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Babies: 9 - 12 Months
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If your LO sees you naked
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DH leaves for work before we get up, so I bring DS into the bathroom with me while I shower in the morning. I try to limit my naked time, but a little is unavoidable. The other morning, DS started trying to touch/examine my pubic hair, which didn't really make me uncomfortable, but at the same time I feel like it's something he shouldn't do. Has anyone else dealt with this? If so, how do you handle it? Thanks!
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Re: If your LO sees you naked
We leave her in the crib when we shower. My child touching me there would make me uncomfortable.
She does see both DH and I naked, but we've set 1 year old as the limit. DH has very early memories (like 2 yrs old) and we don't want to take any chances
I usually try to get up a little earlier than LO so she's still asleep and I can shower/get ready before she gets up. on the occasion I have to shower while she's home, I let her play on the bathroom floor with some toys....
What i don't get is how your son is able to get close enough to your "area" to want to touch and examine it?
Like, I'm thinking about it, and when DD is playing on the floor, if I'm standing up (getting out of the shower), she's nowhere near tall enough to get anywhere near that area.
Another thing is I dry off IN the shower (like after I turn the water off I grab the towel from the hook just outside the shower curtain) and I usually wrap up in a towel before stepping out.
If DS is close enough to touch me, I am usually covered in some fashion. For the first several months of his life, I was basically topless all the time for BF, but that different. We don't shower or bathe together. I would probably just re-direct or move out of reach in a shower or bath.
DS is generally in his crib across the hall from my bathroom in the morning. So he may see me briefly, but not enough that I worry. If it's becoming an issue, I would say its time to contain LO until you are clothed.
This, he plays in his rocker while I shower. once I finish unpacking, I'm going to barricade him in the hall right out of the bathroom, and just let him play in there as I shower
My son is only 3, but it's the same for us.
I have been teaching my 3 year old about privacy and he rarely sees me naked anyore (other than when I'm BF'ing), but if he does it's not a big deal to either of us. They both see DH naked sometimes too, in fact that's how DS1 learned to pee standing up.
I think there were times up until DS was 2 he would shower with either DH or me...but he was taught not to touch and poke at our private parts and if he was young we would redirect.
I know everyone feels differently about this kind of stuff...but this is what is comfortable for us. The naked body doesn't automatically equate to anything sexual.
I shower/bathe with LO, and H does too sometimes. It definitely has more to do with what you're comfortable with. When she is old enough to ask questions, we will answer them openly.
She has been curious about nipples before. She tried to grab H's nipples as if there was something "on" him. In that situation, since we can't explain, we just redirect. She was over it pretty quickly.
IMO, making it something that's "hidden" means making it shameful. At least for a certain age. We will probably stop bathing/being naked around LO when we feel it is no longer appropriate. (probably around 4 or 5)
We both shower with my son, yup all 3 of us (hubs, me &DS). He loves to shower with us and play with his toys. We also have a 12 year old DD, but she doesn't see hubs naked or shower with us, lol.
My DS does reach up and try to touch DH's junk, but he just turns around or tells him to touch his own, lmfao. He doesn't try to touch me but when I wash "downtown" he does look and I kind of turn the other way or stop.
I am in my mid 30's and my mom still busts out of her clothes when I am around with 0 issue. My hubs also has memories of seeing his parents naked. He also remembers his mom telling him he couldn't see her naked anymore, but he thought he was 7 or older then.
I don't know but worrying about a kid under 1 year and maybe even up until 5 seeing you naked sort of makes me go hurm, what is the underlying issue with nakedness. Not trying to dig on anyone either.
I take baths with LO every night. She has a fantastic bath seat that clips over the edge of the bath so most of the time she just plays with her toys and forgets I'm in there unless I say something or gain her attention.
I don't think nudity is a bad thing by any means. But I would simply redirect LO's attention if your uncomfortable with LO's curiosity.
I wouldn't feel comfortable with Gavin touching my "area", but we don't bathe together, and I don't hang out naked, so that's not a problem.
As far as nakedness, he sees me naked when I undress to take a shower. I stick him in his baby Einsten (he still uses it!) so that he's entertained. Once he outgrows that, he'll go in his crib.
I don't have an issue with him seeing me or DH naked. The only times it ever happens is when I take a shower, or I'm changing midday and he's in the room. Once he gets older, that may change.
If the child is too young to understand "don't touch" then redirect.
SD is 6 & I have no problem with her seeing me naked. She has asked questions, of course - why I have hair in places she doesn't, etc. Her questions are answered honestly, & it's a non-issue.
Especially when we go to the beach, or if we are really pressed for time, I'll put her in the shower with me. If she expressed discomfort with it, or a desire for privacy, we'll stop.
She doesn't usually see DH naked, but that's more an issue of his comfort - he's not comfortable with it, & that's ok.
Bingo.
Ditto. DD (then 2) saw me with my boob hanging out so often when DS was a newborn, it doesn't even phase her. I still get dressed in front of her and don't give it another thought. Maybe sometime between 3 and 4 we'll revisit.