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When will the honeymoon be over?

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My ticker is misleading, I had my daughter on the first of June at 39 weeks, having bump issues and can't seem to change it.  Lucy, our daughter, came home with us on the third and her big brother (my 20 month old) doesn't seem to mind when she cries, other than to come get me and make sure I know that she's sad, and is constantly burying his face on her and kissing her/trying to hug her when she's in the bouncy seat or on his level.  He hasn't been jealous at all yet when I'm holding her, and if she's in the bassinet or crib, he keeps running over to peek at her or reach through the slats to pat her.

I babysat my niece for a little over a year from the time Henry was 9 months and she was 2 months, so he's used to having a smaller child around getting half of my attention, but I can't believe how chill he's been.  My niece is now old enough to toddle after him and steal toys from him, and his disposition is pretty kind-he usually gives her the toy and pats her, or he tries to move away saying "NO".  He's hit her only once over the past year, and when she began to cry, he cried too.

However, it's only been a couple of days and I doubt this will last, especially when my husband has to begin spending more time on work again (he works from home, so luckily he'll be here to pitch in if I'm really losing it, since I stay-at-home.)

When did your oldest start to act jealous or resentful?  Is it possible that the jealousy/dislike will wait until she starts getting into his things?

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  • bridgeybridebridgeybride
    I've heard from some friends with similar age differences that toddlers that age might not develop jealousy that young.  I'm hoping it is true, b/c my LOs will be the same age difference as yours...  count your blessings!!! 
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  • CaitlinJ22CaitlinJ22 member

    my DS was jealous of other babies even before I had DD. The first two weeks were rough for us when she came home. Id say, if your son is used to having a little one around, he may be fine. But I am sure when the baby is awake more, you may have more moments of them both needing things and you cant get it all done at once. When DD was really little it was easier, when she hit 4 or so month it got harder, but it wasnt that bad. But jealousy wise...he is pretty good. 

    enjoy it! 

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  • PAmiler82PAmiler82
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     her big brother (my 20 month old) doesn't seem to mind when she cries, other than to come get me and make sure I know that she's sad, and is constantly burying his face on her and kissing her/trying to hug her when she's in the bouncy seat or on his level.  He hasn't been jealous at all yet when I'm holding her, and if she's in the bassinet or crib, he keeps running over to peek at her or reach through the slats to pat her.

    Drew is still doing all of this and we're almost to 7 weeks.  I tend to think that he's too young to be jealous of her.  He does get frustrated with me from time to time when I can't pick him up or play with him right when he wants.  But that is only directed at me and not her.

    I think the combination of his disposition and his age have helped make this a smooth transition for him.  

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  • kfrisciakfriscia member
    My son was 19 months when the baby was born and we never had much jealousy. He was never bothered by the baby until much later when he became mobile and started showing interest in his toys.
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  • TelycoTelyco

    imagekfriscia:
    My son was 19 months when the baby was born and we never had much jealousy. He was never bothered by the baby until much later when he became mobile and started showing interest in his toys.

    Same here.

    The honeymoon period ended the second DD started walking. And I'm counting down the days till Kindergarten - hehe.

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  • roundtheworldgirlroundtheworldgirl member
    DD1 was jealous for the first few weeks, but no longer.  Mine are 12.5 months apart and the only problem we really have is that DD1 loves DD2 a little too aggressively sometimes.  But she's not jealous or resentful at all. 
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  • kcisthebombdotcomkcisthebombdotcom member

    For me, I'm 5 months into it and the honeymoon hasnt ended (yet!) I hear when the 2nd one gets mobile and starts taking toys that it gets tougher. *knock on wood* when I take DS to playgroups with other kids he doesnt really get upset when they take his toys, so I'm hoping we still have a while to go before it gets tricky. A girl can always dream, eh?  :)

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  • angelprobertsangelproberts
    I've been thinking the same thing. DD is 14 months and DS was born on June 1st too. She gets upset when he cries but just so that she can hug him. She does get aggressive in her "loving" but that's about all we have going on. I'm scared of when the honeymoon will be over.
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