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Does anyone else feel like this? Dress code etiquette..

I have 3 mandatory dress code rules that I cannot for the life of me understand why others dont also adopt :)  I threw a baby shower this past weekend and 4 people showed up in jeans.  One had a zip up little hoodie thing on.  WTF!  My three rules are never ever wear jeans to a Baby Shower, Bridal Shower or Church.  Anyone else agree?  I just silently shake my head when I see people dressed so casually at these kind of events.  I sometimes feel it shows poor manners...flame away. 
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Re: Does anyone else feel like this? Dress code etiquette..

  • Its flame free friday though right?  Dont be too hard on me.  Im not saying you are bad person if you wear jeans to Church--I just dont get it. 
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  • Yes yes yes! I cringe when people wear jeans to a shower and my mother never let me attend church in jeans.

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  • I understand church, but showers. I go in jeans, but it's dressed up with dress shoes and a nice top. I have to wear dress pants everyday, I like wearing jeans when I can:)
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  • I am in triuble. I sm going to a baby shower tonight and was planning on wearing jean shorts. I also wear jeans to church but i go to a causal church and service. Hmmm....maybe i should change.
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  • The hoodie would bug me more than the jeans - I think jeans nowadays can be dressed up well enough that it wouldn't faze me at all to see them at a shower (although not sure I'd wear them but that's more because I enjoy an excuse to buy a cute dress), as long as they were darker/well fitted jeans with a dressy top and nice shoes, etc. Plus I think it depends on the formality of the shower. Our "shower" (sprinkle after he was born) for Toodle was a BBQ in my best friend's backyard. I'm pretty sure most wore jeans or shorts and I didn't mind at all.  I have no idea on church or what's appropriate, the only rule I'm familiar with there is that I know in Europe we weren't supposed to expose our shoulders when sightseeing in cathedrals.
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  • I wear jeans to church. My church is a contemporary service and they are very open about come as you are. There was even a guy in a Giants Jersey for Super Bowl Sunday. If they are dressy jeans I'm fine with them to showers... but regular jeans no. and no tennis shoes!

     

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  • imageHappycouple:
    I have 3 mandatory dress code rules that I cannot for the life of me understand why others dont also adopt :)  I threw a baby shower this past weekend and 4 people showed up in jeans.  One had a zip up little hoodie thing on.  WTF!  My three rules are never ever wear jeans to a Baby Shower, Bridal Shower or Church.  Anyone else agree?  I just silently shake my head when I see people dressed so casually at these kind of events.  I sometimes feel it shows poor manners...flame away. 
    Absolutely agree! I don't get it either!
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  • I think each church is different so I kind of just go with dressy unless I'm told otherwise, but showers I don't see a problem with nice jeans as long as they're with a dressy/nice shirt and dress shoes.  

    I guess the only exception would be if the location of the shower was somewhere super nice.  But most showers I've gone to are in halls, restaurants or people's houses. 

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    I am in triuble. I sm going to a baby shower tonight and was planning on wearing jean shorts. I also wear jeans to church but i go to a causal church and service. Hmmm....maybe i should change.

    Please keep in mind that this is just MY opinion.  Im sure many many people are fine with it  :)

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  • imageschmoodle:
    The hoodie would bug me more than the jeans - I think jeans nowadays can be dressed up well enough that it wouldn't faze me at all to see them at a shower (although not sure I'd wear them but that's more because I enjoy an excuse to buy a cute dress), as long as they were darker/well fitted jeans with a dressy top and nice shoes, etc. Plus I think it depends on the formality of the shower. Our "shower" (sprinkle after he was born) for Toodle was a BBQ in my best friend's backyard. I'm pretty sure most wore jeans or shorts and I didn't mind at all.  I have no idea on church or what's appropriate, the only rule I'm familiar with there is that I know in Europe we weren't supposed to expose our shoulders when sightseeing in cathedrals.

    I agree with you on the BBQ shower...then jeans would be acceptable in my eyes. Again, this is just an opinion. 

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  • imageHappycouple:

    imagemrsolsenk12:
    I am in triuble. I sm going to a baby shower tonight and was planning on wearing jean shorts. I also wear jeans to church but i go to a causal church and service. Hmmm....maybe i should change.

    Please keep in mind that this is just MY opinion.  Im sure many many people are fine with it  :)

    I know but because of this i just texted the mom-to-be asking what she thought. She oked jeans so now i won't worry about it.

    ETA: the shower is in the banquet room at a bowling alley so i think casual is good. 

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  • I agree with you in the no jeans to church.  However jeans now days are a fashion staple. I go out of my way to find great jeans that can be dressed up with the right other items. That being said if the shower was in the summer or spring I would wear a dress, but don't wear jeans in the summer they are too hot, but in the fall and winter I live in jeans unless I have a meeting for work and need to wear a suit or dress pants.

    As long as you are wearing "fashionable" jeans- meaning dark wash, good fitting I don't see anything wrong with it. Pair jeans with some heels and a dressy top with some good accessories and it's a very nice outfit.

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  • I'm in trouble too.  I wear jeans to church too.  The last time I got dressed up was for Nicholas' Baptism almost 2 yrs ago.  I do wear nice pants for work.  The last shower I went to was my own, so I got dressed for that one.  I don't see any baby showers in my near future, but if I do go to one, I'll dress up. 
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  • Embarrassed I am guilty as charged of wearing jeans to a shower. It was a BBQ one so maybe you will cut me some slack? Can we still be friends?

    Note to self: Don't wear jeans to happycouple's sprinkle.

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    I wear jeans to church. My church is a contemporary service and they are very open about come as you are. There was even a guy in a Giants Jersey for Super Bowl Sunday. If they are dressy jeans I'm fine with them to showers... but regular jeans no. and no tennis shoes!

     

    Yeah, basically this. I would never wear a t-shirt or hoodie, though. It has to be a nicer top and no sneakers. When I've attended more formal churches, I wore dresses, but the church I attend now runs the full spectrum. Our pastor even wears jeans (though he always wears a blazer unless it's too hot). At the church I grew up in, it has become so casual that you would actually look out of place in a dress, and I have worn skirts there and felt overdressed!

    For showers, I think you should make an effort to not look sloppy, but I wouldn't frown on anyone for wearing nice jeans.

    You are perfectly entitled to your point of view! :)

  • Hmmm...we wear jeans to church (and we are catholic) and I see much worse on a regular basis. But I think that is just the culture of our diocese, or at least the churches we frequent. From what I can tell, people don't really care. Meh. Now, if it is Easter or Christmas? That is a different story. We dress up for special days like that. However, I wouldn't wear jeans to a baby or bridal shower. Khakis or a casual dress, but no jeans.

    what drives me bonkers is someone who shows up at a WEDDING in jeans and casual clothes, when everyone else is all dressed up. Dude, if you know you are coming, pack something nice to change into!
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    imageHappycouple:
    I have 3 mandatory dress code rules that I cannot for the life of me understand why others dont also adopt :)  I threw a baby shower this past weekend and 4 people showed up in jeans.  One had a zip up little hoodie thing on.  WTF!  My three rules are never ever wear jeans to a Baby Shower, Bridal Shower or Church.  Anyone else agree?  I just silently shake my head when I see people dressed so casually at these kind of events.  I sometimes feel it shows poor manners...flame away. 
    Absolutely agree! I don't get it either!

    I 3rd this :)  But I love to dress up and just don't get why you would want to wear jeans to those kinds of things! 

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  • I wore jeans to my own baby shower... oops!  But, they were cute and I had a nice blouse on and heels.  It was a couple's shower at night, as opposed to a tea sipping shower, so there were lots of people there wearing jeans.  

    I'm typically a dressier dresser.  To each their own! 

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  • I'm a jean whore, I own tons of them and love them. I agree 100% with your "rules" and would never wear them to church or a shower.

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    imageladychicago:
    Hmmm...we wear jeans to church (and we are catholic) and I see much worse on a regular basis. But I think that is just the culture of our diocese, or at least the churches we frequent. From what I can tell, people don't really care. Meh. Now, if it is Easter or Christmas? That is a different story. We dress up for special days like that. However, I wouldn't wear jeans to a baby or bridal shower. Khakis or a casual dress, but no jeans.

    what drives me bonkers is someone who shows up at a WEDDING in jeans and casual clothes, when everyone else is all dressed up. Dude, if you know you are coming, pack something nice to change into!

    All of this, exactly :) 

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  • No flames, but... I thing jeans are fine for most of those occasions, especially when dressed up with appropriate tops and accessories. You have to take into consideration the venue when going to any of those places.
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    I agree. It's not something that really gets my feathers ruffled, except at church (although I'm sure there are some churches where it's the norm, as some pp mentioned). But I personally rarely wear jeans to parties, etc. I guess I just like the chance to dress up a bit more.

  • imageHappycouple:
    I have 3 mandatory dress code rules that I cannot for the life of me understand why others dont also adopt :)  I threw a baby shower this past weekend and 4 people showed up in jeans.  One had a zip up little hoodie thing on.  WTF!  My three rules are never ever wear jeans to a Baby Shower, Bridal Shower or Church.  Anyone else agree?  I just silently shake my head when I see people dressed so casually at these kind of events.  I sometimes feel it shows poor manners...flame away. 

    I know everyone doesn't agree with you, but I do.  I would NEVER go to temple in pants, no less jeans, (yes, I am a little more conservative than many) and I am always astounded when I drive past a church and see what people are wearing.

    Oh, and I'll add one to your list.  No jeans at a funeral, either!  My nephews, teenagers, came to my grandmother's funeral (not their blood relation, my nephews by marriage, but, still.....) in jeans, football jerseys, and baseball hats.  I just looked at my SIL like, are you freakin' kidding me!  I actually wanted to tell her what was not appropriate for them to wear to temple for Alana's baby naming.

  • imageHappycouple:
    I have 3 mandatory dress code rules that I cannot for the life of me understand why others dont also adopt :)  I threw a baby shower this past weekend and 4 people showed up in jeans.  One had a zip up little hoodie thing on.  WTF!  My three rules are never ever wear jeans to a Baby Shower, Bridal Shower or Church.  Anyone else agree?  I just silently shake my head when I see people dressed so casually at these kind of events.  I sometimes feel it shows poor manners...flame away. 

    I know everyone doesn't agree with you, but I do.  I would NEVER go to temple in pants, no less jeans, (yes, I am a little more conservative than many) and I am always astounded when I drive past a church and see what people are wearing.

    Oh, and I'll add one to your list.  No jeans at a funeral, either!  My nephews, teenagers, came to my grandmother's funeral (not their blood relation, my nephews by marriage, but, still.....) in jeans, football jerseys, and baseball hats.  I just looked at my SIL like, are you freakin' kidding me!  I actually wanted to tell her what was not appropriate for them to wear to temple for Alana's baby naming.

  • imageHappycouple:
    I have 3 mandatory dress code rules that I cannot for the life of me understand why others dont also adopt :)  I threw a baby shower this past weekend and 4 people showed up in jeans.  One had a zip up little hoodie thing on.  WTF!  My three rules are never ever wear jeans to a Baby Shower, Bridal Shower or Church.  Anyone else agree?  I just silently shake my head when I see people dressed so casually at these kind of events.  I sometimes feel it shows poor manners...flame away. 

    I know everyone doesn't agree with you, but I do.  I would NEVER go to temple in pants, no less jeans, (yes, I am a little more conservative than many) and I am always astounded when I drive past a church and see what people are wearing.

    Oh, and I'll add one to your list.  No jeans at a funeral, either!  My nephews, teenagers, came to my grandmother's funeral (not their blood relation, my nephews by marriage, but, still.....) in jeans, football jerseys, and baseball hats.  I just looked at my SIL like, are you freakin' kidding me!  I actually wanted to tell her what was not appropriate for them to wear to temple for Alana's baby naming.

  • Jeans at a baby shower seem fine to me, but then again, in San Diego, we always wear jeans and flip flops everywhere!

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  • imageMonkeysGirl05:
    No flames, but... I thing jeans are fine for most of those occasions, especially when dressed up with appropriate tops and accessories. You have to take into consideration the venue when going to any of those places.

    i agree with you =) What's wrong with jeans, a nice top and heels or dressy boots?

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