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Annya26
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Its MY body, leave me alone! (vent)
Annya26
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Let me start this by saying that I am notorious for having horrid eating habits. I'm talking living on donuts, chocolate bars and cookies alone. I'm not over weight, maybe a tiny bit pudgy, but always have been in good shape and stayed active. I always planned to take 6 months before getting pregnant to adjust my diet and get healthy, but I didn't have a chance to do that since this was a HUGE surprise.
Since finding out I have started eating veggies, lots of salads, only drink water, healthy juices and homemade smoothies and have been doing my very best to eat well (and learn to cook!). I haven't had a ton of cravings but I have had a lot of aversions including to most sweets and all chocolate, and the cravings that I do have are usually for things like watermelon or chicken. Taking prenatals as well as b12 and iron every day and generally just finding that nothing sounds good.
My family is amazing and I love them, but they are driving me NUTS. Apparently now that I am pregnant they think that I should be eating only veggies and nothing but. They don't seem to realize that I still need things like protein and calcium and even fats. It feels like every time I pick up anything even remotely unhealthy they scold me and I am SO sick of it. Just now my sister and I were on the way home and I have been craving McDonalds nuggets for two days so I asked her to pop through the drivethru. She says no and then proceeds to tell me that I eat too much garbage in a really mean tone. Being hormonal I had to fight back tears so I didn't look like a moron but I was so mad - she has no idea what it is like to be starving but feel like you are going to be sick at the same time and have NOTHING sound good to eat. On top of which I just watched her eat a whole pack of cinnamon buns and a pack of mini eggs 20 minutes before, so although she's not preg. I really don't think she should talk!
Is anyone else dealing with people being judgemental already? I am so frustrated and just want them to back off but I'm having trouble being able to find a way to tell them to leave me alone without coming across as nasty... I know they mean well but don't they know better than to mess with a pregnant chick and food?!?!?!
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Re: Its MY body, leave me alone! (vent)
so sorry, that sucks! people can be so annoying!
mine are the complete opposite... i was dieting previous to my bfp, and i am still being careful about what i choose to eat.. it seems like when i say no to a brownie, they all yell and me and tell me the baby needs food. its the most annoying thing! im always like, yeah.. but it doesnt need that kind of food. i dont plan on using my pregnancy as an "excuse" to pig out, but it seems that when i turn down ANYTHING, i get scolded and told to stop starving my child.. which im NOT. TRUST ME. i eat, im just being selective about my choices to maintain my weight so when i DO want the brownie, i can enjoy it. most of my extended family is very much overweight and dont see an issue with it, and i dont plan on having that lifestyle or raising my child in that lifestyle
good luck with your family. go enjoy some chicken nuggets and dip them in whatever sauce you want too!!
You know, there's being careful and there's being ridiculous. You're absolutely right, the baby does need more than just veggies. It's a growing kid, made of all sorts of stuff. You don't want the baby leeching too much of your proteins (which will come from your muscles) or calcium (which comes from your bones). The fat will give you extra energy. So you're totally justified to indulge every once in awhile. I think you're on the right track. So your choices are either to confront them and tell them to lay off (stand up for yourself!!!) or be around them less when you eat.
I'm personally selective about what I eat because I'm scared to death of diabetes, and when I snack I try to rely more on crackers, fruit, and cheez-its (I loooooove the cheddar jack kind!). But now that you mention it, I really want some nuggets and a brownie....
I would have cried too. It really is the WORST feeling to be so starving you're sick and not want ANYthing to eat. ugh.
And your family would have a field day with me! I am seriously having food aversions to almost all veggies. I normally love them but right now I can't even look at or smell them. Sounds like you're trying to get your habits to be better. I hope you keep it up!
Thanks everyone!
I'm sure its at least 50% hormones but frustrates me and hurts my feelings when they talk to me like that. As if I don't care about this tiny little critter in my tummy - when its ALL I can think about 24/7. I'm truly doing my best and have totally cleaned up my eating habits, but I don't think a nugget here or there will hurt lol.
Definitely! A few family members have given their bits of advice or say "you can do it" "stop whining" I just "try" & let it go in one ear & out the other, they all tell me to eat healthier but I eat whatever I can get down w/out vomiting. I remind them that they weren't the happiest and at their best when they were pregnant.
I always joke with people that instead of having one sweet tooth, I have the whole set of sweet teeth! I LOVE my sweets. I'm a little pudgy too, but I do like my good foods. Same as you, since getting pregnant I've been craving the healthy stuff with aversions to the "bad" stuff. At a BBQ on my husbands side a few weeks ago I asked DH for a small piece of chocolate cake. His uncle loudly says "You're gonna be as big as a house eating like that!" My mother also decides to input her opinion over the phone (she's 1000 miles away) telling me that I'm going to have gestational diabetes and preeclampsia, and gain a TON of weight (I'm on week 10 and haven't gain a single pound).
Although no answer is going to get rid of ALL the comments I do make sure that I bring up my cravings for fruits and veggies in conversation, in a general way. When people say "How are you feeling?" I love saying "I feel like this child is going to like fruit because that's what I've been craving!!" Don't be afraid to get a little pissy with people though. I craved a Big Mac (I don't really like them in a non pregger state) for two days. Finally gave in and I got a lot of flack. I just said point blank. "I did everything I could to make sure the baby didn't need something else before getting the Big Mac. If you have an issue, talk to my nutritionist."
Just remember that at heart everyone has your health and the baby's in mind. They just don't have the greatest tact when it comes to expressing it. They aren't with you 24/7 and don't see everything you put in your mouth. Feel free to thank them for their concern and let them know you are being healthy. Then, if they still don't get it. Remind yourself that it's their issue, not yours. Them stressing you out is much worse than the occasional Chicken Nugget from McD's.
This.
Plus, they've got 6 new sauces to dip those sweet little nuggies into. Hellz yeah!
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Other people tell me all the time how they drank coffee 10x a day and wine every night and their kids are fine. People love to give their opinion. I just ignore them. Eat nuggets if you want nuggets....now that you mention it, I think I want some nuggets too....
How aggravating! Tell them all to just F off. Focus on eating healthy BUT having a brownie now and then will not cause you or your baby to be obese.
I have an immense love for all things sweet, and I have decreased my sugar intake quite well, increased my veggie intake, and fortunately am craving fruit all the time. I am also currently (and always have been) at the ideal weight for someone my height. I've been able to enjoy eating mostly anything I like and stay at the same weight as I am very active. Unfortunately, my husband, who eats very little sugar and always maintains a very healthy diet, feels the need to preach about gestational diabetes every time I reach for anything with sugar in it. He can't wrap his mind around how I have made positive changes in my diet, and that enjoying a non-vegetable related craving a few times a week will not cause GD, obesity, or extemely poor health in general for me or the baby.
It is so frustrating! If they are really getting to you, just eat the stuff when no one is with you. Then at least you can enjoy it in peace!