Would you force it?

firsttogo · June 2011

Nolan is SO anti pre-school. We have him signed up for a high school student run PS in the fall two days a week for two hours a day. He says he is NOT doing it whenever anyone asks! I can see him crying, and having a hard time when we start him.

The point? Our church is having a Vacation Bible school for a week for two hours a day. It is 5.00 for preschoolers total. So, would you "make" him go? I feel like it would be good for him to get some experience away from me in a familiar environment.

WDYT?

TheSkimmy · June 2011

I would- he really has no idea what preschool is. I really believe kids need time away from their parents to learn.

I'm putting Charlie in VBS for a week and I'm guessing he'll have like 10 rough minutes but after that he should have fun!

Just remember he'll be alive when you pick him up and he might have even had some fun!!!! Ours is $20 and I thought that was good!!

CHI-06 · June 2011

Would you make him go to preschool? Or the one week bible school?

Either way I guess that yes I would make him go...

I was so shy and scared of things when I was little and if my parents didn't push me I think I would have turned out very different. Although I remember getting mad at them for making me do things I didn't want to do I look back now and am so thankful that they did!

firsttogo · June 2011

He will be going to pre-school. I was more asking about VBS? I think I am making him go!!

sommerrayne · June 2011

I would talk to him and tell him that its important in life to try new things and that you will always protect him and would never put him in any situation you thought was bad. (or however he'll "hear" you). This camp (call it camp since he has some aversion to "preschool") is going to be so much fun! He will be going by himself but if he needs help, he can ask any teacher.

My daughter LOVES preschool and there are many days I pick her up and ask if she had fun and she says NO but its because she's tired, hungry, or just wanting to be contrarian.

Yes, I would make him go. I would also prep the teachers. If he asks to go home, I'd ask them to tell him, "If you still want to call your mom in 20 mins, we'll call, but right now lets focus on coloring" or whatever and push him off in a positive reinforcement way until the end of the day unless he's hell bent on calling you.

Just my 2 cents

KYRN · June 2011

I guess I would try to "make" him go for the first 2 days. If he still isn't into it. then I wouldn't force it.

dana316 · June 2011

I would. Caroline has gotten so much out of going to day school...and she's just a baby. I think he would get lots out of it, and get to experience life away from home and his siblings.

Go for it!

CMM05 · June 2011

Yes, I would make him go At his age, he should be more than ready.

Lots of kids have "rough" transitions and will cry at drop-off. Just drop-off and leave and he will be fine!!! I bet he will love it and it will get him ready for the fall

It is totally normal for him to still be upset at drop-off even after the first few weeks. my best friend's son will be 3 this July and started a MDO program in January. She was telling me the other day that he still has days where he cries at drop-off, but the teachers say he is fine after about 5 minutes or so.

GL!

dundasgirl · June 2011

I wouldn't. I guess I am in the minority, but I think if he really doesn't want to go, why push it right now? There are lots of other ways for him to get socialized away from the family.

Reed just started soccer and it has been great for him! And we go to a literacy program here that is like preschool but the parents stay.

My Mom used to look after a little boy who really wasn't ready for school. He wouldn't be able to sleep thinking about going. His mother (a teacher) kept him home an extra year and when he finally did go, it was great.

You do what you think it best for him!

CMM05 · June 2011

dundasgirl:
I wouldn't. I guess I am in the minority, but I think if he really doesn't want to go, why push it right now? There are lots of other ways for him to get socialized away from the family.
Reed just started soccer and it has been great for him! And we go to a literacy program here that is like preschool but the parents stay.
My Mom used to look after a little boy who really wasn't ready for school. He wouldn't be able to sleep thinking about going. His mother (a teacher) kept him home an extra year and when he finally did go, it was great.
You do what you think it best for him!

Just another thought......and this coming from a teacher

I would not force extracurricular stuff, but school to me, is a given.

If you don't send him this summer just because he is saying "no" (before he even gives it a chance...), you are only delaying the inevitable come Fall. He will go to preschool, so you should just get him used to it now. I would rather have my son a mess in the summer rather than in the Fall when he is going to "real" pre-school. Just my thoughts

And, BTW.....teachers deal with this all.the.time. Transitions (especially with younger kids....) are their specialty. Trust me. They know how to handle it and they will help him get used to it

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