I am the host, and people are cancelling the night before..

StefaniePace · June 2011

So I wouldnt feel so bad but the shower/sprinkle started out with about 15 people. Then I sent out the invites and it was at 12. Well.. now FOUR people who rsvp'ed and said they would come have cancelled the night before and not to ME to the guest of honor.. Some through a text, some through facebook so on. I am PISSED because its hurting my friends feelings. (and they didnt have the balls to cancel to ME) Her shower is still going to be fun but there will only be 8 people.. So she called me last night really upset and I dont know how to make her feel better. Any ideas? Her shower is at one and its going to be beautiful.. its just going to be small..

SandK042 · June 2011

Sorry to hear that. It sucks, but there's nothing you or mama-to-be can do about that. My friends hosted a shower for me yesterday, and we had a couple people no-show or cancel last minute so it ended up being super small (we had 9, including my husband and myself). Honestly, I feel sorry (for them) that they missed out - the rest of us had a blast. Enjoy yourself and do what you can to help your friends and other guests have fun. Try to help your friend to understand that it has nothing to do with her - people overcommit to things all the time, then realize that the demands of life don't allow it. Have a great shower!

nicleep · June 2011

I had a very small sprinkle yesterday. I invited approx 15 and only 8 rsvped (9 showed up). Plus my hostess and me of course. It was perfect. I was actually really worried when the we had to start tracking people down for rsvps a week or so ago and was freaking out I'd have two people (my grandma and aunt) at my shower. It all worked out and actually, I'm really glad it was small. I'm sure it was/will be great. Less people to 'entertain' and more time to spend with the people that actually came

northtamarack · June 2011

Out of all of the showers I have attending (read: a lot), the best one by far was the smallest. It was so nice to be able to sit and chit chat with the mom-to-be, the food was amazing and it lacked the awkwardness that showers can sometimes have.

Don't mention people not coming. Just help the mom-to-be focus on her shower. You prolly already thought of all of this, but some things that made me feel special were people taking pictures, the host having the notebook and taking note of what was given, having a special chair, ect. And really not needed but nice: a corsage.

I hope that the shower goes well!

StefaniePace · June 2011

Thank you ladies we had a lot of fun. I think the Mama to be had a great time too. It was 9 people but very fun. I will try to post some pictures later.

asyph107 · June 2011

Dont worry about it. My MIL and I threw a bridal shower for my SIL last summer and due to lots of different circumstances there were only 7 of us. It was so special, when I found out the end guest list I just created some small activities...advice sharing on colored cards and then sharing them with everyone, Some trivia questions with some prizes (bubble bath, soaps, random things). Just make your friend feel special thats all that matters. Fuss over her and show her you care. Thats all that matters. To this day my SIL tells me she thought no one would throw her a shower because everyone is all over the world, different ages, etc and she thought the shower she did get was special.