s/o taking someone's kid to the bathroom

alibee09 · June 2011

Since K and her friends are all PTing, sometimes I find myself escorting other people's kids to the bathroom -- sometimes because I am going and they want to come with me, sometimes because said kid is reticent about going with their own parent but totally excited about the idea of going with me. (Clearly I am cool to potty with... unless you're my own kid, at which point I'm totally boring )

With girls, it's all straightforward enough -- not a lot to do except put the kid on the potty and help them wipe if necessary. With boys, half the time I am not sure if their parents have taught them to stand, or to tuck/aim, etc. So, my question to you: if you're taking another person's kid to the bathroom, do you usually ask in advance what their "process" is? How do you feel about other people that you trust taking your kids to the potty?

futrkingsley · June 2011

I try not to do it. I feel like with girls it's more complicated so I think it must just be that we are used to our own kid.

I can't think of any circumstances where DS would want someone other than DH, me or my mom to take him if we were available. And the only thing I'm good for with other people's kids is reminding them to wash their hands. If my nieces/nephews come out and I didn't hear running water, I totally send them back. Anything else and I feel like it's TMI.

At a friend's house this weekend, friend's daughter who is not PT'd asked to come with us when I took DS to the potty. She totally stood by and watched, which he was ok with and they were too as they are hoping she will get bitten by the bug and want to use the potty. If it were the other way around I would have not been as comfortable (meaning me helping her and DS watching).

kittylove · June 2011

I don't have an issue with my friends taking my child with them to the bathroom and I also haven't had any issues taking other people's children. I would ask said child if they sat or stand and then remind them to aim. I don't see it as a big deal at all though and I would assume that any parent who trusted me to take thier child to the restroom would trust me to do what ever was necessary.

alibee09 · June 2011

kittylove:
I don't have an issue with my friends taking my child with them to the bathroom and I also haven't had any issues taking other people's children. I would ask said child if they sat or stand and then remind them to aim. I don't see it as a big deal at all though and I would assume that any parent who trusted me to take thier child to the restroom would trust me to do what ever was necessary.

The problem I have here is that I've asked the kids what they usually do, and I've had them do different things with me than they would with their parents. For example, one kid told me he stood, but he didn't ... aim. Cue hilarity. I wasn't going to do it for him without talking to his parents first, of course. Heh heh.

secretkeeper321 · June 2011

Hasn't happened too often for me yet, but I do have a few close friends with PT aged kids and I have helped them to the bathroom. Mainly to get complicated party type clothes back on correctly.....oh and to remind the little boys to pay attention to where they are aiming, lol. Girls seem a lot easier, but maybe that's because I've got the same parts.

As long as their parents are ok with it, I never mind helping out wrangling the kiddos.

kittylove · June 2011

alibee09:

kittylove:
I don't have an issue with my friends taking my child with them to the bathroom and I also haven't had any issues taking other people's children. I would ask said child if they sat or stand and then remind them to aim. I don't see it as a big deal at all though and I would assume that any parent who trusted me to take thier child to the restroom would trust me to do what ever was necessary.

The problem I have here is that I've asked the kids what they usually do, and I've had them do different things with me than they would with their parents. For example, one kid told me he stood, but he didn't ... aim. Cue hilarity. I wasn't going to do it for him without talking to his parents first, of course. Heh heh.

That would be funny!

futrkingsley · June 2011

kittylove:
alibee09:

kittylove:
I don't have an issue with my friends taking my child with them to the bathroom and I also haven't had any issues taking other people's children. I would ask said child if they sat or stand and then remind them to aim. I don't see it as a big deal at all though and I would assume that any parent who trusted me to take thier child to the restroom would trust me to do what ever was necessary.

The problem I have here is that I've asked the kids what they usually do, and I've had them do different things with me than they would with their parents. For example, one kid told me he stood, but he didn't ... aim. Cue hilarity. I wasn't going to do it for him without talking to his parents first, of course. Heh heh.

That would be funny!

It's only funny if your clothes DON'T smell like pee afterwards. Aiming is tricky business. Which is why I much prefer DS sits while going to the bathroom but he hates sitting on big potties. Which is why I can't imagine him allowing others to take him and why I wouldn't want to do that whole crazy dance with someone else's kid. One is bad enough!