January 2012 Moms

RE: waiting to announce, why are YOU waiting?

After reading that post, I feel like we are the only ones who haven't said anything to anyone yet (parents included)!  Who hasn't shared yet?  Why not?

We are waiting until 13 or 14 weeks because we will be on vacation over the 12 week mark and we just don't want any questions about whether we should be traveling (to mexico none the less :P).  We had a loss last year and several family members commented that we told awfully early.  So I guess the alternative is we are keeping it to ourselves!!  Even though we've had two ultrasounds and heard the hb twice...I feel pretty safe at this point, but you just never know.

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Re: RE: waiting to announce, why are YOU waiting?

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    We are waiting because of our previous losses...I am visiting back home with family in 2 weeks at just about 10 weeks  and if all is well we wanted to tell everyone else who didnt know at my birthday party. It is still a little earlier than I would like to tell but I  dont get to visit back home often and even though the parents and siblings know a lot of my friends I dont see often would be there
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  • We're waiting because most of our family can't keep a secret to save their lives, and although we were ok with close family knowing early, we were not ready for the family bulletin to be released.  I don't have my first OB appt until Monday, at 9 weeks, and we didn't want to tell anyone before that. We will be on vacation part of the time, so we're going to start telling people when we get back, and then tell most of our friends at our Fourth of July party.

    The exception to this was telling my mom and stepdad and DH mom and dad on Mother's Day (these are the only 4 people who know at this point).  I had just gotten my BFP and I needed to be able to talk to my mama.  It has been a lifesaver, since so far, my pregnancy is very similar to both of hers.  And DH was like, "if yours gets to know, then so does mine" - it was actually really cute, and telling them on Mother's Day was freakin' awesome.

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  • We are also waiting because of my previous losses. If all goes well at the doctor on Monday we are planning on telling our families on Father's Day which will put me at not quite 12 weeks. It is also a little earlier than I wanted to tell but I'm starting to feel much better about this pregnancy so I think that it will be ok to do it then. Eveyone else I'm not planning on telling until at least 14 weeks.
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  • My family is baby crazy and I know they would be thrilled! Until we're over first tri I don't want to get anyone else's hopes up. I also know they can't keep secrets about things like this, and I don't want the whole world to know until we're over this period.
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  • We're waiting cause I had a mc last summer.  We are going to tell our parents this weekend but that's it.  And that's only cause we saw a hb at the u/s.  Everyone else will have to wait till the 13th week or so.
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  • I don't have a great reason, honestly, other than our previous loss and the high risk nature of our pregnancy.  We have told some people a lot earlier than we would have, though, because of those two reasons, and we knew we would apperciate their support, and we do.



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  • I honestly can't imagine not having had my mom's support last year when I had a m/c. Of course she was sad but she's my mom. DH was out of town and I was alone with DD at the Dr when I found out. Both my parents left work and came over to my house. My good friends' support was also valuable to me. I jsut think it would be so lonely to go through something like that with no one knowing except DH and I. 

    But, I do not want anyone else knowing this early. So, I'm waiting to tell everyone after my NT scan at almost 13 weeks. 

    ETA: By everyone I mean like FB everyone, we told immediate family and close friends right away.  

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  • I'm sorry to hear about everybody's losses.  We have told a total of four people.  (our summer roommate, my mother, and our best friends)  We are trying really hard to not tell and hide it from everybody else.  Particularly my mother-in-law since once she knows she going to tell the entire world and I'm not ready to have to whole world know.  

     

    I'm not sure I could have gotten away without telling anybody.  That's impressive. 

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  • Our first pregnancy ended in m/c, too, after we'd already told everyone.  It was horrible having to tell everyone about the m/c.  So with DS, we waited until 10 weeks after we had an early u/s and heard the hb to tell everyone.  This time around we had 3 early ultrasounds and our RE said we had less than a 3% chance of m/c and if it was his baby he would be telling everyone...so we did!  If you're heard the hb twice, then you are probably in the same category as us, but to each his own.  
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  • Last year we told our families on Father's Day and then lost the baby two weeks later.  DHs parents were not visibly excited and I didn't hear anything from them after the loss.  My parents were sad, but we pretty much left town and said we needed some time.  Somehow I just can't imagine telling them all again on Father's day...it's too much like last year even though I am further along.
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  • We still haven't told anyone and for won't for at least a week and 1/2 longer.  I have a few reasons for this.  Main one is I want to make sure every things ok before we start telling ppl.
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  • We have told some people and I usually don't wait to tell.  I have had losses, but I actually like the support from others afterwards so it doesn't bother me.  We haven't made the big announcement this time because for the last week or so I have been bleeding off and on.  We don't know where it is coming from, but so far the baby seems fine.  People know, but we just haven't announced it to the world yet.  Waiting to see what will be the outcome of this bleeding episode. 






     

  • We have told 3 people (my Mom, and two of my close friends at work).  Two other people have guessed (my sister and Grandma) based on my symptoms.  Other than that we haven't told anyone else.  We plan on telling hubby's Mom, Dad and sister after our 8 week appt.  Everyone else will be told after we get through the 1st trimester.  After our loss in March, I'm a little more hesitant with this pregnancy.  We told those people that offered the most support with our previous m/c.

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  • We are waiting because of previous m/c like a lot of the girls here.   We had 2 good ultrasounds with a heartbeat, including one at 10 weeks and within 24 hrs of the last ultrasound the baby died and we didn't find out until 13 weeks at my NT scan.   So even though I've seen a heartbeat 3 times already, I'm still nervous and scared. 
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  • We are waiting. Our parents know, and we told my grandparents yesterday. Outside of that, our small group at church and a few close friends know. We are waiting until after my appointment next week (though we've heard the hb twice now), and then we will probably really start telling people.

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  • We're waiting until we hear the heartbeat on Thursday!! The only people who know are my brother and sister who for a few reasons had to help "hide" the pregnancy! It's been hard though so we will be relieved when we can finally tell everyone! Have fun in Mexico though, super jealous!!
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  • We are waiting similar to everyone else.  Because of previous issues and it took us a while to get pregnant this time, that I had stopped talking to people about it, because even though I know they are trying to be supportive I was tired of all the questions.  Or the comments  "just stop stressing and it will happen."   I am excited to tell people but want to wait a bit!
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  • with all our IF struggles we are soooo cautious. plus we live on the other side of the world from our family. we'll have to start telling around 10 weeks, since that's when we'll see family this summer.
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  • Sigh.   I'm really struggling with this.   The first time we got pg, we told the WORLD immediately.   We (meaning, DH) had to un-tell everyone when we had a m/c at 10w.   It was completely devastating and we told ourselves we would never do that again.   The second pg (resulting in our daughter) we didn't tell ANYONE until after the NT Scan at 13w.   I was so anxious and stressed and emotional, I was so relieved to not have to talk about the pg at ALL - I was just trying to get through the first tri and pretend it wasn't even happening because I was so upset and worried. 

    This time ... things seem to be going very well, I've had betas and our first u/s was absolutely great.    I'm carrying extra weight and I feel like it's completely obvious already - and it almost feels more of a burden to NOT tell people at this point.  However, it is still early, I'm only 8w and there is still a chance this might not work out.   I've told a few good friends but no family.   If I tell my mom, she will want to tell the world and I'm not ready for that - so I don't want to torture her by making her keep that to herself (which she's probably not capable of anyway).    So ... I don't know what we'll do.   I'm thinking that if I can get the h/b on my doppler at 10w, I might just start sharing then - not on FB or anything big like that, but telling family.    We'll see.   I just think - if this ends in a loss, I don't want to have to try and remember who we've told and have to track them down - and who knows who they would have told in turn.   So ... there you have it.    It's a really big thing on my mind this past week.

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