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1st Trimester
2nd Time Mom's: What have you loved vs. not so much?
Since we've been down this road before and know what to expect when our LO's come, I am remembering all the things that I loved about a baby vs. things I am not looking forward to as much.
Here's what I cannot wait for:
* I cannot WAIT for that moment when you see LO after delivery. It is sooo beautiful!
* The first time they look at you and recognize you.
* The first smile, or the first laugh...Ohh! I can't wait.
* Many, many, many other things...
Here's what I am dreading:
* When LO starts teething. It is awful to see your baby going through that. My DD had a rough go with teething and I hated seeing her in so much pain.
* Going back to work after maternity leave ends. I think my heart will honestly break having to leave two kiddos. We have a wonderful nanny...but I am still dreading it!!
* Let's be honest: those sleepless nights are horrible!
What about you Ladies?!?
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Re: 2nd Time Mom's: What have you loved vs. not so much?
I cannot wait for the labor and birth, I was thinking about it yesterday. It's such a beautiful, exhilarating experience!
Nursing! I stopped nursing DS a month and a half ago and miss it so much, cannot wait to snuggle up with a newborn, smell their sweet smell and nurse
To hear their voice and when they start forming words
DS could not keep milk down, he was always spitting it all up, really hoping this one can keep it down
Yes... those sleepless nights! But this time around I'm going to have to have lots of energy the next day to run around after an almost 3 year old!
Things I can't wait for:
*Holding him/her for the first time, and being in the hospital with him/her...while you are still on meds and everyone is waiting on you and you don't have any responsibilities yet. lol I was so in love with my newborn baby, it was amazing.
*Getting another shot at breastfeeding. What an amazing experience.
*The day he/she turns 10 months. lol Maybe not exactly 10 months, but old enough to reach for me, say my name, and prefer me to anyone else. Basically the time that there are rewards other than just knowing I have a baby.
Things I'm dreading:
*How hard breastfeeding is. Why does no one really tell you this? It is SO HARD and I can't imagine how hard it will be with my 25 month old DD running around.
*Reflux - please let me avoid that this time!
*Freaking out about SIDS every single second that she's asleep.
*Recovery from childbirth and childbirth in general. I had a horrendous experience with my first. 3 hours of pushing with no meds after being induced and a 4th degree tear that got infected...I was on heavy painkillers for 3 months and went through major withdrawal when I stopped, excruciating pain, had to get total reconstructive surgery when she was 12 weeks, was told I would never heal, then I didn't heal till she was 14 months old, my self esteem was in the trash, it was a horrible nightmare. I'll have a C section this time and that sounds like pure heaven. But I still wish I could skip it, it isn't going to be fun. I never realized until I had a bad experience how many people do, in real life and on the bump. People with bad experiences just don't tend to talk about them. I wish I had been more prepared.
*Honestly, ages 3 weeks-10 months. I'd skip the infant stage if I could. They are just so. much. work. and they don't do much. When they start saying "mama" and running to you and gripping on tight and showing you that they actually know who you are, those are the magic moments to me. Having an infant is HARD without nearly enough reward. If I could pop out kids who were 10 months old I'd have 10 kids. As it is, I'm lucky I considered 2. When she was an infant we were both positive we'd never have more kids. Maybe this time without all my surgical complications it will be easier!
We didn't really experience sleepless nights. Allie started sleeping 15+ hours a night when she was 7 weeks old. And before that DH and I were both home so it wasn't a big deal.
Having a toddler, even with some tantrums, is so amazing. I love hearing her sweet voice and communicating with her and watching her dance and giggle and playing games with her. I love taking her to the playground and buying her new shoes and snuggling with her while watching cartoons in the morning. I love how she strokes my hair when she's tired or just wants comfort and how she yells "Mama!" and runs to me from across the room like she hasn't seen me in years. She is so amazing. I wish I could just fast forward the next baby to this age!
Looking forward to:
Labor & delivery...honestly! I'm not looking forward to the pain but I am so excited to do it again and order my hypnobirthing course!
Seeing the baby (of course!) and picking a great name out.
All the newborn cuddles, the smells, the soft skin, etc..
Breastfeeding- it was really hard in the beginning (like, for 3 months!) but I am honestly looking forward to doing it again once we get over the initial bumps.
seeing my belly get beautiful and round, feeling baby move
seeing what a great big brother my little boy will be. He already is kissing the belly and saying, "HI!"
Not looking forward to:
Sleepless nights. DS didn't "sleep through the night" consistently till he was 10 months old. At one point he was up every 1.5 hours
Horomones. DH & I had a really rough time after baby was born and I think partly had to do wtih how moodly and irritable I was. It was really hard on our marriage. I'm hoping things go better this time around!
making the big choice of choosing provider. Either I'll go back to my mw who delivered DS or I'll stay with my doctor. There are pluses and minuses to both options. I just hate having to decide because it is such a huge decision for me.
I think that's it! Lol, I'm sure I'll think of more.
Loss #6 2014 Loss #7 (chemical) 2014
~DS Born! 2009~
~DD Born! 2013~
Looking forward to:
Feeling the baby move
Labor and delivery. It's such a special moment! Holding them for the first time, having family meet the baby....Can't wait.
DS being a big brother - I know he's going to be so sweet!
Breastfeeding - love the bond!
Maternity Leave and spending time with both kids
Not looking forward to:
Hormones and mood swings
Having to go back to work
Losing the baby weight...it felt like it took so long this last time..hoping I learned a thing or two and will lose it quicker this time around.
Looking forward to:
Labor and delivery! I can't wait to start hypnobabies and find my doula and be successful with a natural childbirth. I had a planned epi with DS but I want to do things differently this time around.
Seeing and holding my baby for the first time.
Seeing my DS react to the baby. I truly believe he's going to be a great big brother, he LOVES other kids and babies.
Snuggling and breastfeeding a newborn. I'm actually worrying about the fact that it will be a brand new baby, they have been all DS's for the last 14 months so I'm afraid it will be weird, although in my heart I know it will just come naturally.
Dreading:
Pumping and pumping and pumping and pumping..and washing pump parts and washing pump parts and washing pump parts.. ahh I'm still doing it to this day and I'm sad I won't have much of a break from it before I start again.
Getting up every 30 minutes to an hour to nurse. DS still wakes up once or twice a night so I can count on one hand how many times I've slept a full night in the last 14 months.
Worrying about SIDS.
The stress of starting solid foods for a new baby..I honestly hated that phase, it was just so much easier to nurse than to make baby food and thaw baby food and watch 80% of all that hard work get spit out onto the tray or not even make it in the little mouth! Boo!
Having to go back to work and leave my babies! It will be doubly hard this time for sure!
There are more things for both sections but these are my main!
Question- have you heard much difference between hypnobirthing and hypnobabies? I obviously need to do more research because I'm not sure which I'd like to do or if there's much of a difference. I had a med-free birth last time but I want more prep this time around and I've heard great things about both! I'm just going to order the home study course and cds. Let me know if you have any more info about either
Oh, and I agree about the pumping and cleaning pump stuff- not looking forward to that!
Loss #6 2014 Loss #7 (chemical) 2014
~DS Born! 2009~
~DD Born! 2013~
I just wanted to say that I had a similar experience with my first delivery. I narrowly missed having reconstructive surgery but still have after effects from what I went through. I ended up with a c-section with my second. It was night and day for me. The recovery was SO much easier than what I went through with my vaginal delivery. I was in the hospital for 4 days with my vaginal and less than 48 hours with my c-section. As long as you start walking when you're allowed to (and as often as you can) and ask for gas x when you start getting gas pains in your shoulders, you might find that it's a lot easier on you too. Good luck!
Here's what I cannot wait for:
- Seeing the baby for the first time
- The first smile, rollover, etc. Milestones are so fun
- That new baby scent
- All the cuddling and holding
Here's what I am dreading:
- Waking up multiple times a night. DD has been sleeping 12-14hrs since 5 months, so I've gotten spoiled.
- Going back to work after maternity leave ends.
- My post baby body , droopy boobs and floppy stomach.