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Invite out of state fam to shower??

strawberryknstrawberrykn member
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Hi ladies, my sister wants me to put a list of ppl together for my baby shower and was curious if I should invite my family that is out of state.  I don't want them to feel left out just because they don't live in PA but I'm 99% sure they won't come due to the distance.  My in-law side (aunts) will be invited cause they live close.  Would I be lying if I said I didn't want a gift???...yes, but that really isn't the main reason.  Just like my cousin just sent me a graduation announcement for her son, we usually send a check as a congrats gift in our family.  What would you honestly do?? 

P.S. they were all invited to my bridal shower as well....and yes this is my first child, I would never for a second child.

 TIA!

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  • KellieD6708KellieD6708 member
    I would say yes. I usually invite friends and family that don't live near to stuff us just so they feel included. I know they wont make it I just like to send them invitations and I usually get invitations to stuff from them as well.
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    imagestrawberrykn:

    Hi ladies, my sister wants me to put a list of ppl together for my baby shower and was curious if I should invite my family that is out of state.  I don't want them to feel left out just because they don't live in PA but I'm 99% sure they won't come due to the distance.  My in-law side (aunts) will be invited cause they live close.  Would I be lying if I said I didn't want a gift???...yes, but that really isn't the main reason.  Just like my cousin just sent me a graduation announcement for her son, we usually send a check as a congrats gift in our family.  What would you honestly do?? 

    P.S. they were all invited to my bridal shower as well....and yes this is my first child, I would never for a second child.

     TIA!

    Yes for two reasons, 1. bc they will want to be included and 2. bc they will buy a gift! :) And that is just fun!

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  • java2150java2150
    All of our family resides out of state and I have had two different family members call asking when the shower was, they actually want to fly out for it. So yes invite them, you never know who will show up or what will arrive in the mail.
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  • octbride2006octbride2006 member
    invite them!  I am sure they are just as excited as your are for the baby!!
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  • JIll1213JIll1213
    Just invite them, it's their decision whether on not they can come.  You wouldn't want them to feel unwanted.  Who knows maybe they are looking for a reason to travel!
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  • novlove11novlove11
    I am inviting my out of state family to my shower as a courtesy, I know if I sent to the rest of the family & didn't send to them they would feel left out- out of state or not. I am having my first child too :) Congrats on your first baby strawberrykn!
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  • MrsT2008MrsT2008 member
    Absolutely invite them.  My entire extended family is out of state and I can't imagine not inviting them.  They may surprise you and show up!
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  • Xtine22Xtine22 member
    I agree with yes invite them. I am the one that lives out of state from my entire family and was very hurt when I was not invited to my cousins baby shower. Would I have gone? Maybe, maybe not but I still would have like the option to be mine.

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  • lisamonkee11lisamonkee11 member

    I agree with everyone here. I'm in a similar situation in that I live fairly far away from my family (about a 4-5 hour drive) but my situation is complicated by the fact that I'm not really very close with my family. I invited them all to my wedding reception (we had a destination wedding) and none came (or sent anything, not even a card) but I still feel like I should include them by inviting them to the baby shower even though I'm 99% sure they won't come (or send anything).

    It makes me feel like at least I'm making an effort. Even if they don't.

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  • strawberryknstrawberrykn member

    Thank you everyone for your opinions!  I will go ahead and invite them :)

    .....Now how about cousin-in-laws??  Hehe I have more female cousin-in-laws out of state that actual female cousins.  Should I invite them as well or just keep it to my aunts and cousins?  I'm a pain, I know...just don't want to look like an idot!  Thanks again!

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  • Liz4444Liz4444 member
    When it comes to cousins, if you have a lot like we do, we cut off after first cousins.  So invite your, your DH, your parents, your FIL and your MILs first cousins. 
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  • bigbanka2005bigbanka2005 member
    Yes! they will want to know and if they cant come they can mail a baby gift
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  • seanandcallieseanandcallie member
    I invited OOS family to  my shower for DD,and was happily surprised that my cousin and her daughter came as representatives of that part of the family.She was so thrilled to be invited. She said that no one ever invited them to stuff like this since they live so far away, and she was so honored that I/we did. :)
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