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How did you leave?
I've mostly just been a lurker on this board for a long time, but I have now reached my limit with my emotionally abusive husband and am finally ready to start my life over without him. We have a 4 month old son, and right now I SAH with him. I still have a job, but I'm on extended leave because we can't afford daycare and there is no way I can work and take care of DS at the same time. There's really no way I'll have a chance to save up any money - my husband has sunk us pretty deep into debt and I'm just not sure how to proceed.
For those of you who have been in a similar situation, how did you finally do it? What helped you get through? Thanks in advance, I just need some support and guidance.
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Re: How did you leave?
Financially it WAS difficult, but worth it. Eventually you will be entitled to CS. I literally had no money when I left XH. He had taken a check that my dad gave to me (for the sale of one of my calfs, we have beef cattle) and put it into his personal bank account. I actually emptied a huge jar of coins that XH had and used the $100 or so to get by for a little while. Plus my family helped me a lot. Do you have family support?
What helped me get through was my family and friends. They were wonderful. Now things are much easier and better.
Without my family I wouldn't have been able to leave. I left when DD was 3 months old... it was hard but I did it. I'm sorry you're going through this.
You CAN do it, when there is a will, there is a way. I left my child's father with a bag of clothes, and went to my mother's home in another state. I lost a lot of weight because I had no food or anything, but my mother had food for DS and I got back up on my feet. I'll be honest- its hard as hell, but would you have a year of hardship to be able to support yourself and your child, or submit your child to seeing and feeling you get emotionally destroyed? It takes such a toll on a child to see that. I had a terrible custody battle (they are all bad, lol), but I found a decent job, support myself, and am back in college.
If I can do it- YOU CAN DO IT TOO!
I'm sorry it's taken me so long to respond, but my H has been home the last few days so I haven't really been able to get on here. Thank you so much for the support and advice. It does really help me to put it into perspective. I agree that a year of hardship is totally worth not having to go through this or having my son go through this. In response to your question, no, I don't really have any family that is in the position of being able to help me financially, so I'm just trying to figure out what to do and where to go. The problem is, I have a bunch of things that I'd like to take with me and obviously we'd have to bring Liam's crib and dresser and all of his clothes. It just seems that the hardest part is going to be figuring out the details to finally make this happen.