just needing to vent!!!! ahhh!!!

Re: just needing to vent!!!! ahhh!!!

• lr78

  June 2011

  I know you're just venting... but in my experience, all (yes, I know there are perfect ones out there, but I don't know any)  husbands are a bit annoying during pregnancy.   They just don't... and there is no way they can fully "get" what we're going through.  

   I want to shoot mine.... I still have a crowded, messy office... and no nursery... and I'm 35 weeks tomorrow.   

  Hope your day gets better!
  

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• AWRIGHT

  June 2011

  thank you so much for letting me know my husband is not the only one like this:) If i lived close we could bust out your nursery in a day!!:) I think i am in that nesting stage lol. Thanks  and i hope you have a great day too.:)

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• sharinfaith member

  June 2011

  i know exactly how you feel!! if i'm told one more time that it's my hormones that are making me this way, i'm going to freak. even my best friend says stuff when i vent to her about it. 

  like i don't have feelings?? sure, those feelings may be intensified by my hormones, but i still have the feelings none the less.

  i have at this point begun to ignore what SO says about it. he found a small business to start and has been consumed with it. i am grateful : ) 

  

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• panucci1314 member

  June 2011

  My H sometimes gets caught reading What to Expect when Expecting lol and it talks about manecal(spelling?) mood swings in pregnancy. So everytime I get upset or yell at him. He says this must be those manecal mood swings I read about, they come back in 3rd trimester. I want to kill him when he says this! I reply no, you are just annoying me pregnant or not you get under my skin!

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• linzica member

  June 2011

  when we got pregnant I told H, "it's for me to say when I'm being hormonal, not you. If you say it, there will be problems."

  So far we haven't had any problems. When I came home from a hellish commute one day and cried on the couch, he did not say a word about hormones even though we both knew they were to blame.
  

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• moose1178

  June 2011

  You're just getting the "nagging" comment now?  I've been getting that for a while.  I always just respond with "if I was such a nag then why has 12 weeks gone by and it is still incomplete?" OR "if my nagging is so annoying to you than just do it already".  It's not like I like to nag, just get it done, jeez! 

  Mine knows better than to say that I am hormonal because I will give him 57 reasons why it is not that I am pregnant why I am upset but that it is really him that made me upset and to stop trying to pass the buck onto that it is a problem with me and my being pregnant.

  MEN!

  

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• AWRIGHT

  June 2011

  This is what im talking about!! Bless all of you ladies for letting me know that its not just me!!

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• KendraJoette member

  June 2011

  lr78:

  I know you're just venting... but in my experience, all (yes, I know there are perfect ones out there, but I don't know any)  husbands are a bit annoying during pregnancy.   They just don't... and there is no way they can fully "get" what we're going through.  

   I want to shoot mine.... I still have a crowded, messy office... and no nursery... and I'm 35 weeks tomorrow.   

  Hope your day gets better!
  

  Thank God Im not the only one that isnt even close on my nursery yet...

  

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• kenziandnick

  June 2011

  Thank you guys for putting this on here!  I fixed/packed my hubby's lunch this morning while he stood and watched without loading any of "my stuff" (our unborn's curtains and bedding I'm making) into the truck.  I go over to my parents' during the day since I have been having contractions for about three weeks and I am to be induced first round of meds about 6pm Thursday and second (pitocin) Friday 7am.  Anyway, I hand him his lunch "Thanks," then turns and walks out to the truck.  Nice!  So I load everything up myself and we get over to my parents- he freakin' unlocks their door, moves it open 2 inches, (my arms full of stuff, his empty) and pecks me bye on the cheek.  I was so mad I about lost it when he asks if I could "take care of the dogs today" over his shoulder on the way out the garage door.  Sure, yeah babe, I don't mind taking care of the dogs you ruined by letting them jump, chew, pee anywhere they want, run into people, etc... Nope I sure don't mind all that chaos in the last few days of pregnancy, and Nooooo probably nowhere near dangerous for my health or your daughter's health.  I'm sure it's only my hormones making me feel like you're an inconsiderate @$$hole- really the only hormonal part of the whole thing is how I can't remember why I married you, I am sure there was a reason, but the hormones are keeping me from remembering!  OH and to top it all off- he gets back to my parent's house after work tonight and is being rude (I know he's tired and hot from work today, but seriously... I was trying to figure out how to sit on the floor and finish sewing/pinning/designing all this crap for his child!)  And he starts a fight with me, where I proceed to tell him how it hurt my feelings what happened this morning, and that I don't think I should be taking care of the dogs if they're going to act the way they do.  My dog was not perfect, but he knew how to mind and he was my little love who I JUST lost 3 weeks ago (the same day our roommates decided to skip out on us) and he says, "Your dog only acted as good as he did because of ME and the way I train dogs!"  How dare you ever say anything so offensive to someone about their best friend they just lost, let alone when it could send 'em into labor from MORE stress!!!!!  I burst into tears (couldn't be from anything but the d*mn hormones, right?) and told him to go outside "out of my face" which I repeated until he finally went out there hollering and muttering on the way.  I am so mad I might seriously ask him to go home without me while I stay here and work on baby stuff since I seem to be the only one caring right now about how this is affecting our unborn child.  I swear I never knew how much of an ass my husband could be until the last few months of this pregnancy!  I actually thought he was sweet before...
  

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• jerilyn&dave

  June 2011

  Yeah...mine decides to help me put together stuff AFTER I've already given up waiting for his 'in a minute' and started (or nearly finished) a project.  Makes me want to wring DH's neck sometimes, but he does try to help at least...erm... eventually. Oyes.

  

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• jerilyn&dave

  June 2011

  linzica:

  when we got pregnant I told H, "it's for me to say when I'm being hormonal, not you. If you say it, there will be problems."

  Lol! love this...I'm so quoting you if he says it again.

  

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• AWRIGHT

  June 2011

  to add to all of my hubby telling me constantly that i am being the biggest hormonal "B"..i have people telling me how f'n huge i am!! What is it with people..Do they seriously loose that filter with pregnant women?! So my days thinking..im huge and a hormonal "B"!! But life is good..i am going to write all this down to tell my daughter what not to put up with and tell my son..DONT EVER ACT LIKE YOUR DADDDY!! AHH i feel better

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