Please tell me this will get easier

armywife76 · June 2011

I know so many of you have been through this and much worse, but man does it sting. I think the waiting for it to physically be over is harder than just knowing it's over. Hpt was almost a bfn today, so I guess it won't be much longer. DH sent me flowers at work, which was the sweetest thing in the world. I have a great hubby

I just feel so sad and can't sleep, which is making it worse. Thanks for listening.

Temp893722312503334 · June 2011

(((hugs))). It takes time, but time will begin to heal you. I won't lie - you will never forget or really ever be the same once you've experienced loss but as the days go by, you will think of it less and less and the tears will dry up.

Just give yourself time to grieve and talk about it if it helps. Do something special for yourself - something that makes you feel good - shop, read, spa, whatever. It won't make it all better but it will make you feel good for at least a bit.

I'm sorry that you have to go through this. It sucks, plain and simple.

Mouseygail · June 2011

I'm so sorry sweetie

huge hugs to you! I hope that you get your closure soon!

kme930 · June 2011

Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry you are going through this. I don't have any advice, just (((hugs)))

PhillySue · June 2011

((Hugs)) I think this is part of the reason I am glad to have a D&C. I was just so ready for it to be over. At the same time I feel a little like a D&C is the easy way out and I should have just waited. Non of this is easy and it sucks : ( I hope that you are feeling better soon

Kiki11 · June 2011

(((hugs))) It does get more bearable. You're just in the thick of it right now when it hurts the most. Hang in there. I know it's tough

desabean · June 2011

It will get easier when it is physically "over"....but if your experience is like mine, it will get harder again when all the people who got pregnant right around the same time as you get close to delivering.

Hang in there!!

naflmj · June 2011

So sorry you are having to go through this (((HUGS))). Its hard at first but it gets easier. Once the physical symptoms passed, I felt a lot better not having to be reminded on a consistent basis. It is still hard some days but I know I'll get there with time. I know, for me, after I had a plan from WTF appt, I felt somewhat better. Hope you get some answers on Wednesday.

BRSaugust20 · June 2011

((HUGS)). I wouldn't have survived without the MC/Loss board. I felt like I was going crazy until I read other people's posts. It sucks but in time you will start to heal.

cheekyali · June 2011

Sorry you have to go through this

armywife76 · June 2011

Thanks, ladies. And PhillySue, you did not take the easy way out. Whatever way it ends, it's still just as painful. I'm so sorry for your loss.

perry7285 · June 2011

i haven't experienced a singleton m/c, so i can't tell you what to expect, but i just wanted to send hugs. i hope that things get easier soon.

jenwill · June 2011

I'm sorry for your loss. It will get easier, but right now you're in the midst of the worst part. I still have trouble sleeping but things are getting better. I don't have anything to say that will make it better, but know that their are are others who have been through this you can talk to. ((((HUGS))))

TandW · June 2011

I didn't have a chance yet to respond to your post, but please know that I am so sorry for your loss

<<<<HUGS!!!>>>>

itsmevkb · June 2011

It will get easier but it will never be easy. I'm a year past my second loss and I still feel sad sometimes about all that has happened. It's normal to be sad and angry and it's normal to grieve for a long time, even though some people will make you feel as though you should be over it.

Right now you're in a limbo where you've lost your baby and can't yet try for another one or don't feel as though the process is yet complete and that just makes it all the harder. I found having a plan for moving forward made me feel a bit better but I'll be honest, the fear of never getting pregnant again, or, getting pregnant again only to lose another baby was at times almost overwhelming.

It's hard and it just takes time so take all the time you need. Huge hugs to you.

mel72 · June 2011

I don't know that it gets easier but you learn to move on, even if it's one minute, one hour at at time. I think about our first baby and my DS's lost twin all of the time. I'm so sorry you are going through this.

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