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Intro - Managing Stress

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Hi Ladies -

I've been lurking the boards since I found out I was pregnant in April. According to all the online due date calculators (and I think I have used every single one!) I am in my 12th week of pregnancy. The date of my LMP being 03.14.2011. I had my first doctors appointment last week which was little more then a confirmation of the pregnancy, bloodwork and a pap. I have my first u/s next week.

Last year I had a missed miscarriage which was discovered at my first u/s appointment so I am terrified it is going to happen again. I have no children, not much of a baby person to begin with but after going through that experience I know I want a baby!! I am excited - just very, very nervous.

In addition to being stressed out about possible miscarriage I kicked my boyfriend out of the house last week. And my mom has been in and out of hospital's after a bout of pneumonia turned into sepsis. It's been a stressful few months for me...

I am concerned that all this stress is manifesting and I am not sure how to let it out but I know I need too. Today, I laid down for a nap and woke up crying because I had a very negative dream and then I cried myself to sleep for nap number 2. I just know that I am hurt, angry, sad and scared.

 I guess my question is - how do you handle stress?

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  • Michele&ChrisMichele&Chris

    I'm not the poster child for how to handle stress so I probably don't have a solution for you, but here's what I do... I take short walks in the evening, lay down and take deep breathes when things get too overwhelming, or cry to my husband. Many women have recommended yoga, but we started moving into a new home (no stress there) about 2 weeks ago so my family room is a little too full of boxes and other "stuff" to really have the space right now :(

    I've had losses also, you can't hold on to the negative experiences. You have to just keep moving forward. I've had many dreams of miscarriages, but when I wake up and I'm not bleeding I just thank God that it was just a dream. On the plus side - you have time to take a nap during the day!!

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     I have no children, not much of a baby person to begin with but after going through that experience I know I want a baby!! I am excited - just very, very nervous.

    I'm the same way with you there, I held a baby for the first time last year and I looked so awkward and uncomfortable. But I know I want this baby and I am so happy to meet it :) I think we will change into baby people, haha.

    As for stress, I'm also horrible at dealing with stress as well. When I'm feeling anxious or stressed I try to distract myself by watching tv, being on the bump or just thinking about happy stuff like planning for the baby.

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  • MehllersMehllers
    I spend hours on the internet reading The Bump message boards.  It makes me feel less alone.  I go for drives in scenic areas of my city.  I also have a close friend in my neighborhood and I go to her house and sit with her, sometimes all day.  She just had her second baby and understands what I'm going through.
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  • JBMarq3JBMarq3 member

    We all have our issues and losses that contribute to our strees. I have recently lost my dad which was a very traumatic loss for our family but just remember that you need to keep going and move on with life. Be happy, even when it seems impossible, SMILE! Crying is ok, venting is a must but dwelling on your stress is bad.

    Just like some of the other posts say, that is what the bump is here for! We are all going through the pregnancy and just know that some of us are actually going throuhg exactly what you are and we can relate. You are never alone!!

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  • punnkdorkpunnkdork

    Thanks ladies of The Bump -

    I was just feeling super overwhelmed yesterday but today my attitude is much better. I think, I am going to start walking in the evenings as suggested. I have a couple of shih tzu's who would probably appreciate the change in scenery!!

    @ noodle

    My total baby holding experience is probably less than 10 minutes - eight of which was forced on me by my sister with my neice!! =) Babies terrify me but I know that will change when I have one of my own.

    @ JBM

     I am sorry to hear you lost your father. I cant even imagine going through that let alone pregnant. Thank you though for your kind words - it does make me feel better to know that I am not alone and have a place to vent.

     

     

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