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TTC after 35
solarflare
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Talked over our treatment and life plans with DH last night
solarflare
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in TTC after 35
So we had a long heart-to-heart and decided on a new plan. I don't know why but I've been dealing with a lot of the doc visits, diagnoses, etc. myself. He's been stressed at work, and I know this is illogical, but I know it's my fault, and I didn't want to add to his stress. Anyhow, I've been feeling bummed, scared about the HSG (wimpy I know), and watching one friend after another get K/U easily.
So I started tearing up at dinner last night and then everything came out (my fears, the reality of these diagnoses, etc.). I really wished we would have had this long talk sooner. He was 100% supportive, and behind me in whatever decisions I want to make, and helpful, and open. I am nervous about IVF because of the finances. We both have amazing interesting jobs but they are not high paying. IVF will be OOP and we will have to delay saving to buy a house again. It will just add to our car payment, student loans, and credit card bills (ugh!).
Anyway, our new plan is 1) HSG 2) Femara/Injectables/TI 3) Femara/Injectables/IUI 4) Injectables/IUI 5) IVF with a financed multi-plan cycle. We'll have break cycles and vacations in between...
We are both open to adoption and will consider this later on down the road because we'd love to bring a child into a good home.
I am also scared of injectables which I know I need to get over, but he said, "Don't worry baby, I'll shoot you up in the butt." So we are on board as a unit...and somehow I feel peaceful again.
I guess I just wanted to share...thanks for being here, ladies.
ttc since 2/2010 ~
me (36): Hypothyroid (on Levothroid), low vit. d, borderline/high fsh (day 3: between 7-10) (day 10: 13 during CCCT), AFC: 14
dh (31): awesome (minus one sample with agglutination)
Diagnosis:possible DOR and/or unexplained + elevated NK cells + MTHFR (C677T - one copy)
MAY 2011 - FEB 2012 - 3 injectable IUI's with numerous cancellations due to high TSH levels
MAY 2012 - onto IVF/ICSI (Antagonist Protocol) on BCP and Folgard (3 week delay - cyst - boooo) 5/21 start stims 5/30 ER 11R 8M 3F 6/2 3DT of 3 6/12 Beta #1 83 | 6/14 Beta #2 196 | 6/21 Beta #3 3818 | 6/28 Beta #4 22,213 | 7/2 1st U/S - 2 on board! 8/24 CVS reveals that we have a boy AND a girl on board!
Healthy baby boy and girl born in February, 2013 at 38 weeks and 2 days!
me (36): Hypothyroid (on Levothroid), low vit. d, borderline/high fsh (day 3: between 7-10) (day 10: 13 during CCCT), AFC: 14
dh (31): awesome (minus one sample with agglutination)
Diagnosis:possible DOR and/or unexplained + elevated NK cells + MTHFR (C677T - one copy)
MAY 2011 - FEB 2012 - 3 injectable IUI's with numerous cancellations due to high TSH levels
MAY 2012 - onto IVF/ICSI (Antagonist Protocol) on BCP and Folgard (3 week delay - cyst - boooo) 5/21 start stims 5/30 ER 11R 8M 3F 6/2 3DT of 3 6/12 Beta #1 83 | 6/14 Beta #2 196 | 6/21 Beta #3 3818 | 6/28 Beta #4 22,213 | 7/2 1st U/S - 2 on board! 8/24 CVS reveals that we have a boy AND a girl on board!
Healthy baby boy and girl born in February, 2013 at 38 weeks and 2 days!
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Re: Talked over our treatment and life plans with DH last night
Not to be a downer but most IVF with a financed multi-plan cycle have age restrictions so factor that into the mix. Better to research it now than be surprised later that you can't qualify for it. For example, my RE has a 3 IVF cycle package but you have to be under 38 to get it.
This entire IF thing sucks big time.
ETA: just saw in your siggy that you are 35. Should be good for a multi cycle plan then!
TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
DE IVF #3 1/14 ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d
DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!
K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days
SAIF/PAIF Welcome
http://waitingforraintostop.wordpress.com
Thanks for the info. MccIrish. That is not a downer. I know all of these things have restrictions and my failed Clomid Challenge might also be a problem. I think it's good to have all of the information at hand.
It does suck - there's no doubting. When your SO has to stick you in the butt to try and get pregnant, there is just something wrong about that. I hope we are all stronger for it in the end.
me (36): Hypothyroid (on Levothroid), low vit. d, borderline/high fsh (day 3: between 7-10) (day 10: 13 during CCCT), AFC: 14
dh (31): awesome (minus one sample with agglutination)
Diagnosis:possible DOR and/or unexplained + elevated NK cells + MTHFR (C677T - one copy)
MAY 2011 - FEB 2012 - 3 injectable IUI's with numerous cancellations due to high TSH levels
MAY 2012 - onto IVF/ICSI (Antagonist Protocol) on BCP and Folgard (3 week delay - cyst - boooo) 5/21 start stims 5/30 ER 11R 8M 3F 6/2 3DT of 3 6/12 Beta #1 83 | 6/14 Beta #2 196 | 6/21 Beta #3 3818 | 6/28 Beta #4 22,213 | 7/2 1st U/S - 2 on board! 8/24 CVS reveals that we have a boy AND a girl on board!
Healthy baby boy and girl born in February, 2013 at 38 weeks and 2 days!
Hi Solar,
I'm glad you and your DH are operating as a team with a mission and plan. IF is overwhelming, and feeling like you're facing it alone only makes it more so.
And, you're not a wimp. I was anxious about my HSG, and am starting to get a little nervous about having DH give me shots - I mean he can be pretty clumsy with his giant hands!
Good luck and keep us posted!
Me: 36, DH: 42
Dx: DOR and MFI
DH: low count + very low motility; hormones all normal; Sperm DNA Frag. test = poor to fair; male karyotyping normal
Me: FSH 13.4 + AMH 0.26 + hypothyroidism; Scratch the hypothyrodism (?); Blood clotting and immune panel all negative; endometrial biopsy normal
IVF #1 (MDLF - Jul/Aug 2011): BFN (9R, 5M, 3F with ICSI, 3dt of 1 10-cell grade 2, no frosties)
IVF #2 (EP-antagonist - Sep/Oct 2011): BFN (6R, 4M, 3F w/ ICSI, 3dt of 1 6-cell, 1 7-cell, grade 4s, no frosties)
DE IVF #1 (shared cycle - June 2012): c/p (6R, 6F w/ICSI, 3dt 1 8-cell grade A- and 1 7-cell grade A-; no frosties)
DE IVF #2 (shared cycle with new donor - Nov/Dec/ 2012): - BFP!!!!! 12/14/12. U/S on 12/27 shows twins!!!!!
SAIFW/PAIFW
I'm glad you guys had it out. Holding all of the crazy worry inside and taking it all on yourself isn't right.
I feel like my DH and I need to have check-ins every once in a while, to make sure we're still both on board for all of this. He tries to keep me from worrying, and I try to make sure he feels like part of the process.
And it's a good man who agrees to give you a shot in the butt! Sounds like you have a keeper.
3/11 Clomid-Ovidrel-IUI #1-progesterone= BFN.
5/11 Femara-Bravelle-Ovidrel-IUI#2-progesterone=BFN.
6/11 Femara-Ovidrel-IUI#3-progesterone=BFP!
Beta #1 7/1: 39. Beta #2 7/5: 301 U/S 7/19 - saw HB!!
EDD 3/12/12
DD born 3/5/12
Baby #2 Beta #1 12/16: 439. Beta #2 12/18: 1240
EDD 8/22/15