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manda_mullins
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HUGE fight with my sister (vent)
manda_mullins
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She is a dumba$$. I was nagging her for not voting and she said she didn't "like" either candidate. I asked her which issues she didn't "like" and she said nothing. Then she said Sarah Palin was crazy and "uber-conservative." So I asked her what gave her that opinion, specifically. She just said "Have you heard her talk" and I said yes, and she replied "Well she's just crazy and conservative." I asked her again what specifically made her think that and she had NOTHING.
Seriously, don't just regurgitate what you've heard other people say if you can't even defend it! Obviously everyone has their own opinion, but it would be nice if she had HER own opinion and not someone else's. I hate when people try to argue about something without supporting their argument, I don't care which "side" you're on. She ended up hanging up on me!
She's just one of those girls whose personality changes depending on who she is dating. She dates a guy in a band, she decides to learn guitar. Next guy, she is suddenly a surfer. Apparently this guy cares about politics so she has to pretend that too.
I really worry for her and wish she could just be herself and not worry so much about trying to "get" a guy. If she'd date someone who liked her for who she is then she wouldn't go through guys like I go through underwear.
Okay sorry that's long and nonsensical. Anyone have any advice on how I could subtly help her out? She's my best friend and I love her to death but she exhausts our family with her love of drama!!!
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Re: HUGE fight with my sister (vent)
May I ask how old your sister is? She sounds alot like mine. She is only 20 and still into high school drama. I try to talk to her about maybe maturing but of course she always comes back with that she thinks that she is very mature for her age. If she is still pretty young there really isn't much advice I can give. It's just something that she is going to have to grow out of herself.
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Sometimes, the best advice is to give time, time. My little sister is 4 years younger than me and I have to remind myself what I was like at her age and how I thought I was sooooo right about everything..
Give her patience and time! She'll get there! You just love her and be the best big sis in the mean time!
Seems like if this boyfriend was into politics she should have voted. Or is the bf one of those guys who bitches and takes no action.
Does not bode well for the boyfriend, me thinks. Be prepared for upcoming break-up drama.
How old is she? If she is still young, I think you should still give her time to learn the "find someone who loves you for you" concept. I don't think it is something that you can teach her or insist she learn. Some people have problems differentiating between showing an interest in something that their significant other is involved in versus totally immersing yourself in them and forgetting about you. It takes time and experience to learn these life lessons. If that is the case, I think you should stay out of it and show her support.
The only time I would say that you should get involved is if she has a child that she is dragging with her in and out of these relationships (which it doesn't sound like, given your op). That type of constant change can be difficult for a young child and could be traumatic in the long run. In that case I would tell you to get your family involved and consider getting her some type of counseling.