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s/o deliver room and MILS
When I first found out I was pregnant I told my mom and sisters that they could be in the delivery room if they wanted, as long as they didnt look down at my va-jayjay. My sister mentioned it in front of the MIL and then I felt like I had to invite the MIL in the room. My MIL is ultra sensitive if she knew my mom was in there and she wasnt she would be "hurt". She was mad that my mom knew I was pregnant first, but it didnt count that she knew DH and I were pregnant with DS first. I just dont think I would feel comfortable with the MIL in the delivery room and I know if I told her no she is going to cry then try to make me feel guilty until she gets her way (seriously, shes like that) DH has more balls to stand up to her then I do. I hate being mean. WWYD?
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Re: s/o deliver room and MILS
Make DH tell her - it's his mom afterall.
I think it's totally up to you as it's your body. My MIL sure as hell won't be in the room - even if my mother were alive and there.
When DD was born, I would have been fine with my MIL being in the room if my mom had stayed (but they both waited in the waiting room). This time around, I'd let my mom in if DH would let her (I know I didn't care that she was there last time until I was ready to push) but I would NOT let MIL in the room.
Have you already invited your MIL into the room? If so, it might be kind of hard to tell her no without saying no to your mom and sisters. But, if you haven't invited her, just say that you only want a couple of people in the room, and you want the people who will support you the most. Seeing as they have known you longer than your MIL, they have more "right" to be there than she does.
Good luck!
Delivery is your time - you should be completely comfortable. You are not obligated to MIL.
I would have DH talk to his mom and tell her that you would be more comfortable if she was not in the delivery room. Really it's what you want you are the one that is having the baby coming out of your v-jay-jay.
Me personally, I told MIL that she is more than welcome to be in there. She doesn't have any daughters and all of her deliveries were c/s. Plus I am close to her and I would like to experience her granddaughter being born.
2 angel babies to watch over us- bfp 3/16/13, c/p 3/27/13- bfp 6/27/13, c/p confirmed 7/4/13- We will always carry you in our hearts
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I don't even want my ILs visiting me in the hospital after the baby's born and I am close to them. I will be BFing and don't want them there while I have no top on and am bleeding like a stuck pig not even wearing my own underwear...
SIL said no visitors when her DS#2 was born, so I feel like I am justified. DH feels like we should let them visit, but I prefer to wait until we get home, so at least I can go into another room for privacy!
FWIW, my mother would not be invited into the delivery room either if she was local. It's going to be just DH and I.