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2nd Trimester
MesmrEwe
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Ugh - I've just got to hormonally vent here..
MesmrEwe
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O.k.. I gotta vent... I'm SO tired of hearing people tell me "don't overdo it, you'll always have _________ in your life to do..." or "don't do anything to risk the baby"... O.k. I'm just getting flipp'n tired of these type of comments. Seriously, the baby is with me 24/7 and if I so much as eat a single BITE of something baby doesn't like, I'm sick as can be. If I overdo it, baby lets me know IMMEDIATELY to back off. I don't do anything to put myself or the baby at a physical risk, that's a given. OTOH, I'm not going to sit on my butt this entire pregnancy, I'm going to train to what my body will allow on any given day even though it's frustrating my training partners because I'll get set up to go and either puppy bladder strikes or I've got to do what I need to do not to hurl all over and they'll have to wait. Granted, they're more understanding than my groom, but seriously, I was physically active before I got preggers, why would I stop now.
Then comes the having to keep things quiet as can be about the pregnancy. Because of my hubby's work situation with his family's business, we can't just announce to everyone in the family that I'm expecting because of statements that have been made about DH & I having another kid how they think he can't handle extra work responsibilities (mind you, they don't know and they're saying this stuff!). O.k. there are a lot more women in harder situations with their SO's off at war right now than we've got it. Granted, DH works insane hours year-round, and I'm accepting of that even if he needs more hours, I knew that going IN to our relationship that this would be the case. My attitude is "do what you need to do" for him with his family's business, we'll manage! I no longer am affiliated with his famiy's business, so I really look at this as what difference should it make to them for making BUSINESS decisions that *I* am pregnant..
I guess I'm more pissed that I just can't share being happy this time around (actually enjoying this pregnancy somewhat- within reason - let's not kid ourselves). I want to share the pregnancy, but with statements that some of my IL's have made and another friend who's not speaking to me because I didn't tell her immediately the second the pee test was positive (just MAYBE I wanted to tell MY MOM first)... I've hit the point that I'd be happy NOT letting some people know until it's time for the Baptism. It shouldn't be that way, but I'm just getting more and more frustrated with some of the people in my life...
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Re: Ugh - I've just got to hormonally vent here..
And BTW...what the heck are you going to do when you start to show?? His family is going to find out eventually, so what do you have planned? Are you going to slowly inform them, or are you going to hide it for as long as possible?? Or deep down, are you just waiting for someone to find out on accident...since that IS what usually happens! ;-)
LOL - yea - hence the vent here - The very people I CAN talk to about things are some of the above mentioned in the first paragraph... At some point I'll be able to go out for a "Cranberry" (juice) with the crew just to unwind, but that's not likely to happen anytime soon. I know people are only trying to be "helpful" but there's that magic point where if not for the life filters you'd love to say "I'm pregnant not incapacitated!"
When it comes to the IL's, the MIL knows but has been sworn to secrecy for above mentioned reasons and she's fully supportive of not letting the word out BECAUSE of the business situation right now. Thankfully I don't interact with most of my IL's with any frequency (holidays mainly), so I'm not about to bite anyone's idiotic head off for making the above mentioned statements and successfully avoided the subject at Easter (answered the SIL's question with "Eh, when the time is right I'll pop out another one" - she didn't need to know that'll be sometime in December...) I am able to "hide" better than most since I never lost the "bump" in front after my first pregnancy, so even though I notice the filling back in, it's pretty easy to hide given my body shape and distribution. I know eventually I won't be able to hide it, but still... Just NOT what I had in mind being married for 7 years LOL.. What you mentioned really is the frustration, as an adult I shouldn't have to hide or be afraid of this all!!! Problem comes that we're talking our income (I'm primarily an at-home-mom, so cutting DH's hours means cutting our household pay and we can't keep taking the financial hits the guy that was left in charge of the business keeps handing DH)...
Too bad you can't kick back and have a drink, Lord only knows how many times I could have used one during this pregnancy!!
This!!! LOL!