Pregnant after a Loss

Suggestions for Facebook announcement?

I'm planning on telling DS today that I'm pregnant and then want to make a Facebook announcement.  I was waiting until after my anatomy scan, which was the other day.  I think I'm going to say something about DS becoming a big brother, but sort of feel the need to mention my losses in some way.  I mentioned one on my original EDD, but obviously, not everyone sees everything you post.  I'm still worried that I'll get a comment like, "It's about time!" or "I was wondering when you were going to have another" (not as bad as the first, but still).  But I'm also not looking for sympathy or anything.  Any suggestions?
Baby Boy #1 born on 3/21/08 
BFP 8/2/10 (3w5d); No more heartbeat on 8/30/10 (7w4d); D&C on 9/2/10 (8w) - Baby Boy with Triploidy
BFP 12/3/10 (4w2d); Natural miscarriage 12/12/10 (5w4d) - Unknown cause
Diagnosed with Compound Heterozygous MTHFR
BFP 3/9/11; Baby Boy #2 born on 11/7/11
Currently TTC Baby #3

Re: Suggestions for Facebook announcement?

  • Maybe something like "Our long awaited baby" or "God has finally blessed us..." etc so people get the hint that you had been trying so the insensititve "It's about time" comments don't appear.  GL!

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  • A good friend of mine had her older child wear a shirt that said "I'm Gonna Be A Big Brother" and posted that on FB. It was really cute!
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  • I put something about this being baby P, take two. It kept the awkward comments away.
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  • When we were able to TTC again, it had been three years since our loss.  We had been married for 8 years so I was preparing myself for the same comments.  But my status said, "We have waited a long time for this but our dream has finally come true.  Baby N due August 25th!"  The only person that said anything ("So you finally figured out how to do it huh?" Confused ) was someone that didn't know we had a loss.
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  • "It's been quite a journey, but we are estastic to announce that XXXXX will be a big brother in (insert moneth of your choice)."

    My status was:

    Here it is?the official ?We?ve managed to make one plus one equal three? Facebook announcement: We are expecting a HEALTHY baby girl in July (so far, all signs are pointing to ?take-home-able?).

    In case procreation status updates leave you wondering how to respond, the following flow chart should prove useful:
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    I "came out" last Oct 15 on FB, so anyone who happened to read my status update on that date was aware of our losses.


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  • I saw one once that said something like "my doctor told me no drinking and no smoking for the next 9 months." It was worded cuter than that but you get the just.
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  • There are some really good suggestions here.

    I vote that if you do happen to get an awkward comment that you call them on it.  If someone says it's about time (or the like), just flat out say that you've had a loss.  Sometimes people just don't think before they say things, you know?

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  • ive thought about what i would say on FB because i had the same thought... i wanted to acknowledge what i went through because it was a huge part of my life... and i think im going to say "it was a long bumpy road but we are finally having a baby..." (not pregnant yet, but ive put thought into this for some reason... i wont figure out when my possible EDDs would be but i already know what i want to say on FB lol)
  • I would either say something like, "Our long-awaited miracle due ___", or "After much wishing, hoping, and heartache, we are thrilled to announce that we are expecting ____"

    Hopefully, people will get the hint!  If anyone makes a rude comment, definitely call them on it, whether publicly or privately.

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  • imageAngnShaun:
    ive thought about what i would say on FB because i had the same thought... i wanted to acknowledge what i went through because it was a huge part of my life... and i think im going to say "it was a long bumpy road but we are finally having a baby..." (not pregnant yet, but ive put thought into this for some reason... i wont figure out when my possible EDDs would be but i already know what i want to say on FB lol)

    This is so funny to me because I was the same way.  When trying to have my son, I ALWAYS tried to figure out my EDD months in advance.  More recently, I just stopped allowing myself to until I got a positive test.   Of course, that didn't stop me from thinking about other stuff and still knowing what month the baby would be born in!

    Baby Boy #1 born on 3/21/08 
    BFP 8/2/10 (3w5d); No more heartbeat on 8/30/10 (7w4d); D&C on 9/2/10 (8w) - Baby Boy with Triploidy
    BFP 12/3/10 (4w2d); Natural miscarriage 12/12/10 (5w4d) - Unknown cause
    Diagnosed with Compound Heterozygous MTHFR
    BFP 3/9/11; Baby Boy #2 born on 11/7/11
    Currently TTC Baby #3

  • imagedamabo80:

    "It's been quite a journey, but we are estastic to announce that XXXXX will be a big brother in (insert moneth of your choice)."

    My status was:

    Here it is?the official ?We?ve managed to make one plus one equal three? Facebook announcement: We are expecting a HEALTHY baby girl in July (so far, all signs are pointing to ?take-home-able?).

    In case procreation status updates leave you wondering how to respond, the following flow chart should prove useful:
    https://reface.me/humor/faceboo
    k-pregnancy-comment-flowchart/

    I "came out" last Oct 15 on FB, so anyone who happened to read my status update on that date was aware of our losses.

    That's awesome!

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