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c-section question and help needed

hecallsmecathecallsmecat member
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I just found out that after 2 months of the baby being head-down, it has flipped into a breech position! We were going to try and ECV to flip the baby, but the legs are in a funny position so I think it will be too dangerous to try and most likely will  not be successful.

So it looks like I'm going to have a scheduled c-section next week and I really don't know what to do in terms of where to have the baby. DH and I live in London and have no family or close friends to help us out, though his mother will most likely come and stay for a few weeks. While this is a very nice gesture and I know we will need it, I throw up in my mouth a little every time I imagine my MIL staying in my house (we do not get along that well). The other option is to drive to Ireland and have the baby there, recovering in his parents' house. We had planned to have the baby there all along and staying in my in-laws' house doesn't bother me as much as having them here. However, DH will need to go back to London after 3 weeks to return to work and I'm not sure if I will be up to travelling back at that point (10 hour drive and ferry ride).

From those of you who have had a c-section, would you say I'd be able to travel after 3 weeks or not? I know everyone recovers differently, just looking for opinions from those who have been there. Thanks!

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  • mommyreedmommyreed
    Bless your heart! I had a section with my first and when he was 2 weeks old we took a 4 hour drive to visit the inlaws for Christmas. The drive was NOT that bad. I think if I were in your position I would rather have mil come to me so I could be in the comfort of my own house and so LO could be home! Just my opinion though. I go for a RCS next week and cant wait to meet my LO. Good Luck
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  • lmjtlmjt

    I think you would be able to travel (although likely not do the driving yourself) at 3 weeks. I felt that the worst part of the c-section was standing up or sitting down, but once I got up or sat down, I was fine again, if that makes any sense. If you deliver in Ireland, who do you see for your PP checkup and such? Someone in London or must you return to Ireland? I go home with stitches from a c-section, but many people do not. My incision opened up a little bit, and I needed to see my OB more often PP as well. Something to consider. 

    Also, FWIW, you may be so delirious that you don't even care if you MIL is in your house. I know many FTM's don't believe that, but I was so out of it from pain, learning to BF, etc, that I could have cared less who was in my house as long as they made me a sandwich and washed the laundry. 

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  • buckeyekibuckeyeki member

    Where would you deliver in London if you stayed there (I lived there for 2 years, did the first part of my atenatal care with DD there, and have friends that delivered there so I'm just curious).  If it's one of the nicer hospitals, I would deliver there.  You can travel 3 weeks post-partum after a c-section, but if you don't have to I don't know why you would want to.  I would have much rather had my MIL come stay with us and be with my own things etc than stay at her place while I'm trying to recover, breastfeed 24/7, rest with the baby, etc.  It's really funny how after you have the baby some things that seemed huge beforehand just don't matter anymore.  Well, for awhile anyway LOL!

    Plus, when you drive back, it will be with a 3 week old, who nurses/feeds often and needs frequent changing etc.  That 10 hour trip will become much longer and you will still be slightly sore from your surgery.  I felt so much better 2 weeks out, but was still a bit sore.  I would really have to feel uncomfortable with something about where I was delivering to make that kind of trip worthwhile.

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  • JenniferinspainJenniferinspain member
    My daughter flipped breech at 38 weeks and sat with her legs crossed so we didn't try the ECV because my doctor didnt' think it would work, so I understand. As for the travelling, I think you could do it but would agree with previous posters that you will probably want to be in the comfort of your own home, in your bed, with your new little one. But if you were planning on staying with them anyway, you could do that. I feel like I was no help, sorry.
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  • MoMandAMoMandA
    I had a c-section with my twins and DH went back to work after two weeks and I was alone with them for 10 hours a day. I was fine by myself. A million times better than having someone in the house who stressed me out. Traveling 3 weeks after a section would be really hard especially if you aren't in control of the trip. Could you send you DH back for a week and then go back in another week? Good luck
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  • LithiginLithigin

    This doesn't address your MIL issue, and I haven't had a c-section, but I'd be trying everything I could to flip baby! Have you looked into spinningbabies.com or moxibustion? Also, a chiropractor skilled in the Webster technique can work wonders, I'm told. I hope one of these works for you! There is definitely still time for baby to flip back to vertex. Good luck!

    https://acupuncturetoday.com/abc/moxibustion.php

    https://icpa4kids.com/about/webster_technique.htm

     

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  • JanimalJanimal member

    I would NOT want to be on a long journey with a 3 week old.  You will be exhausted anyway and a trip that long would just be evern more exhausting.

    In England, under National Health Care, doesn't a nurse come to your home for PP care for a little while? 

    If you are really against having your MIL stay, see if you can hire some help.  Help that you PAY, you can tell what to do.  Notsomuch MILs!  At least have a housekeeper come and take care of the house and laundry so you can focus on baby. 

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  • bamagirl100bamagirl100

    I had a c section with dd and was working out with my trainer by 4 weeks after baby was born. So I would not be too worried about the recovery. However a long trip at 3 weeks would have been very exhausting. Not with regards to recovery but because you will be tired from not sleeping and having to lug all the baby stuff back home. I say set up camp at home and have you MIL come for just a week or two.

    I am having my second c section and love it. I had a GREAT experience with my first one.

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  • HeyJuneHeyJune member

    Your husband is off work and able to help you for the first 3 weeks, correct?

    I think you'll be fine. I had a c-section with DD and my husband was only off work for 2 weeks. I didn't have anyone come to stay with us to help with the baby. I was able to stand and walk around within about 8 hours of surgery. The ride home from the hospital was a little uncomfortable due to the bumps in the road and the seatbelt being in a sore area. I remember that, for the first 5 or 6 days at home, going from lying down to sitting up to nurse was the most painful. I made sure to walk around the house often and after a few days, I was able to do everything I normally do on my own (except lifting heavy things, obviously).

    I realize that a lot of people like to have a family member or friend come over to help with the baby, but all they can really do is hold the baby for you and change a diaper every now and then. You'll be doing the feeding (if you breastfeed) and most likely the changing since they typically poop while they eat. I had no trouble caring for DD alone, and I actually enjoyed it. If your husband is on board with helping out I don't think you'll absolutely NEED extra help, especially if that means extra help from someone you aren't extremely close to. I found that I preferred to be able to nurse DD out in the open in my living room, being able to wear my pajamas all day if I wanted, and having privacy with DH rather than having company over during recovery. Having my MIL in the house during that time would have really stressed me out, which is not good when you need to be resting and enjoying your newborn.

    If your reason for traveling 10 hours is just to have extra help with the baby, I wouldn't do it. Bumps in the road, the ferry ride, and the constant demands of a newborn on a loooong journey would be enough for me to say don't do it! :)

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  • VTPurityVTPurity
    I had a c-section with my DD and have a scheduled c-section with this LO.  I would say you should plan to deliver in London so you can go home to your own home.  You will be so much more comfortable and since it is your house you are kind of in charge then and can do things how you want to do them.  My mother came for two weeks when I had DD and although I appreciated the help, I was also ready for her to get going.  I recovered rather quickly and found I didn't need as much help as I would have thought.  If DH is off for 3 weeks then I think the two of you will be perfectly fine doing it on your own if that is your desire.
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