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advice from moms of 2-3 years old

jtbmommyjtbmommy
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ds is 22 mo and is very sweet and overall well behaved but he can get silly and disobey like all 2 year olds. If it is a cryaon he's eating or a toy he's throwing I take it away but I'm at a loss when I can't take the object away. Like climbing on the coffee table, running his hands over the slated door, running away when I need to dress him. Of course I tell him no and move him, but he finds me SO FUNNY. When I get firm and say no he laughs even harder. Is he old enough for time out?

ds 12/28/06

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Re: advice from moms of 2-3 years old

  • MrsJLKMrsJLK

    IMO, he's old enough.  We actually started timeouts somewhat around 16 months old, but DD was aware of what they were and they actually worked!  We do 1 minute timeouts but now that DD's two, I think we should be doing 2 minutes (1 minute for every age they are).

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  • bugmommybugmommy
    Yes - this is about when we started them.  Luckily at that age I only had to do it once or twice and then a warning usually worked (if you do X again, you will go to time out).  Now we seem to have to test this promise more frequently :(
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  • jtbmommyjtbmommy
    I had tried timeouts but he finds them hysterical. He run to his spot and sit there for 10 secondsif I say he'll need to have one. Any tios for getting him to stay there. Also, if he cries for the full 2 mintutes, does he get to play as soon as the time os over or wait till he's calm?
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  • JOEBunnyJOEBunny member
    We started time out at 14 months.  It worked well and I used it on a very limited basis, biting, hitting, kicking.  Now I use it for those same things and a few other "dangerous things".  DD started liking TV at 24 months, she gets 1 hour a day (3 shows).  She loses them if she doesn't behave.  This is the most effective method I have found. 
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  • yogaskiyogaski
    I agree, he is old enough for time outs.  The other thing that worked for me when my boys ran away from me, whether it was in the grocery store or in the house, was to say red light.  They thought it was a game and they would stop in their tracks and listen more closely to me. 
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  • JOEBunnyJOEBunny member
    I just saw your follow up question.  I don't care if she cries, I kind of prefer it, since I know she is upset.  I put her in the corner, if she comes out, I put her back again without a word or at most, "in the corner".  If you do this consistantly, most kids figure out that they have to stay there.
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  • JulieandBenJulieandBen member

    Jack did a lot of the things you are talking about. Especially the running away from me when it was time for a diaper or to get dressed. To him the game was on. He had such a nice time running away that I'd say it so he could get his play on. He'd giggle and take off running. I wouldn't get upset at that. I'd let him run and then come at him like a monster, tickle him, pick him up and head to his room. I don't know what I'm trying to say. I guess if you make things more about him and him having the control then you might get more cooperation. The climbing? Time out. How much does it really matter if he touches the door? I do time outs for things he can hurt himself on and things he might break if he messes with them. Like putting our blinds over his head so he can get inside them.

    We do a thinking seat. It can be anywhere at any time. We aren't limited to one chair. He gets it and understands. We do two minutes because he's two. I did 2mins at 22m since he was just about there. 

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  • shouldbeworkinshouldbeworkin
    Yep, he's old enough.  At that age, I buckled my DS in his booster seat.  Now he's old enough to stay sitting for TO.  I give one warning "if you do XYZ again, you will get a time out" and then I follow through if I need to.  One minute for each year.  Certain things, like hitting, are automatic time outs.
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  • Angela814Angela814 member
    That's when we started time outs, although they didn't work well until she was closer to 2yrs.  It didn't seem worth it to me to hold her in place while she struggled against me for 2 minutes.  I try hard to reserve time outs for only violent behavior, although I will occasionally give one when she's being very defient.
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