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July 2011 Moms
So how many of you....
...log on to the Bump and then have to compulsively check over and over that you clicked on July 2011 because there are like 20 posts and you don't know any of the people?
Just wondering, maybe it is just me...
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Re: So how many of you....
Which seems weird, right??
This is me too. I do recognize a bunch of SN's but I'm a visual person. And I also feel like a lot of the "regulars" aren't posting as much, or maybe it's just bc there are so many new ones it seems like that.
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this-- what is annoying me a little are what I like to call the fly by posters.
"Had my baby"- this was your first post who are you???
Just throwing my 2 cents out there...I'm not sure why this matters to people so much? I guess I would be called a "semi-regular" (been here since October and post a few times each week) but because this is a national board, I expect to see once-in-a-while posters just as much as "regulars". Unless you are going to open up a private non-bump board for the "regular" crew, that's going to be the case on any Bump board. Yes it leads to a lot of repetitive posts and such, but that's just the way these boards work. Been that way since the Knot.
Is it a little weird when someone with 1 post has a "had my baby" post? Yeah, but, whatever. Doesn't mean you can't still be happy for them. JMO.
And in less diplomatic terms, this. lol.
Over the past 9 months we've built relationships with eachother. It has nothing to do with being BFFs. When someone comes on out of blue if feels phoney.
This is totally me... (a previous lurker)... My reasoning is that the further I get along in my pregnancy, the more I feel like I want to find out if things are common and how others in the same week are progressing. I was using the 3rd tri board, but it seems like many posts are from people 39+ weeks just waiting for progress. At 36 weeks, it's a little hard to relate. I've been on the bump since 1st tri, but I tended to visit other boards like Nurseries and Baby showers.
I still don't post much on here, only to ask questions or read topics to see if people are experiencing similar things. A pp mentioned a "had my baby" type post; I would feel odd about posting that type of thing, since I don't "know" anyone, but I also tend to skip over those posts...
Just thought I'd give a little insight, in case other newbies were here for the same reasons.
DD1, Kathleen 9/15/2007
Who cares? Why not just skip the post and move on? That's what I do anyway...
Who cares if you've been reading the entire time? Why should we give a flying f*ck about you if we have no connection or knowledge of your existence?
Just sayin...
It makes a difference because we've all been getting to know/supporting each other since November. We've formed relationships with each other. You wouldn't have a one-sided friendship IRL, so why is it any different on TB?
Reading the board and not ever posting just makes you a creepy stalker. Sorry to burst your bubble.
See...the introduction wasn't that hard. Welcome and best of luck with your remaining weeks. There are a ton of first time mom's on here and we're all the blind leading the blind. Thank GOD for the 2+ moms.
All of this. Welcome and Good Luck!
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See, I think responses like this just show a skewed perspective of what the Bump (Knot, Nest) is really like. There is nothing preventing people from coming onto this board 2 days before their due date and posting questions. If you want a board like that, then the regulars should start their own board on Activeboard or something. You're never going to get a board around here that isn't full of newbies and lurkers, plain and simple. If you want to celebrate the friendships that you've created, it's time to look elsewhere.
I used to be a big part of my local board back in my Knot/Nest days, and people there eventually realized that there is NO privacy or control over who posts on a board that is open to people worldwide. So we started our own private board on another website in order to get that level of privacy and "friendship".
I guess I just think it's a bit mean-spirited to shun a bunch of people who have simple questions and concerns so close to their due dates. Just because they don't use the board in the same way or as often as you do doesn't make their concerns less valid.
This summarizes what I meant this morning (again, much more diplomatically). I've not posted very often, but I have been here consistently since Dec/January, and I guess I don't understand why everyone can't be equally welcome...even if they didn't come here looking for the same kind of experience (relationships, friendship, etc).
Hmmm.... I don't think I did a good job of explaining what I meant. Let me try again.
I have NO problem with newbies. We were all newbies at one point. What I have an issue with is drive-by posters... The ones who say, "OMG, I just had a baby" or "AHHH, I'm 2cm dilated, I'm going to be a June mommy!" We flame them & they always say, "I thought we were all here for support. I've been a lurker for months! Why can't you just be happy/sad, etc for me?"
I don't care how long you've been here... whether you're a newbie or a "regular", I expect you to reply to posts, show support, answer questions, etc. I expect you to be an active participant. If all you do is lurk, I could care less about you because I don't KNOW you, KWIM?
I hope that makes better sense.