Who has siblings in the same room?

efooey · June 2011

recap - Lucy is 3 Simon is 13 mos

Lucy - always been a great sleeper

Simon - terrible, awful, really bad (ok, that may be exaggerating a bit)

Simon is still in our room in a compact crib. Fits well in our room but he wakes up every day between 4:30 and 5 to nurse and then come into our bed but he'll eat and snooze until 7 or 8. Our bed is really high and I can't leave him in there alone which is a problem because Lucy is up at 6:30 and needs me too. About 2-3 times a week he gets up between 1 and 3 or a couple times in that time period. Sometimes he'll go back down other times he freaks and we bring him in with us to keep him from waking Lucy.

I'm really wondering if being in the same room with us is a problem. We've always talked about moving him in with Lucy eventually. I worry about him waking her up at 5am and then she won't go back to sleep, him waking in the middle of the night and freaking her out, them not ever going to sleep - talking or playing. I worry about her climbing into his crib to play and being too rough, not that he's delicate, but she's a bit of a brute and loves him a bit too much. Completely irrationally, I worry that he will love her more than me because she'll be the one that is there when he wakes up unhappy (I know, crazy, I can totally laugh at myself and my hormone riddled brain for even thinking this up - DH thought it was hysterical).

What would you do? Just go for it and see what happens? I wish we had another place in our house to put him in the PNP to test out this theory but we really don't (damn small house that won't sell, grrrr).

Thoughts?

E

JustaKidAtHeart · June 2011

My boys have always been in the same room. Eventually they learned that when the other one cries that is a mommy/daddy problem and they sleep right through it. Now our issue is they are in big boy beds and when one is up he goes and rawrs in the others face in order to have a playmate.

queenbone · June 2011

We moved the baby into the nursery at 3 month. DS1 has always been a great night time sleeper too and I was worried about disrupting it. But so far it hasn't been a real problem. DS1 usually sleeps through the baby's crying when he wakes up in the middle of the night to nurse. That is usually around 4 AM; I nurse in bed and let him sleep the rest of the night between us in our bed just in case he would cry if we transferred him back to his crib. I may start transferring him back to his crib after that night feeding though so I can get better sleep.

If the crying does wake up DS1 he can fall right back to sleep no problem. And remarkably during all this he not only hasn't regressed in his potty training, but he also night time potty trained himself! ***knock on wood***

firsttogo · June 2011

Linc and Nolan are in the same room. They do sometimes each get up, and if the other wakes, it is NBD. It was an adjustment, but they did it. I would try it. Maybe Simon gets up because he knows you are there?

itsmevkb · June 2011

My children share a room and it's been better than I expected. Of course, my kids are also older, four and two. I was worried about them waking each other up but that hasn't really been an issue. It's amazing what they are each able to sleep through.

If I were you, I would just go for it and see what happens. As for the climbing into the crib, I would just try and make it clear that isn't okay. If something is wrong she can come and get you, but she's not allowed in the crib.

keg · June 2011

My DDs have shared a room from the get go and have never had any major problems. They do quite well sleeping through the other one crying. I can remember quite a while back one DD really carrying on one night, as in bad enough we decided to check on her. Well her sister didn't wake up until we walked in the room...the screaming didn't bother her but us going in the room did!

I'd give it a shot. What the worse that can happen? If it doesn't work, you can just move Simon back to your room.

laura1 · June 2011

My 2 are in the same room - we actually just moved and they could each have their own room now, but we put them together again. There are good and bad things to it.

Our routine: DD goes to bed first, then DS comes in 30-45 min later and she is already asleep. He rarely wakes her up, even when he is quite loud. Sometimes DD will wake up crying overnight, and she rarely wakes DS up. They both tend to wake up at 7am, and will "talk" to each other (they are both still in cribs). If we hear either one up before then, we will run in and take them out to let the other one sleep. We are only successful about 50% of the time.

Things do go wrong though...sometimes DD is not asleep yet when DS comes to bed and that is BAD - they will yell to each other, laugh, etc (very cute, but not good when they are supposed to be sleeping!). Rarely, they will wake each other up over night - then EVERYONE is awake in the middle of the night, and it is very hard to get them both back to sleep.

And the worst thing that has happened - the other night DS went to bed and spilled water all over his crib. DH went in to change his sheet and turned on the light in the room, waking up DD. She proceeded to scream for 2 hours after that until she vomited all over our couch. So far that has been the worst thing to happen (especially since we can't get rid of the smell - YUCK)!

We are keeping them together through the summer so we only need one A/C for their room. In the fall, we will move DD out into her own room.

Anyways, I would try it - for the most part, they adapt pretty well! I would just make sure your DD knows she is NOT allowed to climb into the crib - that would scare me.

Good luck!

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