is having a second as much fun as the first?

MrsRyan61804 · June 2011

I want to have another baby for many reasons, but one of the reasons is I want to get to do this again. But as I sit here playing with Jack I realized that having another one will be nothing like this. I will never get to do this over again. Next time nothing will be the same. I imagine the excitement and anticipation isn't the same when you are pg with the 2nd. I will also be so worried about splitting my time up between two children, not to mention exhaustion times 2.

So convince me that having another is fun, because I am starting to wonder if I really want to have another.

itsmevkb · June 2011

You get to see your two children interacting together and trust me, there is nothing better than seeing one comfort the other or tell the other that they love them or give them a big hug, etc. It melts my heart.

queenbone · June 2011

It is fun in a different way. Like pp mentioned seeing the two of them together is so much fun. DS2 just idolizes his big brother. And when he isn't trying to 'love' him to death, DS1 is so sweet, thoughtful and caring towards the baby. So things like going to the park and riding a teeter totter or kiddie rides at an amusement park are MORE fun than they were with just one.

ShannonSky · June 2011

DD2 isn't here yet, so I can only speak for the pregnancy, but so far that's been just as fun as with DD1. Both my pregnancies (so far) have been pretty easy, but this one is still unique and special...I just love feeling DD2 kick and roll around in there!

craziheazo · June 2011

I hear 1,000 times per day "I love her, Mama. I love Baby Bella SOOOO much". They look for each other as soon as they get up, the give hugs and kisses (and shoves and bites!!) all day long and Maya "reads" to Bella. It seriously is the cutest thing ever.

Yes you do have to split your time sometimes and someone may not be happy about that, but your child will learn patience and sharing. Your heart will grow leaps and bounds. I love having my two and I even like having them close together.

laura1 · June 2011

Having a second is so different than the first, but just as wonderful. My DD is the sweetest baby in the whole world, and I never would have believed that I could have loved another baby as much as my DS, but it happened! And seeing them have fun together is so wonderful. They took a bath together tonight, and it was seriously the cutest thing in the whole world - splashing together, laughing, playing.

So yes, it is different, and you only have one first...but there are all new and wonderful things about having another! (And you get to do things again with another kid, so if there was something you wished you could do differently, you can try again!)

Ali212 · June 2011

I think it is....it's a different kind of fun. To be honest, I think it's more fun in a lot of ways. Yes, having the first is fun in a new, first-time parent sort of way but it's also tough and stressful. Everything about being a parent is new. By the 2nd time, you've been through it before, you know what to expect - the bad & the good. Yes, some things are definitely tougher...having a toddler and an infant is hard. I hear people say having a toddler and infant is easier than having two babies b/c they can understand you. That's assuming your toddler listens (these people obviously don't have toddlers!). My older daughter is 3.5 years old and very headstrong, we've definitely had some tough challenging days trying to make a baby AND a toddler happy (and feeling like I'm failing miserably at both). BUT, my daughter LOVES being a big sister and my baby definitely perks up when she sees her big sister. There are moments already between the two of them where my heart just melts.

This is my last child. We had a long road to conceive my 2nd daughter and I highly doubt I'll have any more given the expense (we're OOP and did 4 fresh IVFs at a super expensive clinic) that we needed to get here. Maybe that's why I'm enjoying some of the things a lot more 2nd time around...I know this is it. To me, the milestones are still cool when they first hit them b/c you're just so proud that you're little baby is accomplishing it.

cjsbdl · June 2011

Yes, very much so. It is a completely different experience, for sure, for many of the reasons you mentioned. But having a second child brings with it so many new joys and an amazing new dynamic to your family...I simply cannot imagine our family without Eleanor. It feels like she's always been with us.

While I was pregnant with her I had many worries about all of us adjusting to a new baby, but those flew out the window the minute she was born.

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