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kittylove · June 2011

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Cassian · June 2011

Ha! I was going to put 'in the last 30 days' because it has been over a week, but I put 'this weekend' cause even though we haven't done it yet, it is set in our plans for tonight!

somethingchangd · June 2011

Cassian:
Ha! I was going to put 'in the last 30 days' because it has been over a week, but I put 'this weekend' cause even though we haven't done it yet, it is set in our plans for tonight!

That's how I should've answered!

dana316 · June 2011

Is there some reason, besides pregnancy, that more of us are not getting laid more often?

I'm a huge horn dog, so you can't judge by me...but I can't imagine having sex so rarely.

What gives, ladies??

(I'm nosey and bored...sorry)

Waiting4baby08 · June 2011

I'm so glad nobody chose the last answer thus far!

kittylove · June 2011

dana316:

Is there some reason, besides pregnancy, that more of us are not getting laid more often?

I'm a huge horn dog, so you can't judge by me...but I can't imagine having sex so rarely.

What gives, ladies??

(I'm nosey and bored...sorry)

I know sometimes we go months without it and then there are months we can't keep our hands off each other. Stress, a non sleeping baby, sickness, and just about everything impacts it.

somethingchangd · June 2011

There are a few reasons, Dana. I guess the basic answer is I don't have a very high libido these days. But if you're looking for more detail:

1. DS is still a really clingy child and still nurses 3x/day. I really think that having him so physically attached to me has hurt our sex life. When he goes to bed I just want some S P A C E.

2. I'm also not sure how compatible DH and I are in bed. I hate to say that, but it's true. Our sex is fine, certainly good sometimes, but, well...

3. And IF totally screwed us, no pun intended. We spent years doing it to get pregnant. All the TI meant there were a lot of nights of "just get the job done" (and there still are those every month.) I think it's made us a lot lazier in our recreational sex, which contributes to #2, which contributes to my low libido.

But it's an issue, for sure.

leslie&brian · June 2011

I'm with Dana..I can't imagine going months or even weeks without sex. Obviously some weeks are more lacking than others with AF, illness, busy schedule, etc.

dana316 · June 2011

somethingchangd:

There are a few reasons, Dana. I guess the basic answer is I don't have a very high libido these days. But if you're looking for more detail:

1. DS is still a really clingy child and still nurses 3x/day. I really think that having him so physically attached to me has hurt our sex life. When he goes to bed I just want some S P A C E.

2. I'm also not sure how compatible DH and I are in bed. I hate to say that, but it's true. Our sex is fine, certainly good sometimes, but, well...

3. And IF totally screwed us, no pun intended. We spent years doing it to get pregnant. All the TI meant there were a lot of nights of "just get the job done" (and there still are those every month.) I think it's made us a lot lazier in our recreational sex, which contributes to #2, which contributes to my low libido.

But it's an issue, for sure.

(((Hugs)))

That just sucks. I hope things get better...soon...

DavezWife · June 2011

somethingchangd:

And IF totally screwed us, no pun intended. We spent years doing it to get pregnant. All the TI meant there were a lot of nights of "just get the job done" (and there still are those every month.) I think it's made us a lot lazier in our recreational sex, which contributes to #2, which contributes to my low libido.

But it's an issue, for sure.

This for SURE. I could care LESS about sex right now, and he never bugs me for it. I think we both miss it, but not enough to really turn things around.

naflmj · June 2011

DavezWife:
somethingchangd:

And IF totally screwed us, no pun intended. We spent years doing it to get pregnant. All the TI meant there were a lot of nights of "just get the job done" (and there still are those every month.) I think it's made us a lot lazier in our recreational sex, which contributes to #2, which contributes to my low libido.
But it's an issue, for sure.
This for SURE. I could care LESS about sex right now, and he never bugs me for it. I think we both miss it, but not enough to really turn things around.

Unfortunately this applies to us too. This month we did it more than usually because I thought it'd be "fun" to try on our own before the upcoming IVF cycle..

schmoodle · June 2011

I answered w/ almost year because I can't when pregnant, so the last time we did it was when this pregnancy was conceived (early/mid October). But even when not pregnant we can go as long as a month sometimes, for reasons mentioned by others relating to a very clingy, non-sleeping, often bedsharing child, and just stress and long hours working, etc.

kellyloveszach · June 2011

We stopped when I developed complications during pregnancy and now I am in my six week wait. I am not really interested though and am fine with waiting longer. I get really nervous about sex after tearing, it won't be enjoyable for a while yet.

CMM05 · June 2011

I had to vote for the "months and months" one......because I have been on bedrest and pelvic rest for TWENTY WEEKS....blech!!!!

Then, I will have a c-section.......so no sex until at least 6 weeks pp.

I can't wait.....;)

dana316 · June 2011

CMM05:

IThen, I will have a c-section.......so no sex until at least 6 weeks pp.

I can't wait.....;)

Thankfully, my OB released me for sex only 2 weeks after my c-section. There was no way in the world I could have waited 6 weeks.

Embarrassed We almost didn't wait the two weeks

perry7285 · June 2011

i don't think we've ever gone more than two or three weeks (except when i was pregnant, when we weren't allowed too). my libido has been low for a long time, though, so if it wasn't important to DH i can totally see letting it slide for weeks or even months. stress and fatigue are real libido killers.

in general, though, we work at keeping our sex life going with a sex date at least once a week. i do think it's very nurturing for a relationship.

ALY1981 · June 2011

We've never gone more than a week. We usually get frisky every 2-3 days. That's how we got today started

LIAngel · June 2011

Cassian:
Ha! I was going to put 'in the last 30 days' because it has been over a week, but I put 'this weekend' cause even though we haven't done it yet, it is set in our plans for tonight!

Is that because he picked the carrots out of your dinner tonight?

LIAngel · June 2011

Last night was the first night we had PP sex. Before that was some time during the 3rd tri. It was not pleasant.

SeaSoul · June 2011

I said "a few months" b/c we haven't done it since I've been pg. Neither of us has been interested (DH says it's like his sex drive just shuts down as soon as I'm pg - same thing happened last time).

But normally it's 1-2 times a month, which we are both happy with, believe it or not.

I kind of resent the assumption that all DH's are put off by a lack of sex for any length of time...not all men are horn dogs. My DH happens to have a lower sex drive than most, and we went through serious dry spell during my last pg and while C was an infant, but in general we do it often enough to please both of us, and it's good quality, which is what matters most in my book. I honestly don't understand the idea of "doing it" just for the sake of doing it. I get that sex can beget sex, which can be good, but I think that is more important when it's seriously lacking (during true dry spells), not forcing yourselves to do it once a week just b/c you "should" (I do understand some people actually want to do it that often - which is great!!).

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