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Hubby keeps making lots of plans!

rachellaura86rachellaura86 member
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My husband is a social butterfly, and we have a lot of good friends. He works hard during the week (I just stopped working) and naturally wants to enjoy his weekends.

He keeps filling up our weekends and I feel kind of lame, but all I want to do is sit around the house! I am so fatigued and uncomfortable. We've been doing dinners, movies, hanging out at friends houses, etc... nothing too strenuous. Although, he did tell me he wanted to meet our friends out at a bar for some beer event this weekend, and I looked at him like he was crazy. I think he got the hint, because we didnt end up going.

I keep telling myself we wont be able to do this too much longer so I should just try to enjoy it, but I really want to just park my butt on the couch and watch TV. I hate feeling so lazy- especially when I'm not working all week! Anyone else feel the same way?

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  • NativeFloridianNativeFloridian member

    I know what you mean, FI is really social too.  He's also really understanding, so if I just let him know I'm not feeling up to socializing he doesn't get upset.  I think it mostly works out because I let him go hang out without me and actually don't get mad about it, lol.

    Anyway, maybe you should just let your husband know when you're not feeling up to it.  You know, don't be catty or anything, just let him know that it's pretty darn exhausting carrying around that belly!  And if he's making plans before asking you, definitely have him start asking you before okaying plans with friends that involve you.  I mean, you're in your third trimester!  It's definitely not uncommon for ladies in their 3rd tri to become fatigued easily.  It's nothing to feel bad about, and it's definitely something he should anticipate.  Just tell him he can go along, and then you just chill on the couch and watch a chick flick!  =)

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  • Carolinagirl9696Carolinagirl9696
    I get it.  Most days I don't want to leave my house and really I shouldn't due to a complicated pregnancy.  Our compromise is that we have people come over here.  Order in or if you are up to it let hubby grill steaks and you do baked potato and a salad.  All of my girlfriends do the dishes and we put on a movie or play cards, etc and it really is a fun way to stay social and stay at home.
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  • ElatedMom2BElatedMom2B member
    HA - I was just saying this to DH yesterday!!  He made plans for us to go to a bbq yesterday, he invited company for dinner tonite, he invited his coworkers over tomorrow night for a while after dinner (about five or six people - to have cake for his birthday).  Next weekend he is out all day Saturday golfing for a bachelor party (an hour away!), Sunday - Father's Day (we have a 2 - almost 3 - year old) he invited a friend to come down and visit for the day...I am like, "hello there??? remember me - the very pregnant one who could, theoretically, have a baby at any day here".  I also am home all day during the week with my DD - being with a preschooler is hard work let alone with you're 9 months pregnant.  I think its his way of dealing with the fact that he knows that once this baby comes our life is over for the next couple of months.  Or perhaps he thinks that by making all of these plans, he is going to help get this baby out sooner...who knows but its so frustrating.
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  • GilliebearGilliebear member

    imageCarolinagirl9696:
    I get it.  Most days I don't want to leave my house and really I shouldn't due to a complicated pregnancy.  Our compromise is that we have people come over here.  Order in or if you are up to it let hubby grill steaks and you do baked potato and a salad.  All of my girlfriends do the dishes and we put on a movie or play cards, etc and it really is a fun way to stay social and stay at home.

    This.

    Bring the party to you! Tell your gfs that its a casual event and you might even be wearing yoga pants or pajama bottoms. They will understand! Even have a potluck at your house. Then you just need to get your man to BBQ and you can make a great punch and worry about plates and napkins. Easy peasey girl!

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  • bunnymama625bunnymama625 member

    I told DH he was welcome to go without me, but I'm way too tired-- he tried but then said it was no fun on his own, so we're mostly homebound now :)

    I do try to make being under house arrest a little easier-- we went netflix instant view nuts and we play video games and get way more takeout than normal :)

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  • mcclj74mcclj74 member
    I could have written your post myself...only I am still working and will be until I give birth...DH thinks having people over is no big deal...but its really hard when you are working full time, trying to prepare for baby's arrival...etc...all i want to do is be home getting stuff ready not cleaning and preparing for guests...
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  • gwenathangwenathan
    My husband isn't making too many plans for now..he's making plans for RIGHT AFTER baby is gunna be here! I'm due August 5th and he just invited his best friend from WA to come down and stay with us at the end of august/early sept. I don't mind having people come visit..but it's my first baby and idk what condition I'm going to be in! haha and I hardly think a single guy is gunna enjoy staying with a newborn. He also wants to go camping and take his truck to the desert to go off roading...I'm like "Have fun, I'll be here hangin out with baby!"
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