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adrielegorburu
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Add these to the list of what not to say....
adrielegorburu
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in Preemies
to a preemie mom!!!
"You dont look like you were even pregnant" (to a FT mom great - I get to respond "because I was hardly pregnant when my daughter was born")
"You got lucky because you never got stretch marks, etc. etc." (I would have given my left tit to carry FT"
"Having your baby in the NICU is like full time baby sitting by nurses - you must be going out a lot" (seriously?????)
"Isnt your baby better by now? It seems like shes been in the hospital forever" (well seeing as she should still be inside me...)
"Well at least you get two vacations out of it" (if you count the 8 weeks I spent next to her isolette praying she would make it while recovering from a csection a vacation - and when she comes home thats also not vacation)
"get your sleep now" and all the other annoying things people say
And here are some stupid quetions....
"can she come home on the weekends?" (yeah - sure its just like a boarding school)
"do you let your husband carry her?" (no - even though shes his daughter I will not let him carry her)
"is she retarded?" (this was my favorite)
MORAL OF THIS POST - I will no longer attend meetings in my office because I work with insensitive and dumb people!!!!
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Re: Add these to the list of what not to say....
July 10, 2011 - I think were going to have a full term party for Madi that day - It will keep me from getting sad I think
Yikes! I am dreading going back to work and dealing with the prying questions...
2 people have made comments and said retarded in them. WTF people. Use your filter!
We'll miss you sweet Debbie Girl (4.21.12) and sweet Cindy Girl (8.9.12)
some of my coworkers have been wonderful - but all in all I cant wait for DD to get discharged so I can take my "second vacation" - I know its hard for people to understand because they havent been in the situation but today I dont have the patience for it at all! I'm just tired.... and tired of people talking without thinking.
Aw honey! I'm so sorry that you have to hear this crap. I know I heard a lot of people say get your sleep. How the HELL am I suppose to sleep when all I do is think about my baby? I cried a lot and nothing anyone said really helped.
When people make stupid ass comments like this, all I wanted to do was *** slap them.
I think the worst for me was when my boss use try to show me up? Well my grandDD spent 6 weeks in the house and was smaller then A and she is completely fine. You know what I don't want your stories or your advice, because EVERY CHILD IS DIFFERENT!
I'm so sorry. As usual, Boston is totally right, people don't get it and it's usually not mean-spirited, just ignorant. I hated it when people would tell me "well they are where they need to be right now" I just wanted to scream "No, they need to be inside me, if I could pack them up and put them back in I would!"
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your new siggy pic btw)
The only things that have been said to me is the 'I can't believe you had triplets you look great' and 'get your sleep now'. They don't bother me because I was measuring 9 months when I had them and the only reason I was all babies was because of my stupid gallbladder attack and because Im so tired when I get one I am able to sleep which Is shocking to me since I don't think about anything else but them.
I'm sorry people around you are so insensitive.