BFP/Pregnancy MentionedLoving Life while Awaiting Mini-Me's

Missa_g · June 2011

ETA: This is a checkin for the buddy group Loving Life while Awaiting Mini-Me's. I love all of y'all, but it's just for the group unless y'all want to offer support. Since everyone seems to like my GTKY, I'll post it in a separate thread for everyone else Smile

Good morning ladies!

This is a little early because I know I'm going to have a crazy busy day at work. I'm going to try to reply to this later, but just in case it's a total post and run you know why Smile

We've had both happiness and utter sadness within our group in the past week. I hate that we're all on this journey, but I'm glad we have each other to lean on.

How are you doing? Did you have a good weekend? Anything exciting coming up?

GTKY: I'm lazy and tired this morning Stick out tongue So create your own! What is a something you would like to know about the rest of us?

Missa_g · June 2011

Okay, I decided to bump for a bit before I dive into my work Smile

I'm doing okay today. Last week I had lots of sad, pitiful "why me?" moments. I think my grief over my grandpa's death finally hit me last week, and that coupled with my grief over our baby did not put me in a positive place. I spent tons of time with Andy this past weekend, and he's such a positive person. It's difficult to be in a negative place when he's always making me laugh! I have a much better attitude today, and am really focusing on the positives in my life. I tend to take my positives for granted when I'm focusing on the negatives. My GTKY: Name five positive things in your life right now. 1. My strong marriage with my wonderful husband. 2. The current health of everyone I love. 3. My true friends IRL who have supported us through some really difficult times, and my wonderful friends on here. 4. My wonderful pets, especially my little poodle. They never fail to put a smile on my face, and give such unconditional love. I swear my poodle can smell tears! If I start to cry at home, she's instantly by my side. 5. I have a job as a trainer at work still. I might not be loving my job at the moment, but at least I have one! Plus, I'm good at it Smile

Mellimo83 · June 2011

Good morning, I'll bite!

my 5 positives:

1)My wonderful husband who adores me

2)My friends who know the struggle we've had and take the time to drag my sorry butt out of the house when I need it

3)My BFF just moved home after 5 yrs

4)My team at work, they're so wonderful even though Ive needed at least 4 weeks off over the last 2 mos (and I'm the manager, they did tell me they didn't realize how much I do until they had to do it, that felt good!)

5)The fact that my 'Why me' moments are getting further and further apart and don't make me feel quite as guilty as they used to.

hopefulmom81 · June 2011

Hi Loving Life While Awaiting Mini Mes.

This weekend was beyond words awful. I found out I have a blighted ovum on Friday, ended up in the ER for four hours Friday-Saturday, had a HORRIBLE experience with a bridal shower/bachelorette party. Basically, I want to curl up in a ball and not talk to anyone for a month (at least). But, here I am at work putting on the happy face.

I love the idea of 5 positive things! Yours are great Melissa! I am sorry you are having a rough time.

1. Being married to someone that centers and calms me. He also really understands me and knows my heart better than anyone. I am really really lucky.

2. My 2 kitties Fuzz and Smudge. Since my first loss I call Fuzz my "cheap suit" because he is all over me and snuggly.

3. My job. My boss is amazing and understanding and for once I am not completely stressed out at a job. I love mentoring and working with college students!

4. Zumba. It is goofy, but I feel happy for the full hour I am there regardless of how sad I am.

5. For the past year both my DH and I are employed and financially we are doing well enough to have money left over at the end of the month. We have been together for 7 years (combined households and living together for 6/married for 3) and I am 29 so from the ages of 23-26 he was in grad school and not working full time, 27-28 he was laid off, so this is the first year we have 2 full time careers and were able to purchase our first home!

Missa_g · June 2011

Angie, I am so glad you checked in! You've been in my thoughts all week *hug* I love your positives! I haven't tried zumba, but I've been wanting to. I think you've inspired me to find a class! Smile

andrea3122 · June 2011

Good morning!

Overall I had a good weekend. We went to a party and I only had one person ask me when we would be having kids. She said she thought she had heard I was pg. She meant well, but wow, that hurt. I'm standing in front of you and obviously I'm no pg. So then I have the moment of trying to decide how to respond and finally tell her that I had a loss. Then she feels terrible, I have to reassure her that it's okay when all I want to do is run away. Sometimes it's just easier to stay home.

Five good things:

My garden is blooming! It rained a lot last week and the flowers look great.

I hung a bird feeder last week and word must have spread because we have lots of customers, including a giant woodpecker who I love to watch!

I decided on a visit home in the fall for an even to support a dear friend and I can't wait.

I love my house. We have finished a bunch of long term projects and I love the way they turned out.

My husband is amazing. During the party on Sat, he would come and check in with me and make sure I was doing all right. He really shouldn't need to do that three months after our loss, but he does and he is really my rock of strength.

lauralew · June 2011

***SW***

Angie, I have been thinking of you a lot, too. I absolutely hate that you're going through this again. I love all your positives...the fact that you can list five right now is a sign of your true strength.

This weekend was pretty good. I posted on PgAL that I was a little surprised with how painful reminders of my loss were still pretty painful...I guess I thought all of that would go away now. But, like I said in that post, I am incredibly grateful for where I am now, and I should stop dwelling on the past. So, Melissa, I LOVE your GTKY idea. So I'm stealing it rather than making up my own. Here are five positive things in my life that are NOT baby related.

1. I have a job I love. It has stress (like any job), but ultimately, I feel great about what I do.

2. I have a family full of people who love me and would do anything for me at the drop of a hat.

3. I have friends who keep me laughing and accept me for who I am.

4. I have never truly needed anything. My parents always provided for me, even when times were tough, and Justin has always done what it takes to provide for our little family.

5. Last, but certainly not least, is Justin. I have always loved him, but since our loss, I have realized the depth of our love and caring for each other. He knows how to make me laugh, he knows how to comfort me when I'm crying, and he knows what I need. I am extremely blessed.

Melissa, thanks for posting!!

Missa_g · June 2011

lauralew:
Melissa, thanks for posting!!

I'm so glad you checked in, Laura! I miss you around here, but I'm thankful you're where you are. I love your positives!

andrea3122 · June 2011

Oops, sorry for butting in ladies.. Embarrassed

Missa_g · June 2011

andrea3122:
Oops, sorry for butting in ladies..

No problem! Smile

hopefulmom81 · June 2011

lauralew:
***SW***

Angie, I have been thinking of you a lot, too. I absolutely hate that you're going through this again. I love all your positives...the fact that you can list five right now is a sign of your true strength.
This weekend was pretty good. I posted on PgAL that I was a little surprised with how painful reminders of my loss were still pretty painful...I guess I thought all of that would go away now. But, like I said in that post, I am incredibly grateful for where I am now, and I should stop dwelling on the past. So, Melissa, I LOVE your GTKY idea. So I'm stealing it rather than making up my own. Here are five positive things in my life that are NOT baby related.
1. I have a job I love. It has stress (like any job), but ultimately, I feel great about what I do.
2. I have a family full of people who love me and would do anything for me at the drop of a hat.
3. I have friends who keep me laughing and accept me for who I am.
4. I have never truly needed anything. My parents always provided for me, even when times were tough, and Justin has always done what it takes to provide for our little family.
5. Last, but certainly not least, is Justin. I have always loved him, but since our loss, I have realized the depth of our love and caring for each other. He knows how to make me laugh, he knows how to comfort me when I'm crying, and he knows what I need. I am extremely blessed.
Melissa, thanks for posting!!

Thank you for the nice comment. I got tears in my eyes reading it (in a good way).

Love your 5 things!

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