How many kids do you want?

roundtheworldgirl · June 2011

I'm just curious.

We don't really know. Well, I don't know. Before we started having kids, I thought I wanted at least four. But DD1 was a tough baby and is still a handful, and honestly, if we hadn't gotten pg (unplanned) with DD2, I think we'd still just have one child with no plans for a second.

DH wants at least three kids if not four, and would be ready to TTC right now if I were. Part of me wants to be done because things have just gotten easier and I am not sure I can handle another. But part of me wants to get pg again right now because they're so cute together and how nice would it be to give them another close-in-age playmate, you know?

What about you?

beyoga · June 2011

We wanted one. We were older when we had ds (I was 36 and he was 37). DS is now 8 months actual and 4 1/2 adjusted (24 week preemie) and I am pregnant with dd (accidental pregnancy). She is due in October.

So I'll be having a baptism by fire so to speak, I keep telling myself in a few years it will be nice to have them close in age.

jgoo · June 2011

We both wanted & agreed to 2. When we had #1, we started talking about maybe 3. When #2 came so close, we went back to 2, lol.

kcisthebombdotcom · June 2011

I'm really conflicted about this. Ideally, I wanted to have a 3rd when DS was 3.5/DD was 2.5 to get a break, but have them all be pretty close in age. DH wants another one sooner to get it out of the way. After seeing my 5 year old niece and 1.5 year old play, I just didnt like the way they interacted and it ruined my dream vision of the 3 of them being able to play together. I think that the older 2 would be at the same level and be able to play together and the 3rd one would kind of get left out. However, I am not ready physically/mentally/emotionally to have another child anytime soon, so I'm starting to lean towards only 2.

AB&TB · June 2011

5

Raffes484 · June 2011

This one is our 3rd and our last, I'll be having my tubes tied to make sure of it. I've always wanted 3 or 4, DH wanted 2. When we got married when agreed to 2, with the possibility of a 3rd and here we are!

ktsnshn · June 2011

2 or 3. We will see how it goes when #2 arrives!

lkf041 · June 2011

We'd like 4 but aren't stuck to that number. If after the 3rd we feel our family is complete we'll be done, but if not we'll go for the 4th.

mayowife · June 2011

Just recently I realized I'd love to have six children. That's certainly not going to happen though.

We couldn't financially provide for that many children the way we'd want to. Plus, I've already had two c-sections and I'm pretty sure I wouldn't get the go-ahead from my OB four more times.

So, in reality I'd love to have four children. DH wants a third child, but would like to move first. He's open to the idea of a fourth child. We'll have to see how it goes!

I'm not sure if I'd prefer to have all of my children close in age or if I'd like to do wait until these two start kindergarten and then do 2u2 again.

MammaBear81 · June 2011

We want a big family, 4 was the number we agreed on, with the understanding that we would take in one child at a time. If either of us felt we should stop before then we would be OK with that. Things have went well for us and now we are on #5!

earthboundmisfit · June 2011

Neither of us feels done so I think we'll end up with 3. Stopping at 2 is very tempting though, since DD2 is JUST getting out of being difficult. I don't think we'll have #3 for a few years though..we're both kinda burnt out at this point.

If we have a #3 that is definetely it. We have never discussed having more and I would be inclined to get my tubes tied ASAP after #3!

shortstuff15 · June 2011

We are planning for 6, but likely I won't have 6 biological children. We are hoping to adopt at least one, probably 2, so it'll likely be 4 biological and 2 adopted to create our 6.

caymanbride · June 2011

This is something I struggle with daily. Somedays I want just the 2 I have, somedays 3, and somedays 4. So, I'm stuck between 2-4. DH is pretty open to whatever I want to do. If I had to guess, I'd say we'd end up with 3, but we'll see! I'm happy right now with just my 2 boys, but I don't think I feel done.

ayram · June 2011

4 and we're done. Officially.

sweetpea2003 · June 2011

RIght now I am content with the two I have.

MAYBE. maybe we will have a third one day. But it would have to happen without fertility treatments and within a certain timeframe. My husband is deployed right now and I figure we will make a decision on a third when he gets home this winter. With his job I am alone a lot so I'm just not sure three kids are good for my sanity .

CrystalDaun · June 2011

We want 3. I posted above, we just lost actually. So we plan to try again in the fall. I do love how cute DS & DD are together and we have always wanted a kind of big family.

MAMAxB · June 2011

Before my DH and I were even engaged we knew we wanted 5.

He's from a big family & loved it - I'm from a small family and hated it

We say 5 but if God provides.. we'll see what happens! 6.. 7.. 8..

Here we go!

runnergirl79 · June 2011

Three. There are times I think we could add a fourth in 2-3 years, but mostly I think I am good with stopping at 3.

mrskelly731 · June 2011

DH and I would love a big family. I say 4, he say 6 lol who knows, after #2 we may change our minds! (we are TTC starting in Sept when DD is 9 months old)

CaitlinJ22 · June 2011

KC_13:
I'm really conflicted about this. Ideally, I wanted to have a 3rd when DS was 3.5/DD was 2.5 to get a break, but have them all be pretty close in age. DH wants another one sooner to get it out of the way. After seeing my 5 year old niece and 1.5 year old play, I just didnt like the way they interacted and it ruined my dream vision of the 3 of them being able to play together. I think that the older 2 would be at the same level and be able to play together and the 3rd one would kind of get left out. However, I am not ready physically/mentally/emotionally to have another child anytime soon, so I'm starting to lean towards only 2.

I thought I'd give you a little view of my nieces...they are 7, 4 and almost 2. The oldest was 5 when the third was born. She was great with the little on as a baby and still is. I think you can't look at one 5 year old and think that will be the way your kids will be. I think since your two kids are used to sharing, the baby will be easier for them to deal with. just my two cents.

CaitlinJ22 · June 2011

We want more, possibly 4, but we'll start with #3. We will TTC in sept, so DD and #3 will be at least 2 years apart. DH works offshore so it will be hard alone for 3 wks with three kids...but i adjusted to having two 18 months apart on my own...I know I can do it.

Somedays I considering waiting longer and then doing two under 2 again. We'll see. I don't feel done, and neither does DH. I look down the road and want them to have big thanksgivings and bday parties, and when we are not around anymore I want them to have great friends and siblings to lean on.

kcisthebombdotcom · June 2011

CaitlinJ22:

KC_13:
I'm really conflicted about this. Ideally, I wanted to have a 3rd when DS was 3.5/DD was 2.5 to get a break, but have them all be pretty close in age. DH wants another one sooner to get it out of the way. After seeing my 5 year old niece and 1.5 year old play, I just didnt like the way they interacted and it ruined my dream vision of the 3 of them being able to play together. I think that the older 2 would be at the same level and be able to play together and the 3rd one would kind of get left out. However, I am not ready physically/mentally/emotionally to have another child anytime soon, so I'm starting to lean towards only 2.

I thought I'd give you a little view of my nieces...they are 7, 4 and almost 2. The oldest was 5 when the third was born. She was great with the little on as a baby and still is. I think you can't look at one 5 year old and think that will be the way your kids will be. I think since your two kids are used to sharing, the baby will be easier for them to deal with. just my two cents.

I keep trying to tell myself it's just my niece and not indicative of all sibling relationships, but I can't get the imagine of my 2u2 being so close and a 3rd behind them that feels left out.

Justwanting1 · June 2011

2 and done! After years of trying with the first and our surprise with the second, we are blessed and done.

katie052409 · June 2011

mayowife:

Just recently I realized I'd love to have six children. That's certainly not going to happen though.

We couldn't financially provide for that many children the way we'd want to. Plus, I've already had two c-sections and I'm pretty sure I wouldn't get the go-ahead from my OB four more times.

So, in reality I'd love to have four children. DH wants a third child, but would like to move first. He's open to the idea of a fourth child. We'll have to see how it goes!

I'm not sure if I'd prefer to have all of my children close in age or if I'd like to do wait until these two start kindergarten and then do 2u2 again.

MayoWife, I share a lot of your thoughts. I am having a 2nd c-section for this one and was concerned about the "limitations" as far as pregnancies, but my OB said he just did # 5 & #6 on women this year (not saying its for everyone and it all depends on what your body can handle) but it gave me hope. I think we can confidently say we want 4. I plan to take a few years off after this one and then try for another set of 2U2.

Lambie. · June 2011

I am open to a third but I don't know where we would put them, which is kind of sad in a 5 bedroom house. It would involve putting kids in first floor bedrooms with everyone else upstairs. Also, DH is older and I don't think he is good with the idea of new/extra kids at 50 and I don't want another very soon. It may just be two for us. I guess we will see.

CaitlinJ22 · June 2011

KC_13:
CaitlinJ22:

KC_13:
I'm really conflicted about this. Ideally, I wanted to have a 3rd when DS was 3.5/DD was 2.5 to get a break, but have them all be pretty close in age. DH wants another one sooner to get it out of the way. After seeing my 5 year old niece and 1.5 year old play, I just didnt like the way they interacted and it ruined my dream vision of the 3 of them being able to play together. I think that the older 2 would be at the same level and be able to play together and the 3rd one would kind of get left out. However, I am not ready physically/mentally/emotionally to have another child anytime soon, so I'm starting to lean towards only 2.
I thought I'd give you a little view of my nieces...they are 7, 4 and almost 2. The oldest was 5 when the third was born. She was great with the little on as a baby and still is. I think you can't look at one 5 year old and think that will be the way your kids will be. I think since your two kids are used to sharing, the baby will be easier for them to deal with. just my two cents.
I keep trying to tell myself it's just my niece and not indicative of all sibling relationships, but I can't get the imagine of my 2u2 being so close and a 3rd behind them that feels left out.

I know, I feel the same about waiting too. Im sure it will all work out the way its supposed to

erinb31 · June 2011

3 or 4. We won't be trying again until our little one is at least 2, but probably more like 3 or 4.

BFab11 · June 2011

I'd like 3 (I think), DH is done after this one. He wants to get snipped after #2 is born, but I still have time to work on him

PhilsWife07 · June 2011

Three or four. We are going to wait until DS2 is two to TTC #3 though. If we have a fourth, I might want to have him/her closer in age to DC #3, the way DS1 and DS2 are close together in age.

Arielle27 · June 2011

We want three... I think. We are definitely ready for #2 now, and once we have our hands full with two, we'll figure out how many more we can handle!

moonfaerie · June 2011

A year ago, I thought I wanted at least three, but maybe four. Now, I too am on the fence about being done with two, or going for one more. DH feels complete with our two, but could go for a third, just not as soon as we went for #2. This decision is hard for me - I hate being pg, and things are balanced right now with one adult per kid, and we'll have more discretionary income if we stick with two. But I love having two siblings, and wished for more as I was growing up, so I want my children to have the blessing of multiple siblings, plus I just adore babies and don't feel quite complete yet.

I have PCOs and endometriosis and had fertility issues prior to my kids, so if I had trouble conceiving I would still feel very lucky to have two healthy kids. But right now, I don't feel quite complete. Maybe as time goes on, I will grow to feel more complete as a family of four. I'm trying to not think about it too much right now and want to enjoy the summer wth my two girls, then re-visit what I want for our family in the fall.

lrrb · June 2011

Looks like Ill be having 4.....haha. We did want 3...

thomas&lynn · June 2011

When we talked about it before getting married, DH wanted 3 and I wanted only 1. Once DD was about 9/10mos I decided I definitely wanted 2 and we started TTC shortly thereafter and got pregnant with twins. We lost one of the twins super early on but in the short time we 'had' him or her, I realized I was just not ready for 3. So we have our two and are quite content. DH does like to throw around the 'what ifs' a lot and that drives me nuts because while I doubt we'll ever go for #3, the emotions are still there to want another....

Plus, I'm 36 and just kinda want to be done. Also, DH works a ton so I'm on my own pretty much with them day in and day out.

seximami2011 · June 2011

5-7! I have NO sisters or brothers so I grew up alone...just me and my Mom. I've always wanted sisters and brothers so I could have a big family....I have a 1 year old and DS #2 is due any day now...I know for sure I won't be trying for #3 anytime soon...I want DS #2 to be at least 2 1/2 before we try for another one. Neither of my children were planned but the rest will be. At first my DH said he wanted as many as God gave us but now he is not so sure...lol....But we have agreed on at least 5. Plus I am only 22 so I have time to think and plan. As far as expenses go believe it or not I prepare really early for things so money has not been an issue yet...I'm sure the more our family grows it will get harder but I look for deals all the time. I have had had pamper parties (everyone just brings boxes or diapers sizes NB-3) for both my boys plus baby showers....and as soon as i found out I was pregnant I started saving money...The first 4 months of my oldest sons life I didnt buy anything...I breastfed and I already had enough diapers to last that whole 4 months and I was still saving money so when I needed to buy something it was no big deal (just a thought for anyone stopping the baby train because of money issues) Planning and saving makes things much easier.

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