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Roughhousing not ending well

ArcticFoxArcticFox member
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Every single time my DD roughouses with DH, it NEVER ENDS WELL.  I get so mad because I can see the writing on the wall.

So like tonight she was kind of slapping his stomach when he was laying on the floor, they've done it a million times before, and then she jumped on him.

DH was so mad, and then DD was crying hysterically and it turned into a super ugly situation (past bed time, she wouldn't listen to me, wouldn't apologize).

I'm so over it, and then I'm the peacemaker because DD is hysterical and DH just starts telling her all the things she won't be allowed to do now, instead of being more calm about it.  Like I was explaining to her, what if you did that to a school friend at preschool?  Her eyes got all wide, because she really GOT it then.  But DH is just so mad he kind of shuts down.

Maybe this is more of a vent, but I want to just 'outlaw' roughhousing because it just never ends well. I never have this problem, it makes me so mad.  DH told her we aren't going on our trip tomorrow.  Now what, we sit at home all day.. I want to cry!

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Re: Roughhousing not ending well

  • flyingsaucerflyingsaucer member
    Sounds like you and DH need to talk.  I have a son and a step son and DH and the boys love to rough-house, but DH had to stop because my 3 year old was starting to jump on the kids at school.  Also, the whole disciple thing is something that needs to be addressed and revisited by parents often, I think.  Cancelling a trip means that either you guys suffer because you miss a trip, or you start making false threats, because you WILL go on the trip despite what was said.  Maybe you and your DH can agree on some more logical consequences together, like time out or loss of a toy for a few minutes or something more appropriate
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    Your DH sounds like my DH. It is something we're working on and something that takes time, but you really should talk with your DH. Let him know how you feel like the referee and how he needs to step up and recognize when things are going to get out of control. My DH has trouble with that and recognizing that sometimes it's his fault for DS's actions/behavior. Sorry I couldn't be more help! I also agree with PP- don't have DH make empty threats because that will make your job harder too! GL mama keep me updated :)
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