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Really? Already? MIL/Baby naming rant

Married2MrWrightMarried2MrWright member
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So J went to see his mom on Sunday. She was in the ICU on June 3 and nearly died. But she healed quickly (she had a viral infection in her lungs. She has COPD so that took her down fast)...and was sent home on Saturday. We've told immediate family members that we're PG, so she's known for a couple of weeks. She begged to tell her sister, since it's her "only joy in life." So we agreed.

Anyway, J is visiting his mom and his aunt is there on Sunday too. He said they spent over an hour discussing potential baby names (well...telling him what we should name the baby.) Apparently the best option is to name a son Stepfather's Name Father's Name. WTF? First of all, as lovely as J's stepfather is, um, he and his mom were married when J was 15 and has never "raised" J, ever. He's super nice and all, but yeah, not his "fatherly" figure at all. But we should name our only son, if this is a boy, after him? Of course MIL says this INFRONT of SFIL, which made J feel awkward at best. Then she throws in J's dad's name for the middle name. J says, "what about Lori's dad?" Silence. I think at that point J got them to change the conversation. She's already pressed for our son to be named after J, which we've both promptly rejected (J HATES his middle name, Jason, and thus, his childhood nickname J.J.). Plus it's just not our style to have a junior in our family.

Ugh. I am so annoyed. I know I shouldn't be...they can talk until they're blue in the face about names...we're going to name our kid what WE choose, but still. Really?! You've been near death and in the hospital for a week and the best topic of conversation is what we should name our baby? I am SO glad I wasn't there.

Am I just being a crazy, hormonal PG lady? *rant over*

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  • kkaupukkaupu member
    Sorry to hear that! For some reason whenever there's a pregnant person, people feel it's their right to sound off on names and everything else. People gave Dh & I a hard time when we were coming up with names during both pregnancies. And now that DD#2 is here, my MIL is already asking if we're going to try for a boy. It never ends. Just try to remain calm and let them talk all they want. The baby is yours. Hang in there!
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  • HulaLoveHulaLove

    I don't think you're crazy!  Hormonal maybe, but that's to be expected :)

    I don't understand why parents/in-laws ever think they have any say over naming/parenting their grand child.   

    I too find it very irritating when my MIL has opinions about anything to do with pregnancy or parenting.  For me I know it's hormonal because it's more intense lately and nothing has changed except me.  Doesn't make it any less irritating though :)


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  • redshoegirlredshoegirl member
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    I don't understand why parents/in-laws ever think they have any say over naming/parenting their grand child.   

    This. It's SO weird. Also why we flat out told our parents - especially Ben's - that we were picking names, and that we were not telling until the boys were born. His parents could suggest until they were blue in the face, but we'd just smile and say, "We will decide, and you'll find out when they're born." So the name game got boring for them pretty fast lol!

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  • MrsNJSwimmerMrsNJSwimmer member

    I'm annoyed by it too! lol then again, I'm PMSing, so also hormonal. 

    After telling people his name while PG, I totally understand all the reasons why people keep it to themselves until the baby is born.

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  • mrspresleymrspresley
    I think it's fine and dandy if she wants to throw out suggestions but if she starts becoming adamant or pushy about it, then I'd start to get a little upset.  just think of it this way...your kids are her "only joy in life" so of course she would want you to name your child after her beloved second husband :)  is it ridiculous? sure, esp if they were never close and he didn't even raise J.  but of course she doesn't see it that way! I'd just try to not let it get to you.
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  • vanceandlorivanceandlori

    Yikes. Baby names are such a sensitive issue and I nixed so many names because of feedback from parents & friends. Names that I look back on and still love.

    I think you have to let that kind of stuff roll off your back (at least that's what I would try to do) and just smile and nod when they put their input in.

    I do like that J sticks up for you though :)

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  • cecigcecig

    The mere fact that they are going on and on about a boy's name when you don't even know the sex yet is a bit much!

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  • Married2MrWrightMarried2MrWright member
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    The mere fact that they are going on and on about a boy's name when you don't even know the sex yet is a bit much!

    Seriously. God forbid we're blessed with another GIRL and don't have a son at all.

    Thanks to everyone who has replied here...I know I have to let stuff like this roll off my back. At the end of the day WE get to chose, not them, but it is SO irritating to have it even be a topic of discussion, since it's not open anyway.

    We have one boy's name selected from when we were PG with Libby. And a few girl names, but nothing we're totally thrilled with, just yet. Gladly there's 7 months to iron it all out! LOL!

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