Having 'guilt' for conceiveing spontaneously...

Happycouple · June 2011

PLEASE for the love of GOD dont feel like this. Yes, it may make some people envious, but sheesh what an amazing blessing. This may just be how I feel, but I would never judge anyone or think that you dont belong for conceiving the natural way. The LAST thing ANYONE on this board needs is to feel guilty about how they concieved. Its like saying that someone who concieves via IVF succesfully on the first try should feel guilty because for others it take multiple attempts

mrsolsenk12 · June 2011

I agree

vandelay · June 2011

I agree as well.

dana316 · June 2011

Amen.

I refuse to have guilt about it. What a complete waste of energy and emotion...as it does no good to anyone.

When I think of my children, all I want to think about is love. Like I said before, to hell with guilt!!

KYRN · June 2011

I agree. I wouldn't say I have guilt about it, more just wonder if I don't belong here. I guess it doesn't matter at this point because you guys are stuck me now.

schmoodle · June 2011

KYRN:
I agree. I wouldn't say I have guilt about it, more just wonder if I don't belong here.

LOL, I'm the opposite. It never occurred to me that I wouldn't belong here since we did do IVF and had a very clear infertility diagnosis (multiple actually), but I still can't help but feel bad about conceiving on our own, particularly when I see so many struggling for their first still (and my friends here trying for #2/3 without success - yet!). But I appreciate the reassurance, blog posts like the one I mentioned just get my hackles up and make me worry I'm this big, mean, insensitive "conceived on her own" gal and that people must resent me.

WillisReincarnated · June 2011

I totally agree. I'd have 0 guilt if I became spontaneously pregnant. As I said before, even a blind squirrel finds a nut every once in a while.

kittylove · June 2011

I agree! Very well said my friend!

Mouseygail · June 2011

Temp848906437505510 · June 2011

I also think there is no reason to feel guilty. Listen, if you have all the right parts and the parts are all doing the right thing and you are having unprotected sex, even with the worst of odds, there is a chance that you can get pregnant. For some, that chance, no matter how slim, becomes a reality. That doesn't mean that they didn't "need" treatment for a previous pregnancy.

I can understand the feelings of guilt as you watch others continue to struggle, but, that would mean that any of us, once we achieved a successful pregnancy, would/should feel guilty because others are still struggling. We can, and should sympathize or empathize, but, we shouldn't feel guilty.