a big discussion about it. I know we need to soon just so we at least know where each other stands on the issue.
i know how you feel. I want to start TTC, and have wanted to start for awhile, but it is just not in the cards right now.
I lost my teaching job due to budget cuts and school closings and am looking for another one, so right now i need to focus on that. Hopefully in the next year or two we can work towards baby number 2.
A kiss he will never forget- Disney World 2014
Well one way to look at is that the cost for 2 in daycare is going to be the same overall either way. If you wait you will just have to pay for daycare for a lot more years. We aren't set up perfectly financially, but we can make it work with two in daycare so we decided we would rather cut our spending drastically when our kids are super little and we stay home a lot anyway than prolong the daycare bills for an extra 5 years and deal with having kids in two totally different stages of life. Plus we have all the latest baby stuff now and I would rather use it all and then get rid of it. If I waited 5 years I would probably feel the need to buy the latest car seat etc. and not reuse my stuff from DS as much.
I think we'll want more financial freedom when our kids are older and we want to take more vacations too. By the time both are in school we'll have a nice chunk of money that is no longer going out of our budget and I think we'll be able to catch up on our goals quickly.
Of course you everyone has to do what they are comfortable with, but if you really want them close together then that is one way to look at it.
This, I'm 5 years older than my sister and growing up we never played together we were at such a different place developmentally. That was one of the many reasons we decided to TTC right away. Easiest to get the baby years (and gear) done in one shot than the spread it out over the next 7-10 years. Plus, we are fortunate to have extremely flexible schedules so we haven't had DS in daycare (we have a nanny that comes for 8 hours per week). Don't get me wrong, it's tough - but I know I won't regret it and I'm super excited to have them so close in age.