Gifts for baby- I'm going to sound like a brat but here goes:

LIAngel · June 2011

I have this one friend, whom I have been friends with since we were in Preschool. She is literally my very 1st friend that I remember (like if I was friends with anyone before the age of 3, I have no recollection. but I clearly remember the day we met). Anyway, we don't talk often (She's in FL, I'm in SC) and haven't seen each other since my wedding in 2004. But when we do talk, it's like no time has past and I'm sure the next time we see each other it will be like that too. I cried when I saw her in 2004, since it had been a while since we had seen each other.

Nicholas was born in 2009 and she never sent me a gift. I was a little hurt, but I'm a big girl and realize that she is not obligated to send me a gift.

2010- I find out she is pg (due in June 2011) and we start talking more often. Compare pgncys and I tell her I'm glad we are pg together (even though I'm about 14 weeks ahead of her). I got an invitation to her baby shower, which I didn't/couldn't go to since it was in FL. I sent her a gift.

Ava was born 10 weeks ago and I still haven't gotten a gift. I don't get it. I sent a gift for her baby boy and I get nada. Oh and I sent her a wedding gift when she got married in 2007 and never even got a thank you.

Part of me regrets sending her the baby gift, but I felt obligated since I did get a shower invite.

So yes I sound like a brat.

amberleeb · June 2011

You don't sounds like a brat at all! I would be a little hurt too. Some people are just no good at gift giving and thank you's which I think is very rude. If I get a gift I write the thank you the right away so I don't forget about it!

KYRN · June 2011

I get it. And I don't think you're wrong for feeling the way you do.

EastCoastBride · June 2011

I hear where you're coming from, but I think it's time to realize that you're probably friends w/ her more because of the history you have than for the reality of who you each are now.

Moving forward, I would only do what you know you wn't be upset about if you don't get the same in return.

And just as a side note, a shower inviitation does NOT require you send a gift if you can't go!

MzConde129 · June 2011

Is she financially stable to be able to buy a gift? If so, don't let it bother you! Feel good that you did something good. Sometimes we just have to do good things and not expect anything in return. I would just let it be and see how much of a friend she really is, even with the distance. Try not calling or contacting her. Wait until she does. If she doesn't then maybe you guys just have grown apart.

greyt00 · June 2011

You're not a brat. I'd feel the same way, too. Even if you gave drifted apart I think it's only polite to reciprocate and send you something. I agree on not contacting her -- I would see what happens with that, but only if you are prepared to accept it if she never reaches out to you. It might turn out that way. I'm currently trying to decide how to handle a friend who I feel has totally blown me off since I had my baby. She went to a friend's kid's birthday party a couple weeks after she said she would come see us (and didn't). She ignored my email to her after that saying that I missed her (I emailed b/c I hate the phone). She has never seen my LO before, and I'm pretty sure she has seen this other lady's kids many times. It was a 6-year old b-day party. I know the best way to reach her is phone, but now I don't even want to call her because I'm hurt.

SeaSoul · June 2011

That would bother me, but I have to admit I have become really bad about gifts & thank you notes, especially since Cal was born. I used to be SO on top of things. Now I'm terrible, especially if it requires sending something. I'm sure she has the best of intentions - I know I do!!

PrincessShay80 · June 2011

No you don't sound like a brat at all, I would be ticked off and I would be done getting her gifts. Not sending a thank you note would upset me more then not getting a baby gift- that is just rude. I'm still mad at people who came to my wedding and did not bring a gift,

newsbaby · June 2011

You are not a brat at all. Even if she can't afford to send you a gift, she is obligated to send a thank you for the ones you sent.

JGirl2005 · June 2011

I'd write her off.

I mean you can be friends with her, but I wouldn't expect anything from her (or send her future gifts).

I have a friend like that. she never came to my wedding in 2005 alhtough she rsvp'd for her and her daughter. She never came to my baby shower and then I didn't invite her to my 2nd baby shower. I just gave up on her. Are we friends? Well, she posts sometimes on facebook, but we aren't friends like we once were. Some people can't be happy for others or something...

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