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Reintroducing myself (kind of long)...

ruthie7532ruthie7532 member
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A couple of years ago I first came to this board, looking for information about adoption. DH and I had always said we would adopt someday, regardless of whether we had biological children.  I was starting to suspect we had fertility issues and was just looking for information.  Over the course of time I just got overwhelmed with all the possibilities, and we just never really felt a peace about starting the adoption process.  Since nothing was really happening, I kind of fell away from this board, although I do come back to lurk periodically.

Anyway, in the last 18 months I have had many close friends go through the adoption process, and I feel like I've been exposed vicariously to just about every possible situation ;-).  In January 2010, one set of friends started fostering 3 young children while at the same time kind of mentoring the parents, so that eventually they were able to help them meet the requirements of reunification. In August, another set of friends adopted a child from Taiwan after two years of waiting. In September, other friends adopted domestically after a couple of years of fertility treatments. In October we found out that our best friends, who dealt with infertility for several years but unlike us chose to undergo IUI and other treatments, decided to stop treatments and just take a break and had gotten pregnant without any intervention (sigh).  In April, our Bible study leader and her husband got matched with a birth mom who ultimately was proven to have been running an adoption scam under multiple different aliases. And in May my friends who had previously fostered were matched with a birth mom who chose to parent, and then shortly after matched with another mom who just gave birth on Thursday. During this time, a colleague at work who had been on the waiting list at a local adoption agency for several years tried embryo adoption a couple of times unsuccessfully.  When this didn't work, she and her husband were about ready to give up on their dream of children when just 3 days ago they were matched with a sibling set (ages 2 and 4) and are on their way to go get them.

It's interesting.  I've been to a dozen baby showers in the last few years and heard many more pregnancy announcements, with little more than the occasional twinge. But when I was in Target today buying gifts for my friends who are adopting this week, I could barely hold back the tears. I think it proves to me that my heart's desire is really adoption, and whatever was holding me back before seems to be falling away. I think DH has just been waiting on me to say "Let's do it now." 

So I'll be around more, and am looking forward to learning from and sharing with you ladies.  Cookies for you if you got this far! 

 

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