where's my mojo?

kimoly · June 2011

Hey ladies!

Anyone else feeling like they've lost their mojo? I think it's a combo of not feeling that sexy (still got baby weight to lose, plus that c-section soft tummy issue), being tired (duh, new baby), and the fact that I usually go to bed before DH (he does the final feeding and putting LO down, then he usually unwinds with some video games...) I know in my head I should just put on a cute nightie that covers the belly, realize I will get the energy midway through most likely, and pull DH away from his remote control, but it's difficult to even care enough. I used to have a great sex drive! Anyone else? Is this temporary? I mean, it's not like we never, but really not much...

pomrom · June 2011

Its different for everyone. I know that I get my drive back very quickly after having a baby but there are times when I just don't feel like putting in the effort. I know that when I am lacking on sleep, that seems to be a big factor for me. And usually dh picks up on my lost mojo and lets me come around... not having that pressure is nice (him asking and me turning him down then him getting pouty about it) and usually I end up catching him off guard with my drive boost.

I hope that makes sense.... it does in my head.

I know that something that helps me/us is to make sure we time some time for us. We don't get out much with having 3 kids but sometimes even just watching a movie together after the kids are in bed is nice and just what we need to reconnect a bit... like snuggles on the couch during the movie and it usually leads to something else. lol

GracieMaeLovey · June 2011

It's the thought that counts, right?! I hear ya, I definitely don't think that you're alone...our entire lives have been flipped upside down. DH gave me some crap about a month ago for not initiating, etc. and I will say since then I've stepped up my game and am more into it than usual. Did you start a new BC? Do you drink? Have a glass of vino to help you get into mood. Not that we plan it, but if I'm thinking it's going to be a sex night, I'll think about it during the day or send DH a dirty text and that helps...and solidifies it, too!