confession

BostonGayGal · June 2011

I post silly stories because often when I type honest responses to other posts, I can't find a way to soften my opinion enough for this board which to me seems so full of skittles and unicorns that if I am quiet I swear I can hear the faint singing of the Cinderella mice and birds as I click my keys.

I then tend not to respond because though I don't think I have ever posted a single mean thing (okay, fine, not a single mean thing that I can remember and certainly nothing mean on this board), I just feel like people are so super-sensitive-touchy- feely-will-you-please-be-my-friend that no one is actually posting anything that requires a non-rote response.

So I am am not waiting for snark per say, but I am hoping people loosen the heck up and stop taking themselves so seriously. And, I will stop there.

jen629 · June 2011

rosenb2b · June 2011

ITA. Some of the ladies here can attest to my "activity" on other boards - I'm typically not a lurker. I have tried to jump in here and be active but it's really hard because in my opinion, it's so P&R, it's almost uncomfortable!

littlemonster417 · June 2011

BostonGayGal:
I post silly stories because often when I type honest responses to other posts, I can't find a way to soften my opinion enough for this board which to me seems so full of skittles and unicorns that if I am quiet I swear I can hear the faint singing of the Cinderella mice and birds as I click my keys.
I then tend not to respond because though I don't think I have ever posted a single mean thing (okay, fine, not a single mean thing that I can remember and certainly nothing mean on this board), I just feel like people are so super-sensitive-touchy- feely-will-you-please-be-my-friend that no one is actually posting anything that requires a non-rote response.
So I am am not waiting for snark per say, but I am hoping people loosen the heck up and stop taking themselves so seriously. And, I will stop there.

amen

lp0 · June 2011

BostonGayGal:

I post silly stories because often when I type honest responses to other posts, I can't find a way to soften my opinion enough for this board which to me seems so full of skittles and unicorns that if I am quiet I swear I can hear the faint singing of the Cinderella mice and birds as I click my keys.

I then tend not to respond because though I don't think I have ever posted a single mean thing (okay, fine, not a single mean thing that I can remember and certainly nothing mean on this board), I just feel like people are so super-sensitive-touchy- feely-will-you-please-be-my-friend that no one is actually posting anything that requires a non-rote response.

So I am am not waiting for snark per say, but I am hoping people loosen the heck up and stop taking themselves so seriously. And, I will stop there.

lmao!

BFab11 · June 2011

::stamps feet and puts fingers in ears::

No! Everyone has to be nice and understanding and hold my hand and make me feel better all the time!! They just gotta!

SBT1977 · June 2011

I have a feeling (and a hope!) that once we all get to know each other better and feel a little more comfortable communicating with each other, some more straightforward opinions will come out. Anyway, that's how I, personally, work (even IRL, people always think I'm the sweetest person -- until I start to feel more comfortable and unleash the sarcasm...). I think if you have something helpful and honest to say, go for it -- there's no reason anyone needs to conform to the skittles-and-unicorns dynamic. I'd hate to think people are holding back from contributing unique and interesting perspectives because they're afraid of how others might misunderstand them... I, for one, would love to hear your honest responses. (... was that too much of a puppies & rainbow post?)

Amomtomanyluvs · June 2011

Lol everyone just needs to hang around TTGP board, which is far from puppies and rainbows most days. I used to be the way you mentioned you disliked, then I got my butt kicked in TTGP and put my big girl panties on.

Free2Sing · June 2011

I like the niceness, but I do find myself deleting things after I've written them (and before I click "post") because it'll just add unnecessary drama to everything.

CalMum_Momma · June 2011

If any of you know me, and some of you do, you know I am not going to sugar coat my beliefs or unpopular opinions. You can count on me to be honest, but there's no reason for uncalled for b!tchiness...if you're asking for it, that's a whole nother issue! Wink

mundayem · June 2011

rosenb2b:
ITA. Some of the ladies here can attest to my "activity" on other boards - I'm typically not a lurker. I have tried to jump in here and be active but it's really hard because in my opinion, it's so P&R, it's almost uncomfortable!

Yes

fightingravity · June 2011

I'm not a fan of MUD or cattiness or being snarky for the sake of being snarky and then blaming it on pg hormones...I think we're all big enough girls that we can take responsibility for our own bitchiness when it leaks out.

And I've hugely appreciated the positive support I've gotten on TB as a whole.

But I agree that I'd rather people be genuine than fake nice. Some of the best advice/support I've gotten on TB has been direct, honest, and not sugar-coated. So one more vote for saying what you think.

BritanyV · June 2011

I've been a part of a lot of "rough" boards, so I no longer have rainbows coming out of my rear with dreams of puppies and kittens and etc. So I also have a hard time responding sometimes. I try to be supportive but sometimes I'm just going to say the truth as it is. I try not to let it limit my posting but there are some posts I just can't do because there is too much sugar coated crap in them! lol

debrian08 · June 2011

I'm not totally sure I understand this totally. I like puppies, and I like rainbows!

But really, I think genuine honesty and frankness is fine, I think masking meanness under the guise of honesty is bs. And I think that is what happens on a lot of boards.

I think we can find a balance of P&R and B&S. Or at least I hope we can.

But please don't stop posting your silly stories. I love silly stories, especially the one about your day yesterday. Even though I'm sure it was not silly to you, it definitely put some of my symptoms into perspective!

Waiting4Fred · June 2011

rosenb2b:
ITA. Some of the ladies here can attest to my "activity" on other boards - I'm typically not a lurker. I have tried to jump in here and be active but it's really hard because in my opinion, it's so P&R, it's almost uncomfortable!

ITA. There are only so many ways you can say "you don't know it's twins until an ultrasound" or "Some spotting is normal. Some is not."

MrsMeMo · June 2011

BGG, in my opinion you have just the right amount of snark, sarcasm, and wittiness that this board (and a lot of others) need. I for one wish you'd post here more often.

To all the other ladies who don't want to be the first to break up the P&R, just say what you feel. We could do with a lot more honesty and straight-forwardness around here. Like on my name post today, I liked the positive responses, but wouldn't be hurt if someone said "Holy shiit McKee, you have craptastic taste in names" because 1. I asked for opinions, 2. I'm an adult and should be able to take criticism, and 3. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. Anyone who doesn't like the honesty is free to GBCB.

bear7328 · June 2011

I think there is a difference between being frank and honest and being a b!tch for no reason. So be honest, don't hold back what you're thinking and feeling. But don't just use the board to fill up your drama meter for the day.

iwantanugget · June 2011

Agree with BGG! Also...anyone else craving skittles now??? Stick out tongue

laceyann2008 · June 2011

Beccabot4:
Lol everyone just needs to hang around TTGP board, which is far from puppies and rainbows most days. I used to be the way you mentioned you disliked, then I got my butt kicked in TTGP and put my big girl panties on.

Yep, I kinda consider myself lucky that I got my TB intro and feel from TTGP... and to be honest, after all the arse kicking, snark, and biitchness had fallen away, I formed some friendships and still get a kick out of chatting with the ladies over there.

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