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jfenyes
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Frustrated with my MIL
jfenyes
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My MIL has been a great help to us since I've been working. She comes every morning at 6:30 and stays until our babysitter comes to pick DD up at 8:30. But yesterday when I was picking my daughter up from babysitter, she told me that my MIL has my DD outside every morning without a jacket on. My DD has had a really bad cold for the last week or so and we can't get it to go away. She said every morning when she puts her into her car, DD is freezing ice cold. I just don't understand why my MIL wouldn't put warm clothing on her when it's 54 outside? So DH talked to her last night and she claims that they aren't outside for very long. DH told her that especially while we are trying to get her cold to go away, we would like her to stay inside the house. MIL then proceeded to say that they HAVE to go outside every morning or else DD will be upset with her. Ok, so she is just going to need to be upset with you because I don't want her to be freezing every morning. Anyways, this morning MIL was telling me that they just have to go outside because it's part of their routine and she doesn't want to tell DD no. Well I'm telling you no, and I'm her parent. But she's still not going to listen to me. Anyways, I know it probably sounds really silly, but I'm just really fed up with me and DH saying what's ok and what's not ok and her and FIL not respecting it. Vent over.
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Re: Frustrated with my MIL
That really sucks. I hate it when parents/IL's think they know better than you do.
Could you compromise with her and just have her make sure your DD has a jacket on? Maybe you pick a warm one out for her to wear, and MIL puts it on?
I would get fired up about stuff like that with the ILs, but it's more because it's THEM. If my mom did the same thing, I'd cut her some slack, so I have to remind myself of that too...
Good Luck!
As much as you probably don't want to hear this - I don't think a few minutes outside is going to hurt your daughter. Many people who live in colder countries will take their children outside in the cold weather to help them either not get a cold or to get over a cold. I can say that when I'm congested and go outside, things seem to move out of my nose and lungs better the colder it is. People tend to get more sick in the winter because everyone is inside and sharing germs.
That being said, I think this is more of a MIL not listening to your wishes then anything about DD being outside. Can you compromise and agree that DD needs a jacket, hat and gloves on when she goes outside?
Good luck, its frusterating but she really is helping you out a lot.
Haha - I think you're right! I've said many times that my life would be one hell of a lot easier if they'd just move back to Poland where they came from! I'm really not sure how you deal with seeing your MIL every day!