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Mysterious_wife
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Allie is not taking the move well
Mysterious_wife
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Today she came home from my mom's and went to her room. My dad came to get her for their monthly dinner date and she wouldn't come out. I go in her room to find her sitting in the floor sobbing. It was a quiet sad cry. She had tears just streaming down her face. She walked over to me and wiped her tears on my shirt and begged me to let her stay in her Tennessee house.
I broke down. I don't know what to say or do. I have been trying to make moving fun and making games out of it. I am letting her pack boxes and help.
Any advice?
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Re: Allie is not taking the move well
You could try to tell her about all the great things that will be at/near the new house.
I believe you mentioned that your mom was pretty upset about the move, do you think it is possible she was talking to Allie about it and that is what got her so upset? (Holy run-on sentence Batman)
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We moved when I was young, and I remember trying to plead the same thing with my parents. (I was a little older than Allie at the time though.)
What really got me excited was my mom taking me shopping and letting me pick out things for my new room. After that I couldn't wait to get there and set up my "dream room". It made me less upset about loosing my old bedroom, because I knew my new one would be awesome.
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Rylee had a hard time with our move a few months ago. She is still adjusting and is worried we will pack up and move again but its getting better. The one thing she loved though was getting to pick out stuff for her new room. She got a new rug, some wall stickers, and and a new princess bed set.
When we got here her room was the very first thing we got all the way done. We tried setting everything up as close to nrmal as we could but her room is smaller now. Just stay possitive momma! Its hard but it will all work out.
Aw I'm so sorry. I'm scared that Em is going to react the same way.
I still remember moving when I was 6 and I was devestated. I remember standing in my driveway crying because I had to leave my friends and my house and I was so angry with my parents for making me leave.
I hope you find a way to help her get used to the idea of moving. Good luck.
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Maybe make something like an advent calendar for moving? Bags with numbers that count down the days 'til the move, each bag has a little trinket (think $1 bin at Target) & the last one has something bigger, a toy to play with in the car, or something for her new room.
Get a small suitcase & have her pick out her favorite things & pack them there, so that she can keep those things with her instead of having to put them in boxes.
Give her a disposable camera or two (or three!), & let her take lots of pictures of everything she wants to remember from this house (her room, friends, etc.). Tell her that once you get to the new house, you'll get them developed & buy her a nice album to put them in, that way she'll have them to look at whenever she wants.
See if you can get ahold of some tourist brochures from the area & let her look through them, then maybe cut & paste pictures of all the places she'd like to go. Plan on going to, say, one attraction a month once you move, & let her choose what order to go in (unless it would mean going to a water park in January!). Maybe she could make a calendar with a picture of each place she'll go to that month?
You could have her pre-make some postcards out of cardstock, some for her, some for friends/family (go ahead & put stamps (& address, if you know it) on them, so that way all they have to do is write a little note & drop it in the box). That way she can look forward to sending & receiving once you move. Decorate with stickers, stamps, markers, whatever.
Moving is almost always rough for kids. We moved A LOT when I was growing up, & I remember bawling every time. But once we got to the new house, excitement would take over. Just keep telling her that it will be okay, that once you get there, she'll see how nice it is, she'll make friends, etc.
Oh, & lots of ((hugs))