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traveling for baby shower and DH
My sisters are throwing a baby shower for us when I am 25 weeks in my hometown, which is about 600 miles away. DH and I don't know many people where we live, so it made the most sense. We are high risk also, and the MDs told me not to travel that far away in the 3rd trimester. So, now we are having an early shower far away.
We were discussing travel plans and DH asked if he should even go. He wants me to have "girl" time with my mom and sisters and friends to be excited about the baby and not have to worry about him being entertained.
What do you think?
He wouldn't go to the shower anyways, he would hang out with my Dad. Which is always a good time for both.
I am torn. I want him there, I guess more for support. I do want to run around and do girl things with my sisters and don't want him to be bored.
We were going to drive, but if I go myself then I would fly or see if maybe my SIL wants to go. If there are big gifts, I guess I could ship them back to our house.
Am I making this to complicated? I tend to over think and get overly emotional...
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Re: traveling for baby shower and DH
I would be concerned with bigger items and shipping them (the extra cost). I personally would have DH come with me and he could hang/ go golf with dad or fish while I am busy.
I flew at 27 weeks (no problems) and super easy, so I'd be tempted about that because I hate 6 hour + car rides ugh!
It's a toss up about how you feel about the gifts, I think!
I would go and I would drive but I like driving. Shipping big things can cost as much as the items themselves cost. We found this out at Christmas when my mother spent $60 to ship a $50 item due to the size and shape.
If you chose to fly then you can always have your family let others know that it may be best to have registry items shipped directly to your house. I know with my family they knew I was traveling (300 miles) so they did that and just printed out a picture of the item and put it in their cards.
Thanks ladies. You helped me feel better about this. I was thinking about putting a message on our registry with this suggestion since invites went out already.
My sister lived in NC when she had her first, she came up to MD for her shower. She flew up a few days before and then her DH drove up later to get everything home. (This was 10 years ago, when gas prices were much lower.)
It worked out to be the best of both worlds.
I'm doing a shower I have to fly to also (I just moved 2 months ago and know one one in Dallas)...as for shipping the items, I was really concerned about etiquette.
I feel like assuming gifts and asking people to give them to you a certain way is really tacky. But obviously it won't make sense to ship things like jumpers and swings. I'm not sure if I should just not register for stuff that wouldn't make sense to ship, but I was looking at a registry list and a TON of baby stuff is pretty big.
My BFF (who is throwing the shower) thought of mentioning the picture in the card idea for big items to guests as they RSVPed via phone. I thought that might be the best way to handle it?
I thought that too. Then I realized that I am more concerned about the big stuff than the small. And where we registered (amazon and target) there are free shipping options. So I don't feel too guilty about it. Although, I do feel somewhat gift assuming... but that is sort of what a shower is. I guess. I think I will fly and see if DH wants to drive himself and then both of us back. Good suggestion!
"I think I will fly and see if DH wants to drive himself and then both of us back. Good suggestion!"
This sounds like a good idea
Mind you, I also like to drive, but my thought is plan to drive both parts of the trip in two days and depending on how you feel on the drive, just go until the body says "time to shut 'er down for tonight" and get a hotel... Following your instincts will serve you well.
As for whether or not to leave the DH at home, that's up to you. Like a PP pointed out, do as much alone/me time stuff NOW before you have the kiddo because that's the type of stuff you'll miss later. OTOH, also spend some time with your DH as just the two of you since it'll be YEARS before it happens again..