Tell me about how you left a one month old for an evening and it was fine...

schmoodle · June 2011

I was never away from Toodle AT ALL until he was 2 months old, and then it was only for 2-3 hours a couple times, in each case, out of necessity. I did ok but it was still hard leaving him. Normally I would never even try to leave a one month old...BUT...Paul McCartney is playing at Wrigley Field next month. DH and I have been DYING to see him, waiting YEARS. Essentially, our bucket list consists of "See Paul McCartney live" and that's it. Last time he was here was 6 years ago and, frankly, he's getting up there, I don't know that we have another 6 years to wait.

So, I just got tickets. And am just going to suck it up and try to do it, but good lord does it make me anxious to think of being away from a baby that tiny, even if only for a couple hours (plan would be to drive her into the city with us for the concert, nurse her at my mom's (she lives only a few miles away from Wrigley), leave her with my mom, cab/train to the concert, back to my mom's to nurse again and drive home. I briefly considered just bringing her in the Moby and letting her sleep/nurse as needed but while I don't think it would be a rowdy concert, it will be loud and crowded and seems unsafe for a newborn.

Toodle is another story but worries me less. We can hire a babysitter or something if SIL can't watch him. Or could take him and hope the Ipad could keep him entertained.

So, tell me how you survived...Will I make it? (This all, of course, assumes a healthy baby at home with us then. Fingers crossed).

OrangeSmoke · June 2011

I have no advice because I'm unhealthily attached to my babies. But I wanted to tell you that a friend of mine married a die hard UNC fan. She's been bringing her baby to basketball games since he was a month old and the baby does wonderfully. So if that turns out to be what you have to do, I don't think it'll be all that horrible.

keg · June 2011

It will be fine! I had to leave my 5 day old with a neighbor for several hours to get my other DD from the NICU and everything worked out great. Honestly at that age I feel it's easier to leave them because as long as someone who can take care of their basic needs, it's all good. I think the toddler drama is worse. :-) Go and have a great time!!

marcuej · June 2011

In my experience, it was way easier to go and do things the 2nd time around. I wasn't nearly as nervous or anxious with Hadley as I was with Stella. I think you'll be fine. She'll be well taken care of by grandma and it's only a couple of hours. You and your DH will have a great time!

KYRN · June 2011

I don't really think it would be a huge deal to take her, but I would leave her with your mom. I went to the Kentucky Oaks 4 weeks after DS was born, huge day at the race track the day before the KY derby (DH and I go every year). I was literally gone all day long (well 7 hours I think). My mom was at our house with DS so I knew he'd be fine. I took a manual pump and it ended up breaking so that sucked but other than that DH and I had a great time. It was really important to DH otherwise I would have been ok to skip that year, so I did it for him.

I also was gone all day the day before to the track (just me and my cousins, we also do this every year). DH stayed home with him then, I wouldn't have wanted him with sitter 2 days in a row like that. The first day was harder than the 2nd but it was something that I would have been really sad to miss so I think that made it easier.

Go and have fun, everything will be fine.

PhillySue · June 2011

I had a wedding when Katie was a month old (I was a reader other wise I would have skipped the ceremony). I was really stressed about and it ended up not being to bad. I nursed her and then went to the ceremony. I came home after the ceremony nursed her and then went to the reception. I was away from her for probably like 5 hours? She was with my MIL and did fine. As long as you can feed her or pump at some point it should not be an issue. I am all for taking the baby with you everywhere (took K to a Phillies game at 2 1/2 months) but I think a concernt would be kind of loud. Good luck!! Enjoy the concert, you (and baby) will be be fine.

CMM05 · June 2011

Well, I guess I should preface this by saying that I don't have issues leaving the babies With both boys we had a night out when they were less than a month! With this one......I am already planning a night out ASAP...ha ha

You will be FINE! So.....will the baby I think it is easier to leave the babies since they don't know what is going on anyways

The concert will be amazing! Definitely go! Don't miss it

You will both survive.....promise

charmcitygirl · June 2011

My birthday was a month and 5 days after Jacob was born. DH and I went to dinner and to a movie - so about the length of time you'll be at the concert. And he was totally fine. I left a TON of BM with my mom in case he got fussy and he was already taking to a paci by then, so there was that.

Enjoy the concert and know that she'll be in great hands!

kme930 · June 2011

You will do fine! So excited you get to go to that concert!!

Cajun_gal · June 2011

There's no way I'd bring a 1 month old to a concert with that big of a crowd, but I would definitely leave the baby with my mom to watch for a few hours. I was a lot more laid back with DS2 than DS1 and would have been fine with that. Go and have fun! It's just a few hours, she'll be fine.

superned · June 2011

I left DD at my mom's while DH and I went a wedding when she was 18 days old. I couldn't believe I even considered it, but they were very close friends getting married and it was only 20 minutes from my parents' house. We were gone for a little over three hours.

Everything was 100% fine! I nursed her before I left and went out to the car and pumped after dinner and before dancing. My parents literally just held her and stared at her the entire time - she probably didn't even notice I was gone.

queenbone · June 2011

I went to an evening baby shower when DS1 was around 5-6 wks old. I left him with DH and it was fine; I even had one tiny cocktail at the party. I think your plan to leave her with your mom is perfect. Could you not leave your son with her too? I'd imagine the concert is late enough that he could go to sleep and spend the night with your mom? Or if he transfers well you could bring him after the concert when you pick up the baby.

My experience with taking a baby some place loud was to a college football game when he was 6 weeks old. I was surprised that he nurse napped through the whole thing, even with all the loud horns going off. But that was in the middle of the day. I don't think I'd take a newborn out at night like that.

ladychicago · June 2011

Do it! We left Anna when she was 4 weeks old for 3 hours or so for our 5th anniversary dinner. We left her with someone we trusted with lots of newborn experience, I had already introduced bottles, and she slept most of the time anyhow. It was totally fine. I would do it again. And it is Paul McCartney at Wrigley!!!

BubbleToes · June 2011

We saw PM the last time he toured and it was not a rowdy show at all. As long as you have seats I would take the baby with you.

Temp848906437505510 · June 2011

You will be fine! I had to leave Alana for a whole day when she was 2 weeks old. Sadly, it was for a family funeral, not something as fun as seeing Paul McCartney! I had a cousin killed in a hit and run accident, so, it was a very sad, emotional funeral, and it wouldn't have been appropriate to bring the baby and I really felt that I needed to be there. So, my aunt came to my house and watched her from 7:30 in the morning until 5 at night. Sure, it was tough and I called a number of times, but, I got through it and so will you!

laura1 · June 2011

We left my DD when she was just over a month to go to a baseball game. We had really good seats, and wanted to go on a date We were only really gone for a couple of hours and everyone was fine - they stayed at our house with my parents. DD had one issue because she had never had a bottle before and couldn't figure it out, but we were home pretty quickly after and she just nursed when i got home.

But it was really good for our sanity and we had a nice night Go for it!

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