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How do you feel about this? (DC/ Parent communication) long.
Alright, this may be flame worthy. Here goes: I work in a daycare center with 2 year olds. Right now, we have a good portion of our class that is new (5 new kids, new to the routine, new to daycare). We write a daily sheet for each child, to let Parents know how their day was. Some of them are having a tough time. Today our director came in and talked to us, saying that one of the afternoon staff told a new parent that their child had a rough day (which was true) and was hard to console for about 45 minutes. The child was taken on a walk outside of the classroom, played one on one with various teachers and was held as well. The afternoon staff just couldn't get him settled down and happy. Then, something just clicked and he attached to a teacher and just wanted to be with that staff for the rest of the afternoon. Anyways, The director told us about this and said that it was unacceptable for the staff to relay that information to a parent. We are NEVER to tell a parent that their child cried, let alone how long they cried during the day. Is this weird to anyone else?? My son is in the infant room and, as a parent, I would expect to know if he had a rough day. I would especially want to know this info if he had never been in daycare before! Maybe I'm weird? So, along with that we are only supposed to tell parents (new or not) positive things about their child's day. If they were aggressive, had a hard time following directions or listening, threw fits or just had an off day we are NOT supposed to pass on that information. I think its ridiculous. IMO a parent should know if their child is having a hard time sharing, or not listening, or hitting and kicking teachers (or whatever the case may be). Thoughts? What would YOU as a parent expect to hear about your childs day? Annnnd... Sorry about the format, I'm bumping from my phone.
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Re: How do you feel about this? (DC/ Parent communication) long.
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As a mom of a very "passionate" three year old, I want to know about the rough patches. The teachers rarely share this info though. I am not sure what the overall policy is.
I did discuss his mood issues with his current teacher at a conference recently and told her that we have similar issues at home that we are trying to work out. Since then, she will write a ton of positive things and then sometimes make a note that says something like "was in a good mood but seemed a bit sensitive." I DO want to know about his day. Not just all the good stuff. I believe in honesty and full disclosure. Otherwise, what is the point of the reports at this age?
I would ask your director why you are not supposed to tell parents these things? I agree with pp's. I WANT to know what is going on with my child. Maybe we hae a similar situation at home and I can suggest something that we did at home to help.
It is very weird to me that she told you you can't disclose these things.
Same here. My DD is in a small, in-home daycare with four other kids. She and her "secret twin" (the only other girl and they are 2wks apart in age) alternate between loving each other and being obnoxious little slap-fighting divas. And if Stinky smacks her twin on the butt and steals her toys and makes her cry, I want to know. If the Twin is having a hormonal day and retaliates, I want to know. And when they are cute and playing together, I want to know. The twin's parents are nice and we all laugh about their antics. But knowing how DD is doing socially is helpful.
I want to know what's going on, but I'm pretty sure the emphasizing of all the good is pretty standard.
I would expect if something out of the norm happened w/ your kid, they should tell you b/c it could be an indicator of something else.
I absolutely want to know if DD had a hard day at daycare. Right now she's only 10 weeks old, so if she's been fussy all day I need to know...Since she can't talk, those are the cues I go on to see if she is sick or if something is wrong.
I think it also builds trust in the daycare to tell the parents if the child had a rough day. That way I know that they aren't trying to hide anything if LO is acting funny, it's just been a rough day.
You might want to have your director rethink this policy. A parent needs to know what happens at daycare because being a working mother, I don't get to spend a lot of time with my kid. If she is having rough days every day, maybe I need to re-evaluate the way things are done or the facility she's at. I don't want my child to be miserable and I don't want to be shocked if a major problem comes up and I wasn't made aware of a few small issues that contributed.
Ditto all the PP's - I would be very upset with my daycare if they were not honest with me about how LO's day was. The form our daycare sends home has a section with moods and the teachers check off if they were happy, fussy, etc.
Usually I hear they had a great day, but sometimes DS is clingy and sometimes DD is sensitive, or refuses to eat. Parents need to know this stuff and any reasonable parent knows kids have bad days sometimes. Maybe they can give you some pointers on how to help the kid adjust.
That's a great idea! Would you be willing to scan a copy of one of these? I would love to give that to our daycare. I find that information always lacking on his current sheet. They have just a comments section and I think it needs to be a little bit easier for them to describe his moods.
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