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I have a big problem and I need advice

CeltiCutieCeltiCutie member
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We went to dinner tonight and ran into the parents of a little girl Addison goes to day care with. Her mother (who we'll call O) proceeded to tell me that when she arrived today to pick up her daughter, my DD was at the front of the driveway and DCP was around the back of the house. NOT EFFING COOL. Then when she walked my DD back to the back DCP casually said "where was she at the front of the driveway?" and O said "Umm ya." She said she was half tempted to put my DD in her car and drive up the road a ways and see how long it took for DCP to come frantically searching for her.... I told her she should've and if this happens again to and to call me. 

This is not the first time this has happened. When they were about a year old my DH arrived and my DD was about 20 feet away from DCP in the front yard close to the road. DH said she could've easily run out onto the road in front of his car, much quicker than DCP could've gotten up from the blanket she was sitting on w/ the other kids.

Seriously, what do I do? We are done w/ this DCP in 3 months when I have this baby, but my child's safety is obviously an issue here. Do I take her out and find alternate care for only a few short months? Do I tell DCP what I've been told and threaten to call the state (she isn't licensed)? Like I have NO clue what recourse there is there, but just putting it out there...

 

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  • mrs.a.butlermrs.a.butler

    I would look for an alternative temporary dcp for her.  

    I think since she isn't licensed the state can't do anything.  But I would also let the other parents know what you are taking her out.  

    It makes me wonder how often it has happened.  

    I would watch her if I was closer :( 

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  • Lotte134Lotte134
    It stinks but I would look for something else as well.  Since it's summer maybe you can find a college student to nanny for the next few months since you just need something short term. 
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  • smurfetteinredsmurfetteinred
    Ditto the above. I'd try to find someone else. That's serious stuff. I mean, not only could she have run out into the street and gotten hit but she could have just turned and kept walking until she was really lost or someone could have nabbed her. I think I'm more bothered by her attitude then by the fact that it happened (although most bothered by it being a reoccurring issue). As parents, I think we all know that kids can get away from you in a millisecond and while I would expect extra vigilance on the part of a dcp, it would infuriate me that she wasn't even looking for her nor cared that she was found in her driveway by the street.
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  • papagenapapagena member
    Ditto pp's.  :( 
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  • GenevievedGenevieved

    I would take her out for sure.  Somethings can be overlooked that isn't one of them.

    Sorry you have to deal with this!

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  • sophabellesophabelle

    ditto what everyone else has said. 

    i would get her out of there asap. 

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  • danaann78danaann78
    Another vote for "get her out".  DD's safety is the most important thing.  And I would call the state and report her, personally.
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  • greengirl0909greengirl0909 member
    Depending on the state, even if they aren't licensed they might be still monitored by the state. I'd call and report it. Even if you get a safer environment for your LO, don't you worry about the care she's providing for others? The state may issue a fine, but will provide some education.
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  • CeltiCutieCeltiCutie member

    imageguppysown@yahoo.com:
    Depending on the state, even if they aren't licensed they might be still monitored by the state. I'd call and report it. Even if you get a safer environment for your LO, don't you worry about the care she's providing for others? The state may issue a fine, but will provide some education.

     

    Yes exactly my thought! The one mother obviously sees it and she is already seeking alternate care (and may be having her daughter come with me in January actually) but I worry about the other parents and children...

     

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  • JennicapJennicap member
    I would find another DCP if you can, I wouldn't feel safe leaving her in her care anymore. Underestimating a childs ability to run is one thing... stupid on the DCP's part but you can see HOW this could happen but totally not having her in view and saying "is she around front" like its a common occurance is the HUGE RED FLAG in my book!

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  • IfferMarieIfferMarie member
    Yep. Get her her out asap. You dont want the next time to be the last time because LO gets hurt or killed. There is no room for chances here.
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  • njh514njh514 member
    Sorry. I agree with the others that safety is most important and that you can't continue if that's at all a possibility. My friend has had some great luck using care.com. I agree with the person who said it might be a good time to find some college kids who want temporary work. Good luck and I hope this all works out. That's kind of scary and her attitude is really sad. I would hope that she would treat my child with the same love and concern that I would.
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