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erikawvuerikawvu
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Hi, I just found this board. I usually post on the 0-3 board. I am currently a SAHM  with my 4.5 year old and 2.5 month old DDs. My DH and I have been together for 7.5 years. I am from West Virginia, but recently moved to Illinois at 36w pregnant for DHs job.  Big adjustment! I am going to school for nursing, my youngest DD had an emergency surgery at six weeks of age, and it has really swayed me toward the profession. I'm not really sure what else to put in the Intro LOL so I will move on!

 

On to my question!

DD1 (4.5 yrs old) seems like she has no self confidence. I am wondering if there are things I can do to try to help her? Or is it a phase? She is super shy when strangers talk to her, which is understandable. But she feels like everyone "makes fun of her", when they really aren't. For instance, we walk the track every evening, and some college students were out and said "Aw you are so cute!!" And she looked super mad and said "They made fun of me!" I tried explaining to her,that they were laughing at her actions, not at her. And she wouldn't believe me. I just felt awful for her. She doesn't like to try new things/acts afraid of new situations She has been in pre-school and seemed to do ok, with the occasional bickers with other girls "She said she isn't my friend".. normal kid arguments.

I was the same way as a kid, so is this something that is inherited? I'm not the most social person anymore after certain events, but I am better/happier now. I am just worried for DD. I want her to not be afraid of things or people without forcing things down her throat.

 

Well, I hope I made a little bit of sense in that jumbled mess. 

I look forward to sharing stories about each others' LOs! :)

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  • Mrs.JLCMrs.JLC
    My DD is a bit younger than yours (she will be 3 in July) and she went through a "don't laugh at me phase." I just explained to her that laughing was a sign of happiness and that if something she did made people laugh that it was making them happy. Now she is a complete clown and is always trying to do things that will make people laugh. She was never quite as shy as your DD so I don't know if it would work for you but it never hurts to try.
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  • erikawvuerikawvu
    Thank you for the suggestion! I will try explaining that to her. :)
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  • n&bcarlsonn&bcarlson
    I think some of it really is inherited.  I watch my 3yo DD in a crowd of kids and she is so much like me.  She takes a long time to watch and warm up, and then finally gets comfortable.  When she is just with one kid, she's way more outgoing, again just like me.  The best you can do is keep reinforcing that people aren't laughing at her and are being friendly. Maybe find something she enjoys like dance or music that will encourage her to put herself out there a little more, and just keep helping her try new things until she slowly gets better at it.
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