We started mixing DD's bottles to transition to whole milk: 3 oz bm/2oz cow. She seems to take them okay - fine for daycare and DH, but now with me she will not take them and just wants to nurse. Doesn't help that my supply tanked when I had a stomach virus last weekend and hasn't fully returned. So she'll nurse and when I am empty I'll offer her a bottle mix and she'll try it and then want to go back to breast. I suppose I could just use all bm in a bottle from my stash - that is depleting mind you - and just give her all bm in a bottle to supplement my nursing. At night now after I nurse I have DH attempt a bottle which works sometimes and sometimes not - so she might be going hungry at bedtime. And now she is getting more aware, attempting to lift my shirt, point, etc. Her bowels are def looser but I feel like the only way she'll get use to it is to expose her to it. I don't feel like she is ready to wean given her actions, and honestly, emotionally I am not either, but my supply isn't helping me. If anyone has any words of wisdom I sure would appreciate it. I just needed to share my status to those that would understand.
Re: Weaning, Whole Milk and My Mentality
I probably don't have great advice for you. Audrey would never take a bottle from me, so I just stopped offering them. There was only two times that she needed to take a bottle from one of us due to a surgery and an overnight trip for me. Other than that, I exclusively nursed and she didn't want anything else from me.
At 11.5 months or so we started putting WCM in a sippy cup for her. Straight up. And she was fine with that, for the most part. I guess she didn't know to expect anything else.
At that same age, we were still nursing before each of her two naps, before bedtime, and first thing in the morning. So, four times a day or so. But, my supply was nothing like it used to be... especially after we started table food.
Nursing for us at that age was more about comfort (or a snack) than anything else. She was getting three meals a day and sippys of milk or water throughout the day.
So, I guess my only advice is to relax and continue nursing for now if you both are still enjoying it. You may not be her sole source of nutrition and your body understands and reacts w/ a dip in supply. I kept going this way until about 13.5 months when she just clearly didn't really care if she nursed or not. Kind of a natural wean. It was much harder on me than it was for her... so I totally get your feelings!
Hugs!
We struggled so much with the transition from BF to WCM, and I know how hard it can be. I started just as you did, at 11.5 months, and now at 18 months he is just now drinking WCM in good quantities from a cup (like 4-5 oz. at a time). He just wanted to nurse and was stubborn about it. On the advice of his pedi, we tried rice milk, almond milk, soy milk, chocolate/vanilla WCM, 1%, 2%, skim, and all sorts of mixtures of breastmilk/water/WCM. Warm milk, cold milk, you name it. In all kinds of sippy cups, in a bottle. From my DH, my mom, the babysitter. At playdates with friends who drank milk. He would drink a few sips of and bat the cup away. I thought he'd never drink cow's milk and I set out to meet his calcium needs with yogurt, cheese, etc. (it's possible to do that and many people do).
I don't have any advice, really, except to share my experiences and to say that the thing that finally caused my DS to drink WCM eagerly was finally weaning from BF at 18 months. A week after his last nursing, he started drinking the milk. This is not to say you should wean now (because I think it should be up to you and your baby completely, and if you are not ready, there's no reason 12 months needs to be the magic age). But I did want to tell you my experience in the hopes it will help your mindset to know that everything worked out with time for me. Good luck.
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