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Feeling unloved ;)

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ok, not really, but apparently I struggle with change...

I went away on my first business trip last week...gone from DS for 3 days and 2 nights...  It went fabulously for DH and DS...they really bonded and its lovely to see (and honestly, I'm so happy that DH is finally being shown more affection from DS), but it does sting a little when DS leans out of my arms to reach for DH...

And I think that last night might have been the last time I'll ever nurse DS...I just don't have milk anymore...I gave him a bottle afterwards and he chugged the whole thing.  Its not fair to him to continue trying to nurse, and I don't want to jump through hoops to try and keep my supply up anymore...so...  sigh...

and he's been working a couple of top teeth through for the last week and a half, so he's been miserable and fussy...the first point finally poked through yesterday, so i'm hoping the end is in sight!  

 No point to this...I just needed to share...I AM really excited for the even stronger bond between DH and DS...but its just rough timing with the whole weaning thing. 

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  • mrsolsenk12mrsolsenk12
    That is rough when u are weaning. I will tell u that him having a bond with dh will be great (once you get used to it) so that you can have a break or can do something for you.
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    imagemrsolsenk12:
    That is rough when u are weaning. I will tell u that him having a bond with dh will be great (once you get used to it) so that you can have a break or can do something for you.
      yeah, i'm really trying to look at all of my new found freedom (both from not having to BF and pump and also that he is happy to spend time alone with DH now)...but its tough sometimes :)  I'm sure that within another week I will be fine :)

     

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  • supernedsuperned member

    I hear you on the conflicting feelings about weaning.  We were out on Saturday and DD nursed before we left and never asked the whole time we were out.  We were mostly outside or driving around so it would have been pretty inconvenient to nurse her...so I just didn't until we got home.  I was fine, she was fine, but it still made me a little sad.

    I hope you get a break from teething soon, and good luck with weaning.  You did an amazing thing for him by working so hard to nurse for so many months - great job mama!

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  • MBandBudMBandBud member

    Oh I totally here you!  It is like bf defines us for a while - we are the source, of nourishment, of love.  Well, I am trying to remember - we still are!!  I am still bf but my supply plummeted after being sick and hasn't come back fully.  The hard part is DD is still really wanting to nurse and is neglecting bottles from me (we are mixing whole milk and breast at this point) but will take from DH.  This morning she was having a rought morrning and I nursed her before she went to daycare; I had no more milk but she kept nursing.  Then it was time for her to go and so I distracted her to get her in her car seat and she was crying and pointing at my chest.  I felt so much guilt, for not having milk, for working, for not comforting her...ugh!!  Anyway I didn't mean to make this about me but wanted to share my empathy. 

    FWIW, I do think it is a good thing you gave a bottle; you have to.  But I also don't think that it would be wrong to nurse with no milk just for comfort.  Hang in there and know you are not alone!  Thanks for posting, it helps me on a rough day. 

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  • ladychicagoladychicago member
    Aww! (((hugs))). The timing does stink... Hang in there momma! Weaning is tough!
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    imageMBandBud:

    Oh I totally here you!  It is like bf defines us for a while - we are the source, of nourishment, of love.  Well, I am trying to remember - we still are!!  I am still bf but my supply plummeted after being sick and hasn't come back fully.  The hard part is DD is still really wanting to nurse and is neglecting bottles from me (we are mixing whole milk and breast at this point) but will take from DH.  This morning she was having a rought morrning and I nursed her before she went to daycare; I had no more milk but she kept nursing.  Then it was time for her to go and so I distracted her to get her in her car seat and she was crying and pointing at my chest.  I felt so much guilt, for not having milk, for working, for not comforting her...ugh!!  Anyway I didn't mean to make this about me but wanted to share my empathy. 

    FWIW, I do think it is a good thing you gave a bottle; you have to.  But I also don't think that it would be wrong to nurse with no milk just for comfort.  Hang in there and know you are not alone!  Thanks for posting, it helps me on a rough day. 

      that's it exactly!!  and I'm sorry that you have the added stress of her really wanting to nurse still!  DS hasn't seemed all that interested, so I'm trying to just let it go and remind myself that this is what I wanted, an "easy" weaning experience.  I dreaded having to tell him "no".  So..I guess I am getting what I wanted...so why does it still sting so much!?!
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    I love you... does that help? Stick out tongue
      you know what would help more?  If I was getting to play with you and the boys this weekend!  ***huffing away to pack my bags for the gtg****  Stick out tongue
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  • MBandBudMBandBud member

    imageMouseygail:
    I guess I am getting what I wanted...so why does it still sting so much!?!

    What we need to remember is that our relationship will continue to flourish with our child in much deeper meaningful ways than nursing.  Repeat with me "my child loves me for being a wonderful momma and not because of my breast".  Let me know when it works...I'm still not there yet!!

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  • OrangeSmokeOrangeSmoke member

    imageMouseygail:
    imageOrangeSmoke:
    I love you... does that help? Stick out tongue
      you know what would help more?  If I was getting to play with you and the boys this weekend!  ***huffing away to pack my bags for the gtg****  Stick out tongue

    Try not to be jealous, but I get to spend this weekend hanging with MIL's cousins at the race track. It's an annual event (belmont stakes) and grandma will be in full show off mode. 

    I shudder just thinking about it.  It'll be hot and sticky.  H&A are going to be major grumps and DIRTY!

     

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  • ALY1981ALY1981
    I'm sorry :(. I'd be a little sad too. Add weaning and id be a mess. I have a problem with sharing Henry, particularly with my MIL. :-/

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