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Pregnant after 35
CheezeFace
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Not the same old question about "how to tell people"
CheezeFace
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Maybe I'm really weird. Seriously, tell me if this is strange. I can take it. I feel like a complete weird-o....
I really don't want to announce my pregnancy. To anyone. I've told my sisters and my best friends (and of course DH) and I have absolutely no desire to tell another living soul. I'm very excited, this is something I've wanted for years - I cannot figure out why I'm not singing from the rooftops.
All my friends are asking, "have you told anyone at work yet?" When I tell them "no", they look at me cross-eyed and tell me how much will power I have. It's not will power, though, it's that I haven't had one, single moment when I felt like I wanted to tell any of them. "Well, when are you going to tell them?" is always the next question and I answer, "when I have to." I figure this will be when I have grown out of my regular clothes. I was hoping to wait until about 5 months (6 if I could stretch it) to tell most people. Is this completely bizarre?
Why am I so shy about telling people? I know I'm generally a very private person but this feels really weird to me since even my inner-most circle thinks it's weird. Anyone else feel like this?
~Married 11/08~
~TTC since 01/09~
~SA & B/W - 06/09 - Normal~
~Encouraged by OB to "just keep trying" 06/09 - 06/10 (oh, the wasted time)~
~HSG - 08/10 - Clear/Normal~
~Lapo - 01/11 - Normal~
~Clomid 50mg, Trigger shot, Prometrium - 01/11, 02/11, 03/11~
~BFN - 02/11~
~IUI #1 03/15/11~
BFP 3/28/2011
Diagnosed with GD at 28 weeks. Controlled through diet and exercise. No insulin.
Diagnosed with Cholestasis of pregnancy @ 36 weeks.
Delivered via C-section @ 36 weeks on 11/9/11.
~TTC since 01/09~
~SA & B/W - 06/09 - Normal~
~Encouraged by OB to "just keep trying" 06/09 - 06/10 (oh, the wasted time)~
~HSG - 08/10 - Clear/Normal~
~Lapo - 01/11 - Normal~
~Clomid 50mg, Trigger shot, Prometrium - 01/11, 02/11, 03/11~
~BFN - 02/11~
~IUI #1 03/15/11~
BFP 3/28/2011
Diagnosed with GD at 28 weeks. Controlled through diet and exercise. No insulin.
Diagnosed with Cholestasis of pregnancy @ 36 weeks.
Delivered via C-section @ 36 weeks on 11/9/11.
TTC#2 for a few months naturally (ha!)
~IUI#1, Clomid, Trigger, 10/13 - BFN
~IUI#2, Femera, Ovidrel, 11/13
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Re: Not the same old question about "how to tell people"
i totally get it ...
when you are pg, you're life become 'public property' ... like people (even strangers) feel they have a stake in how you are doing, what decisions you make. it is maddening.
also, once you 'show' ... it is very weird that stangers 'know' things about you ... i'm not shy at all, and it really bugged me that people 'knew' my business without telling them.
this pg, i am being very conservative, i've told very few people and am a bit nervous this time around. but it won't last long because i am very close with some coworkers who know i am usually a lush ... and ... they know i've been trying ... and ... i'm pretty fat these days. so it's kind of hard to deny.
anyway, it seems perfectly reasonable to keep your cards close for as long as it works for you ... i know some women who don't 'go public' until they are at least 20 weeks.
I never thought about it this way before. Thank you so much for writing this. You have no idea how much better I feel. I cannot stand people to know 'my business'. I have no idea why - I'm just uber private. I think you hit the nail on the head. Seriously, thank you.
~TTC since 01/09~
~SA & B/W - 06/09 - Normal~
~Encouraged by OB to "just keep trying" 06/09 - 06/10 (oh, the wasted time)~
~HSG - 08/10 - Clear/Normal~
~Lapo - 01/11 - Normal~
~Clomid 50mg, Trigger shot, Prometrium - 01/11, 02/11, 03/11~
~BFN - 02/11~
~IUI #1 03/15/11~
BFP 3/28/2011
Diagnosed with GD at 28 weeks. Controlled through diet and exercise. No insulin.
Diagnosed with Cholestasis of pregnancy @ 36 weeks.
Delivered via C-section @ 36 weeks on 11/9/11.
I never thought about it this way before. Thank you so much for writing this. You have no idea how much better I feel. I cannot stand people to know 'my business'. I have no idea why - I'm just uber private. I think you hit the nail on the head. Seriously, thank you.
~TTC since 01/09~
~SA & B/W - 06/09 - Normal~
~Encouraged by OB to "just keep trying" 06/09 - 06/10 (oh, the wasted time)~
~HSG - 08/10 - Clear/Normal~
~Lapo - 01/11 - Normal~
~Clomid 50mg, Trigger shot, Prometrium - 01/11, 02/11, 03/11~
~BFN - 02/11~
~IUI #1 03/15/11~
BFP 3/28/2011
Diagnosed with GD at 28 weeks. Controlled through diet and exercise. No insulin.
Diagnosed with Cholestasis of pregnancy @ 36 weeks.
Delivered via C-section @ 36 weeks on 11/9/11.
I feel the same way.
I didn't tell work until May 18th and I am Due about September 5th! That would make me about 24 weeks when I told them ???
I told close family when I was about 8 weeks and most other people around 10 weeks, mostly b/c I was so excited. There is a part of me that wishes I had waited a little longer.
Alot of people will say it seems like I have been pregnant forever, and they also have no problem asking me personal questions or making really innappropiate comments. Sometimes it gets to the point where I don't even want to talk to people. Especially now that I am further along, people keep saying how huge I look and swollen and they don't think I will make it to my due date. It is driving me crazy. Also, I feel like they think they have a right to say what they want and touch my stomach all the time, which drives me crazy.
It is your pregnancy, your body and you can tell or not tell people whenever you want. Just do what feels comfortable and right for you.
You are soooo NOT a weird-o!! I actually haven't told many that I work with yet. Obviously, when they see me, most have something to say as I'm as round as a basketball, but many haven't said a word (and neither have I)! But I am also private about things in my personal life that don't need to invovle everyone and everything around me. When clients ask questions I keep it simple and move on.
Depending on how your body changes, you may be able to wait until 5 or 6 months. This being my 3rd little bundle, I pop out SUPER fast and stay big throughout....so there was no hiding a thing at 15-16 weeks!! Embrace your miracle and make it what you want. There really is no right or wrong in my opinion!!!