After reading that post, I feel like we are the only ones who haven't said anything to anyone yet (parents included)! Who hasn't shared yet? Why not?
We are waiting until 13 or 14 weeks because we will be on vacation over the 12 week mark and we just don't want any questions about whether we should be traveling (to mexico none the less :P). We had a loss last year and several family members commented that we told awfully early. So I guess the alternative is we are keeping it to ourselves!! Even though we've had two ultrasounds and heard the hb twice...I feel pretty safe at this point, but you just never know.
Re: RE: waiting to announce, why are YOU waiting?
MTHFR 2 copies of C677t mutation homozygous 2/2010
Baby A born via c-section 1/10/12 @38w3d
BFP #1 11/4/09 m/c 4w3d baby crab
BFP #2 12/4/09 m/c 9w3d baby lion
BFP #3 7/1/10 m/c 4w1d baby fish
BFP #4 5/8/11
BFP #5 8/17/12 10dpo beta 7
We're waiting because most of our family can't keep a secret to save their lives, and although we were ok with close family knowing early, we were not ready for the family bulletin to be released. I don't have my first OB appt until Monday, at 9 weeks, and we didn't want to tell anyone before that. We will be on vacation part of the time, so we're going to start telling people when we get back, and then tell most of our friends at our Fourth of July party.
The exception to this was telling my mom and stepdad and DH mom and dad on Mother's Day (these are the only 4 people who know at this point). I had just gotten my BFP and I needed to be able to talk to my mama. It has been a lifesaver, since so far, my pregnancy is very similar to both of hers. And DH was like, "if yours gets to know, then so does mine" - it was actually really cute, and telling them on Mother's Day was freakin' awesome.
BFP #2- 2/1/11,bleeding- 2/6/11, natural m/c @ 5wks
BFP #3- 4/29/11 - DS born 12/31/11
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BFP #1 09/20/10 Natural m/c 10/05/10
BFP! #2 04/21/11... Beta 16 DPO: 437, 18 DPO:1446 Ultrasound 6w6d TWINS!
Annabel & Sophia Born 11/28/11 at 34w6d
BFP #3 10/4/16... Beta 13 DPO: 145, 15 DPO: 367 12/1/16 It's a GIRL!
I honestly can't imagine not having had my mom's support last year when I had a m/c. Of course she was sad but she's my mom. DH was out of town and I was alone with DD at the Dr when I found out. Both my parents left work and came over to my house. My good friends' support was also valuable to me. I jsut think it would be so lonely to go through something like that with no one knowing except DH and I.
But, I do not want anyone else knowing this early. So, I'm waiting to tell everyone after my NT scan at almost 13 weeks.
ETA: By everyone I mean like FB everyone, we told immediate family and close friends right away.
I'm sorry to hear about everybody's losses. We have told a total of four people. (our summer roommate, my mother, and our best friends) We are trying really hard to not tell and hide it from everybody else. Particularly my mother-in-law since once she knows she going to tell the entire world and I'm not ready to have to whole world know.
I'm not sure I could have gotten away without telling anybody. That's impressive.
We have told 3 people (my Mom, and two of my close friends at work). Two other people have guessed (my sister and Grandma) based on my symptoms. Other than that we haven't told anyone else. We plan on telling hubby's Mom, Dad and sister after our 8 week appt. Everyone else will be told after we get through the 1st trimester. After our loss in March, I'm a little more hesitant with this pregnancy. We told those people that offered the most support with our previous m/c.
DD 1/3/2012
BFP 5/21/2013 MC 5/24/2013
BFP 7/16/2013 EDD 3/27/2014
Sigh. I'm really struggling with this. The first time we got pg, we told the WORLD immediately. We (meaning, DH) had to un-tell everyone when we had a m/c at 10w. It was completely devastating and we told ourselves we would never do that again. The second pg (resulting in our daughter) we didn't tell ANYONE until after the NT Scan at 13w. I was so anxious and stressed and emotional, I was so relieved to not have to talk about the pg at ALL - I was just trying to get through the first tri and pretend it wasn't even happening because I was so upset and worried.
This time ... things seem to be going very well, I've had betas and our first u/s was absolutely great. I'm carrying extra weight and I feel like it's completely obvious already - and it almost feels more of a burden to NOT tell people at this point. However, it is still early, I'm only 8w and there is still a chance this might not work out. I've told a few good friends but no family. If I tell my mom, she will want to tell the world and I'm not ready for that - so I don't want to torture her by making her keep that to herself (which she's probably not capable of anyway). So ... I don't know what we'll do. I'm thinking that if I can get the h/b on my doppler at 10w, I might just start sharing then - not on FB or anything big like that, but telling family. We'll see. I just think - if this ends in a loss, I don't want to have to try and remember who we've told and have to track them down - and who knows who they would have told in turn. So ... there you have it. It's a really big thing on my mind this past week.